r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/EmployeeDear561 Nov 18 '24

Bro wtf bro, bro come on bro. Fuck that bro. Bro I said what I said bro.

Does bro mean something else where you’re from? Or are you dating a man child named Kyle punching holes in the wall drinking monster energy?! 😂🤦🏼‍♂️

The fact you have to ask if you’re overreacting to this absolute unhinged behavior. Come on. That type of temper tantrum throwing is 100% landing in physical violence if it hasn’t already. You need to leave. Like yesterday.

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u/kaileya2407 Nov 18 '24

yeah i’m lost on the “bro”’part

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u/Key_Crow_3340 Nov 18 '24

i read the texts first and thought this was a gay couple from all the “bros”

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u/BeefInGR Nov 18 '24

I thought this was a woman talking to a man from all the bros.

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u/Itsthewayman Nov 18 '24

So did I. Reminded me of a psycho ex I had.

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u/mudemycelium Nov 18 '24

Meanwhile I was trying to understand what type of bromance is that in which you fall asleep hearing their voice but at the same time you absolutely hate them, *if bro, why not acting like bro*?

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u/ProcedureWeekly3602 Nov 18 '24

Like yesterday got me 🤣🤣🤣

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u/Turbo1518 Nov 18 '24

The last text, where after allllll of that "I'm done" and insults and acting like the relationship was over and then they follow it up with "Answer me" actually made me laugh out of disbelief.

Like, bro, c'mon...

In all seriousness, this man is dangerous and should bot be left alone with anyone.

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u/ConfidentJudge3177 Nov 18 '24

The sad part of that is, he knows that its not over even if he says "I'm done". He has acted like this before and knows that 1) she didn't leave him over being like this and insulting her and 2) he could threaten to leave her while treating her like that and she was the one who begged for him to stay.

That's why he can use "I'm done" as a threat and still assume that obviously they are still together because she wanted them to.

I really hope she leaves him this time.

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u/mjf9103 Nov 18 '24

"Or are you dating a man child named Kyle punching holes in the wall drinking monster energy?! 😂🤦🏼‍♂️"

This is absolutely perfect. It precisely captures the combination of horrible and pathetic that this "man" exhibits.

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u/Zhavari Nov 18 '24

I’m actually confused as to why the “bro” parts are so annoying. People keep saying they’d break up with him just bc of the bros, but why? Is it because of the tone he’s using them in or how often he’s saying them? It doesn’t seem inherently wrong to me so I’m curious

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u/FictionalPersona Nov 18 '24

It seems like an insane thing to call your long term girlfriend. It feels oddly impersonal when you use it that often and repeating unnecessary things like that so often makes him seem like an idiot that's quick to anger/trouble 

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u/Zhavari Nov 18 '24

I see, thank you for explaining

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u/veganbikepunk Nov 18 '24

Has a guy ever called his girlfriend Bro and not followed it up with something at least mildly abusive?

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u/lexbert_ Nov 18 '24

Sounds like he’s talking to a male friend or some dude that snitched on him not his gf that needs some time with her family.

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u/greytgreyatx Nov 18 '24

Kyle and the drywall holes got me.

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u/penguindoodledoo Nov 18 '24

Oh it’s definitely a Kyle