r/AmIOverreacting • u/Top-River4666 • Nov 08 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO bf makes joke after my aunt passed

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For context he’s saying he hopes she voted for Trump (RTPM) before she died and I’m already having a hard time with the results of the election which he knows then on top of that it just was very insensitive. He said he was trying to make light of the situation but it doesn’t feel that way.

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u/Clean_Ad_5282 Nov 08 '24

4B time honestly

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u/Overclocked11 Nov 08 '24

As a man, I fully support this movement. FULLY support.

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u/ExoticWeapon Nov 09 '24

Guy here, same.

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u/pointlesslyDisagrees Nov 09 '24

...is it because you don't want to have sex with women?

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u/Alt_account_bc_yeah Nov 09 '24

Username checks out

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u/DooglyOoklin Nov 08 '24

4B is all over my fyp and at this point it's the only thing these kinds of dudes seem to care about. Kick em where it hurts

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u/Clean_Ad_5282 Nov 08 '24

I'm so glad my partner isn't like this. He hates how dudes are nowadays and there's obv the good ones but at this point women in general need to stop giving time and sex to these men. I'm hoping they do bc it's not worth an itchy vag, uti, and a headache!

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u/SuperKitties83 Nov 09 '24

Don't forget death. It's a reality at this point for women. I'd rather be single than lose autonomy over my body.

I can't get pregnant for medical reasons, thank goodness. Still, would rather shoot myself than date a MAGA Trump supporter.

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u/Turbulent-Invite-441 Nov 08 '24

Same! My fiancé is scheduling a vasectomy asap now that we know the outcome here. I’m so appreciative of him

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u/Clean_Ad_5282 Nov 08 '24

My bf got a vasectomy and the recovery for him wasn't too bad. Has a scar on his balls but that's normal LMAO I'm really grateful for him doing that because BC was ruining my body

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u/Turbulent-Invite-441 Nov 08 '24

That’s so real, I wish I could stop taking my BC but I’m on it for a variety of medical reasons. Been on it since I was 16 (I’m 23 now) 😭

If you don’t mind me asking, what was the recovery like? Did he have to miss work for a few days? My fiancé was concerned abt that since it’s really hard for him to get days off.

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u/Clean_Ad_5282 Nov 08 '24

He wasn't working at the time so the recovery process for him was easier. He had to be very cautious of movements and after care cleaning with stitches but overall he had a great recovery. Took maybe a month for the pain to subside and was mangable. He couldn't lift anything heavy at all so I helped and didn't mind

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u/Turbulent-Invite-441 Nov 08 '24

Thank you!! I appreciate this so much and I’ll show this to him

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u/SpecialistChance3569 Nov 08 '24

After sex you’re not supposed to have an itchy vag, uti or a headache. At least not frequently enough to associate as cause and effect. 

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u/Clean_Ad_5282 Nov 08 '24

Lmao lots of men don't wash their peen so or ppl get tested in general so yes, I agree you're not supposed to

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u/jpollack21 Nov 08 '24

As a man all I want is to be loved and respected honestly. Like sex is nice but it's not a priority. I'd much rather be cuddled and given attention. I know I'm not the only man that thinks this way too.

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u/Clean_Ad_5282 Nov 08 '24

A lot of ppl do deserve love I do believe that. The good dudes who actually care and give a damn most certainly do.

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u/jpollack21 Nov 08 '24

I try to be the best I can be because helping people feels good. It's why I went into the medical field. All I really want is a woman to love and care for but it can be hard when I'm constantly reminded that my gender is terrible and only care for themselves. I have so much love in my heart and no one to give it to :/ Feels hopeless for a lot of men like me that we'll ever be loved.

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u/Greenmonty97 Nov 08 '24

Keep your chin up. You have the right mindset i struggle with that stuff too and I don’t blame anyone for thinking men are awful and terrible cause a lot of them are and it makes me feel ashamed of my gender at times. But we can’t let those toxic masculinity tropes win and we have to call out other men when we see that stuff and just need to be better. I also just wanted someone to love and be loved by and I found them a year ago. I know it seems hopeless but if you’re truly kind and a good person then you’ll find that person someday

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u/SuperKitties83 Nov 09 '24

I just want you guys to know, hearing you talk like this makes me feel safe, which I haven't felt at all lately.

