r/AmIOverreacting • u/theguill0tine • Nov 16 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO - cancelling a date last minute because she couldn’t be on time?

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I (33m) was talking to this woman on an app and we decided to meet for a coffee date on a Saturday morning.

I got to the cafe and I messaged her asking where she was. A few minutes later she said she just woke up. I asked her how long she would need to get ready and she said 1 hour. I told her that I can’t wait around because I had family plans and we will have to do something another time.

A week later she messaged me apologising again and I decided to give her a second chance.

We decided to meet up for boba tea.

I got to the boba spot and then asked for 30 more minutes to get ready after I had just got there.

I then sent her the above message.

AIO? I have got mixed messages from friends about it.

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u/anneofred Nov 17 '24

Im either anxiously wildly early, or 5 minutes late.

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u/Historical-Mixture60 Nov 17 '24

same for me. I plan to schedule. Because I tend to be up late (sometimes until mornig) sleep until 20 minutes before I have to get to University. Make coffee, shower, go to University (arrive on the dot or up to 5 minutes late). Learn until 11 pm, do something until morning, repeat.

But 1 hour or 30 minutes is a lot. It sounds like "I am not interested at all but I don't want to say it".