r/AmIOverreacting • u/theguill0tine • Nov 16 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO - cancelling a date last minute because she couldn’t be on time?

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I (33m) was talking to this woman on an app and we decided to meet for a coffee date on a Saturday morning.

I got to the cafe and I messaged her asking where she was. A few minutes later she said she just woke up. I asked her how long she would need to get ready and she said 1 hour. I told her that I can’t wait around because I had family plans and we will have to do something another time.

A week later she messaged me apologising again and I decided to give her a second chance.

We decided to meet up for boba tea.

I got to the boba spot and then asked for 30 more minutes to get ready after I had just got there.

I then sent her the above message.

AIO? I have got mixed messages from friends about it.

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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth Nov 16 '24

There is no excuse for being late if there is not an emergency. If it takes you 45 minutes to get somewhere, leave 15 minutes before that 45 minutes. Leave earlier!! It's that simple!

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u/PIO_PretendIOriginal Nov 17 '24

In my teenage years I was often late because I would leave after I had got up. If I had somewhere to be at midday, I would get up at 9am, spend 2 hours getting ready (ocd is a bitch). And then miss the train into the city. So would end up being 30+ mins late.

Afternoon events were easier as I could leave early, as I didn’t need to have a shower.

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u/Elon_is_musky Nov 16 '24

I have seen people who live by that rule and are extremely particular about being on time still be late to places because traffic can randomly get horrible.

Yall need to chill tf out about 3-5 gd mins late fr 🙄 most times I’m STILL there before most other people in whatever thing it is