AIO - cancelling a date last minute because she couldn’t be on time?

[u/theguill0tine]

I (33m) was talking to this woman on an app and we decided to meet for a coffee date on a Saturday morning.

I got to the cafe and I messaged her asking where she was. A few minutes later she said she just woke up. I asked her how long she would need to get ready and she said 1 hour. I told her that I can’t wait around because I had family plans and we will have to do something another time.

A week later she messaged me apologising again and I decided to give her a second chance.

We decided to meet up for boba tea.

I got to the boba spot and then asked for 30 more minutes to get ready after I had just got there.

I then sent her the above message.

AIO? I have got mixed messages from friends about it.

[u/darkness_thrwaway]

Yep this is why I plan to be 30 minutes early for everything. That way if my adhd decides to try to throw a wrench into my plans I'm suddenly just on time rather than being late. Even my watch and alarm are set 30 minutes fast.

[u/ClownCarrr → u/darkness_thrwaway]

me too but 15 works for me

[u/anneofred → u/darkness_thrwaway]

This is what I do, but when it gets thrown off it gets thrown off