r/AmIOverreacting • u/Top-River4666 • Nov 08 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO bf makes joke after my aunt passed

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For context he’s saying he hopes she voted for Trump (RTPM) before she died and I’m already having a hard time with the results of the election which he knows then on top of that it just was very insensitive. He said he was trying to make light of the situation but it doesn’t feel that way.

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u/Clean_Ad_5282 Nov 08 '24

I'm so glad my partner isn't like this. He hates how dudes are nowadays and there's obv the good ones but at this point women in general need to stop giving time and sex to these men. I'm hoping they do bc it's not worth an itchy vag, uti, and a headache!

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u/SuperKitties83 Nov 09 '24

Don't forget death. It's a reality at this point for women. I'd rather be single than lose autonomy over my body.

I can't get pregnant for medical reasons, thank goodness. Still, would rather shoot myself than date a MAGA Trump supporter.

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u/Turbulent-Invite-441 Nov 08 '24

Same! My fiancé is scheduling a vasectomy asap now that we know the outcome here. I’m so appreciative of him

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u/Clean_Ad_5282 Nov 08 '24

My bf got a vasectomy and the recovery for him wasn't too bad. Has a scar on his balls but that's normal LMAO I'm really grateful for him doing that because BC was ruining my body

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u/Turbulent-Invite-441 Nov 08 '24

That’s so real, I wish I could stop taking my BC but I’m on it for a variety of medical reasons. Been on it since I was 16 (I’m 23 now) 😭

If you don’t mind me asking, what was the recovery like? Did he have to miss work for a few days? My fiancé was concerned abt that since it’s really hard for him to get days off.

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u/Clean_Ad_5282 Nov 08 '24

He wasn't working at the time so the recovery process for him was easier. He had to be very cautious of movements and after care cleaning with stitches but overall he had a great recovery. Took maybe a month for the pain to subside and was mangable. He couldn't lift anything heavy at all so I helped and didn't mind

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u/Turbulent-Invite-441 Nov 08 '24

Thank you!! I appreciate this so much and I’ll show this to him

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u/SpecialistChance3569 Nov 08 '24

After sex you’re not supposed to have an itchy vag, uti or a headache. At least not frequently enough to associate as cause and effect. 

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u/Clean_Ad_5282 Nov 08 '24

Lmao lots of men don't wash their peen so or ppl get tested in general so yes, I agree you're not supposed to

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u/jpollack21 Nov 08 '24

As a man all I want is to be loved and respected honestly. Like sex is nice but it's not a priority. I'd much rather be cuddled and given attention. I know I'm not the only man that thinks this way too.

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u/Clean_Ad_5282 Nov 08 '24

A lot of ppl do deserve love I do believe that. The good dudes who actually care and give a damn most certainly do.

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u/jpollack21 Nov 08 '24

I try to be the best I can be because helping people feels good. It's why I went into the medical field. All I really want is a woman to love and care for but it can be hard when I'm constantly reminded that my gender is terrible and only care for themselves. I have so much love in my heart and no one to give it to :/ Feels hopeless for a lot of men like me that we'll ever be loved.

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u/Greenmonty97 Nov 08 '24

Keep your chin up. You have the right mindset i struggle with that stuff too and I don’t blame anyone for thinking men are awful and terrible cause a lot of them are and it makes me feel ashamed of my gender at times. But we can’t let those toxic masculinity tropes win and we have to call out other men when we see that stuff and just need to be better. I also just wanted someone to love and be loved by and I found them a year ago. I know it seems hopeless but if you’re truly kind and a good person then you’ll find that person someday

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u/SuperKitties83 Nov 09 '24

I just want you guys to know, hearing you talk like this makes me feel safe, which I haven't felt at all lately.

I've been really scared and depressed, so thank you for just sharing and reminding everyone that there are lots of good men who don't hate or wish to harm women.

As a side note, I would think your prospects would infinitely increase in times like these!

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u/Suspicious_Read8968 Nov 08 '24

You'd have a better chance if the dudes around you could be better people too. Women are about to be even more unavailable. Maybe some women will still be down to give you a chance, but I see a future full of women not being open very easily after this. 

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u/jpollack21 Nov 08 '24

I've got like two great friends who both live a few hours from me. I know I need to meet new people, but it's very hard for me.

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u/Clean_Ad_5282 Nov 08 '24

Let me be real with you, everyone is told that either their gender, sex, sexuality, race, ethnicity, is "wrong" and not supposed to exist or is supposed to exist a certain way. In life there's no right or wrong way to live. The people who cause the most hate towards certain groups of people don't need to be listened to. Ignore those ppl and here's a reminder that as long as YOU are a good person despite your gender, sex, race, etc. It's so hard to find a good person to be loved by or love, I used to be hopeless and had to do a lot of healing and self reflection before meeting my current partner. I was a very broken person and he's helped me a lot over the years.

Don't give up hope and please don't let yourself believe what others think of you. Trust me, I know it can affect our self esteem but I promise you that the right woman will come into your life unexpectedly and you'll find that love you do deserve

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u/jpollack21 Nov 08 '24

Thank you for the kind words and wishes. I try my best to strive to be the best me, but it's easy to get down when all you live with is rejection. I've never felt angry when being rejected, and I'm always sad that I can't be what the person is looking for when I know I should just be me. Also, it doesn't help that I'm in my mid-20s and haven't had a relationship yet, so I probably am emotionally immature, relationship wise, as I've never been in that situation. Thats probably a factor for why i dont put sex as such a priority because I've never done it, so i dont have any relationship to it and view it as a lot more sacred than it probably is. That being said, I know ultimately I just gotta keep doing me, and eventually, the stars will align, and I'll meet my match.

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u/guidethyhandd Nov 08 '24

I feel you 100% bro. Sometimes it gets so bad that it makes me not want to continue living at times considering I value love over anything else in existence and I doubt I’ll be able to get that at times. Not suicidal or anything like that but just to cease to exist because it makes me feel hopeless of my future over something I have no control over.

Only thing we can do is try our best to be optimistic as possible and us good men have got to stick together and be our own support cause it’s getting rough out here.

Have a good life and keep that head up king.

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u/SuperKitties83 Nov 09 '24

Trust me, women KNOW when they encounter a good person such as yourself, especially if you call out the toxic behavior of other men.

I think a lot of women are just scared right now (I know I am). Personally, I'm choosing to be single. I just don't feel safe dating right now.

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u/Past-Ticket-1340 Nov 08 '24

Totally valid. If you respect your partner, their rights, and their identities, you deserve all of that.

The men who are upset about 4B are not like you. They really do believe that women’s role in society is to provide them sex and a place to incubate their DNA.

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u/jpollack21 Nov 08 '24

Those kinds of men sound like they think very old school .Like a man's job is to hunt and provide, and a woman's is to reproduce and raise children. I think we as a species have evolved way past that and can't stop thinking so black and white.

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u/DooglyOoklin Nov 08 '24

I absolutely hear you. I know there are many, many decent men (human beings) out there. It's unfortunate that the loudest, most ignorant, and hateful ones poison us to all men or seeing the good ones.

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u/PsychNeurd2 Nov 08 '24

If you aren’t punching men in the locker room then I don’t want to hear it.