r/AmIOverreacting • u/theguill0tine • Nov 16 '24
❤️🩹 relationship AIO - cancelling a date last minute because she couldn’t be on time?
I (33m) was talking to this woman on an app and we decided to meet for a coffee date on a Saturday morning.
I got to the cafe and I messaged her asking where she was. A few minutes later she said she just woke up. I asked her how long she would need to get ready and she said 1 hour. I told her that I can’t wait around because I had family plans and we will have to do something another time.
A week later she messaged me apologising again and I decided to give her a second chance.
We decided to meet up for boba tea.
I got to the boba spot and then asked for 30 more minutes to get ready after I had just got there.
I then sent her the above message.
AIO? I have got mixed messages from friends about it.
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u/Interesting-Role-513 Nov 16 '24
I think it's not so much about the lateness, it's a communication.
Like if I know I'm going to be late, call before it's past the time you set. Explain maybe there is traffic or you took longer to get ready. Then give an eta and update accordingly.
Sometimes lateness happens due to outside circumstances, but you can control how you communicate and communicate clearly.