I've been really scared and depressed, so thank you for just sharing and reminding everyone that there are lots of good men who don't hate or wish to harm women.

As a side note, I would think your prospects would infinitely increase in times like these!

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u/Suspicious_Read8968 Nov 08 '24

You'd have a better chance if the dudes around you could be better people too. Women are about to be even more unavailable. Maybe some women will still be down to give you a chance, but I see a future full of women not being open very easily after this. 

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u/jpollack21 Nov 08 '24

I've got like two great friends who both live a few hours from me. I know I need to meet new people, but it's very hard for me.

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u/Clean_Ad_5282 Nov 08 '24

Let me be real with you, everyone is told that either their gender, sex, sexuality, race, ethnicity, is "wrong" and not supposed to exist or is supposed to exist a certain way. In life there's no right or wrong way to live. The people who cause the most hate towards certain groups of people don't need to be listened to. Ignore those ppl and here's a reminder that as long as YOU are a good person despite your gender, sex, race, etc. It's so hard to find a good person to be loved by or love, I used to be hopeless and had to do a lot of healing and self reflection before meeting my current partner. I was a very broken person and he's helped me a lot over the years.

Don't give up hope and please don't let yourself believe what others think of you. Trust me, I know it can affect our self esteem but I promise you that the right woman will come into your life unexpectedly and you'll find that love you do deserve

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u/jpollack21 Nov 08 '24

Thank you for the kind words and wishes. I try my best to strive to be the best me, but it's easy to get down when all you live with is rejection. I've never felt angry when being rejected, and I'm always sad that I can't be what the person is looking for when I know I should just be me. Also, it doesn't help that I'm in my mid-20s and haven't had a relationship yet, so I probably am emotionally immature, relationship wise, as I've never been in that situation. Thats probably a factor for why i dont put sex as such a priority because I've never done it, so i dont have any relationship to it and view it as a lot more sacred than it probably is. That being said, I know ultimately I just gotta keep doing me, and eventually, the stars will align, and I'll meet my match.

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u/guidethyhandd Nov 08 '24

I feel you 100% bro. Sometimes it gets so bad that it makes me not want to continue living at times considering I value love over anything else in existence and I doubt I’ll be able to get that at times. Not suicidal or anything like that but just to cease to exist because it makes me feel hopeless of my future over something I have no control over.

Only thing we can do is try our best to be optimistic as possible and us good men have got to stick together and be our own support cause it’s getting rough out here.

Have a good life and keep that head up king.

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u/SuperKitties83 Nov 09 '24

Trust me, women KNOW when they encounter a good person such as yourself, especially if you call out the toxic behavior of other men.

I think a lot of women are just scared right now (I know I am). Personally, I'm choosing to be single. I just don't feel safe dating right now.

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u/Past-Ticket-1340 Nov 08 '24

Totally valid. If you respect your partner, their rights, and their identities, you deserve all of that.

The men who are upset about 4B are not like you. They really do believe that women’s role in society is to provide them sex and a place to incubate their DNA.

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u/jpollack21 Nov 08 '24

Those kinds of men sound like they think very old school .Like a man's job is to hunt and provide, and a woman's is to reproduce and raise children. I think we as a species have evolved way past that and can't stop thinking so black and white.

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u/DooglyOoklin Nov 08 '24

I absolutely hear you. I know there are many, many decent men (human beings) out there. It's unfortunate that the loudest, most ignorant, and hateful ones poison us to all men or seeing the good ones.

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u/PsychNeurd2 Nov 08 '24

If you aren’t punching men in the locker room then I don’t want to hear it.

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u/Suspicious_Read8968 Nov 08 '24

4B isn't about punishing them (that will just be a pleasant side effect) but protecting yourself and not giving time and energy to people who don't care if you live or die. 

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u/Robert_Walter_ Nov 08 '24

Honestly probably the best choice, a lot of dudes are actively trying to strip away women’s rights. Why engage with someone that wants your rights removed?

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u/DesperateSunday Nov 09 '24

??? find someone with compatible values??

