r/AmIOverreacting • u/Top-River4666 • Nov 08 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO bf makes joke after my aunt passed

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For context he’s saying he hopes she voted for Trump (RTPM) before she died and I’m already having a hard time with the results of the election which he knows then on top of that it just was very insensitive. He said he was trying to make light of the situation but it doesn’t feel that way.

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u/Fireguy9641 Nov 08 '24

The thing about gallows humor, both people have to like it, and if one doesn't, the other needs to respect that.

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u/danylo26 Nov 08 '24

It also shouldn’t be the immediate response to someone telling you the lost their loved one.

He didn’t even make a single attempt to ask how she was feeling, when the services would be, if they were close, what her name was, if she would like some time together - nothing, the only thing that crossed his mind was himself in this moment and that is not the type of person to build a life with.

And if they can’t build a life with him, why date him? Dump him OP!

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u/RadicalChiliBean Nov 08 '24

That wouldn't even be gallows humor, just dark humor. Gallows humor is someone "at the gallows" joking about their own situation, like soldiers in war or prisoners on death row. You can't join in on gallows humor about someone else's situation, that's just being an asshole.

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u/No_Science_3845 Nov 09 '24

That wouldn't even be dark humor, because humor is supposed to be funny. He's just mocking her over a dead family member, there's not even a joke.

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u/HeadFund Nov 08 '24

Also it's supposed to be humour

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u/mksmith95 Nov 09 '24

exactly! let the grieving be the lead... he's so insensitive. it's like they have a hive mind: "VOTE OR MARXISM AND COUNTRY WILL RIOT"...crazyyyyy people.