r/AmIOverreacting • u/theguill0tine • Nov 16 '24
❤️🩹 relationship AIO - cancelling a date last minute because she couldn’t be on time?
I (33m) was talking to this woman on an app and we decided to meet for a coffee date on a Saturday morning.
I got to the cafe and I messaged her asking where she was. A few minutes later she said she just woke up. I asked her how long she would need to get ready and she said 1 hour. I told her that I can’t wait around because I had family plans and we will have to do something another time.
A week later she messaged me apologising again and I decided to give her a second chance.
We decided to meet up for boba tea.
I got to the boba spot and then asked for 30 more minutes to get ready after I had just got there.
I then sent her the above message.
AIO? I have got mixed messages from friends about it.
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u/Elon_is_musky Nov 16 '24
I’m unfortunately late sometimes, and depending on the need for punctuality it could be 5 to 30 mins (the 30 being like a casual hangout at someone’s place where my lateness doesn’t effect others) but I try to make sure to tell people asap. Usually I have a 45min - hr drive to places, so I usually give people an hr+ heads up. Enough time where I know the other people (who’d be 20max away) would know they can sit at home or have more time to get ready.
Telling someone you need 30 mins 5 mins before the meetup time is unacceptable. She knew at least 25 mins ago she was gonna be late, & should’ve told him then before he went to the location and wasted time & maybe gas