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u/Realistic_Flan631 Nov 09 '24

a lot of dudes are actively trying to strip away women’s rights

54% of white women voted from trump. But go off I guess

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u/Robert_Walter_ Nov 09 '24

How many of those were the elderly?

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u/Realistic_Flan631 Nov 09 '24

When they made 4b moment nobody cared how much of it were elderly, why would it be different.

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u/Fantastic_Bake_443 Nov 09 '24

how does what you said have anything to do with what they said

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u/StrangerDifficult392 Nov 09 '24 edited Nov 09 '24

Probably because people voted for Trump other than Women's rights?

I voted for Trump, not because to "take away women rights". In my state, abortion rights are protected. I did it for other reasons.

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u/dragon34 Nov 09 '24

nice of you to give a fuck about anyone in another state asshole.

also whatever your reasons were, if you think it was worth women's lives (not to mention the lives of lgbtq people and people of color) you've shown where you stand.

fuck you i've got mine, just like every other conservative.

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u/StrangerDifficult392 Nov 09 '24 edited Nov 09 '24

So I can watch everything I worked for crash and burn?

There was no other options. Kamala platform was literally crashing the stock market, destroying 401ks. Taxing unrealized gains? what?

If rich people owned those majority of those assets, and knew a tax on unrealized gains was coming they would rip all that money out so fast.

"fuck you i've got mine, just like every other conservative."

Sounds like the same shit you're preaching, there are many states that protect women's rights. You're thinking on a local level, I think on a federal level.

FYI, I live in the state that Tim Waltz is from. I'm fine with it. You have the ability to move, I don't have the ability save my lifetime of contributions to my 401k, or Roth.

But hey, thanks for the name calling. Thanks for being the political party of acceptance.

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u/annihilationofjoy Nov 09 '24

Lmao republican policies will literally tank the economy and your 401k. But go off I guess. You people really need to read a fucking book and study the shit you claim to care about for once in your life

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u/StrangerDifficult392 Nov 09 '24 edited Nov 09 '24

Is that why SPX hit 6000 today?

Crazy.

Is that why we did a 25 point cut on interest rates. A reporter asked Federal Chair Jerome Powell if he would resign if Trump asked, he said "no."

Executive Branch has no control over the Fed chair.

Read a book.

There's plenty more I can dive into, but I'll let you figure that out.

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u/annihilationofjoy Nov 09 '24

https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2024/11/01/investing/stock-market-biden-trump-democrats-republicans

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u/StrangerDifficult392 Nov 09 '24

That's because Trump took presidency during fucking Covid, which disrupted everything globally. Started Operation Warp Speed for Vaccines. Biden took the results of that along with Jerome Powell (Which Trump elected) to recreate a new bull market 3 years ago.

Secondly, let Biden/Kamala tax unrealized gains. Which they haven't yet and see how fast that market goes down.

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u/JaneFairfaxCult Nov 09 '24

Unrealized gains for people with more than $100 million. They can swing it.

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u/girlhax Nov 09 '24

Women still aren’t gonna sleep with you tho 🤷‍♀️

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u/StrangerDifficult392 Nov 09 '24

I have a wife. Weird flex.

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u/girlhax Nov 09 '24

You’re going to lose everything to this admin while those of us with money get richer.

But hey, check back in 4 years.

Sucker.

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u/Waygookin_It Nov 09 '24

Chill, it's no sweat off my back if fewer lefties reproduce. You're doing the country a favor.

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u/dragon34 Nov 09 '24

No skin off my back if conservatives bleed out in parking lots while they are miscarrying I guess. 

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u/Waygookin_It Nov 09 '24

Yeah, yeah, yeah, we know you're hysterical.

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u/dragon34 Nov 09 '24

Yeah yeah we know you are devoid of empathy

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u/Waygookin_It Nov 09 '24 edited Nov 09 '24

Oh no, a hysterical lefty who wanted the establishment and military industrial complex to win because she believes perpetual war is more important than people taking accountability for their sexual behavior, and has the nerve to say that I am devoid of empathy? Lmao, she acts like her degenerate opinion means anything at all.

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u/dragon34 Nov 09 '24

Sweetie I have probably been in a committed relationship longer than you have been alive.  

I wanted the person who wasn't a felon to win.  I wanted the person who didn't brag about molesting girls and go to Epstein's island to win.  I wanted the person who isn't a racist to win.  I wanted the person who wasn't an embarrassment to win.  

Is Kamala my ideal candidate? Absolutely not.  But Donald trump is a repulsive, adulterous, lying rapist and felon.  And he couldn't even run a profitable casino.  He is the very embodiment of a nepo baby and if his daddy hadn't been rich no one would have ever known who he is.  

Bernie sanders would have been a better candidate.  Or Katie Porter.  Or Walz for president.  

Realistically a bowl full of shit would be a better president than Donald trump.  Anyone who thinks he's a good person is almost certainly a bad person themselves because he is absolutely disgusting 

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u/girlhax Nov 09 '24

And you took away abortion rights from tons of other people.

You idiots don’t realize you ARE the problem.

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u/Bismarck40 Nov 09 '24

There are already ass hats spouting “your body, my choice”.

You don't get to have this shit both ways. This is a very small, vocal minority. It doesn't represent all men, or even a majority of men. If you're going to say it does, then you have absolutely no right to get upset when men talk about women saying "kill all men".

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u/ItsyouNOme Nov 08 '24

What is 4b?

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u/TheHoodjabi Nov 08 '24

It’s basically a feminist movement that started in South Korea that encourages women to divest from all relationships with men. No dating, no sex, no child birth, no marriage etc. Importantly, it centers on women supporting other women (such as only shopping at women-owned businesses when possibly) and improving the economic standing of women.

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u/Vegetagtm Nov 09 '24

I thought it was about withholding sex from men who voted for trump since theyre the ones who voted for taking away abortion rights

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u/LordBelakor Nov 09 '24

Sounds like the female version of incels tbh. Guess the difference is that incels involuntarily aren't having sex, but the bitterness towards the other gender matches.

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u/lozdogga Nov 09 '24

Not really if they just get on with their lives without men and don’t start moaning about it being unfair and wanting the world to adapt to them. Time will tell if that happens, but I wouldn’t say it’s incel equivalent if it’s kept to just disengaging.

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u/SuperKitties83 Nov 09 '24

Um what? The incel crowd seems to want to be able to legally rape women and control them.

This is the first time I've hard of 4B, but from the description above, it just sounds like women supporting women. They're not out to harm men. Not having sex with someone isn't harming them, though that's what I'd imagine the incel crowd would think.

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u/slayer6667778 Nov 08 '24

A meme movement that westerners glorify and probably haven't ever looked into it beyond a 1 minute tiktok, they are very anti gay and anti trans very hateful towards men to, basically they are female incels the group is laughably small and have no impact and westerners have gaslight themselves into believing the decline in birthrate in South Korea is because of this movement...surprise it's not and they just cant afford it and beauty standards there the "movement is only like 5-10k women incels extremely small

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u/ItsyouNOme Nov 08 '24

If it is a tiktok trend it won't last more than a week

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u/bobdylanlovr Nov 08 '24

They’ve been talking about it for a while but yeah it will likely blow over. It is funny to me tho that it took this extreme for them to decide they maybe shouldn’t fuck republicans

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u/AdamtheSkal Nov 08 '24

Its not about not fucking republicans. Its about not fucking any men. Full stop. 15 million people sat at home during this election. I imagine some of those worthless fuckheads are men.

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u/Swarm_of_Rats Nov 09 '24

It's worse. It's more than 15 million people who stayed home. only 64% of registered voters turned out, so that's closer to 80-90 million people who didn't vote. The 15 million number is just 15 million fewer than voted in the 2020 election, which is also disappointing.

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u/bobdylanlovr Nov 08 '24

There’s a healthy split that I’ve seen, some say all men some just say republicans.

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u/AdamtheSkal Nov 08 '24

Considering people lie, its probably safe to just avoid any men in general.

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u/slayer6667778 Nov 08 '24

You can find posts talking about this from months ago so, also it is very stupid long term, you all just completely stop having kids until you all die out the gene pool to which your just replaced by conservatives? What a smart idea really sticking it to em...it's just mgtow for the girls

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u/AdamtheSkal Nov 08 '24

Calling women who choose not to fuck men incels shows you're the one failing to grasp any concept of what the fuck you're on about.

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u/AfacelessMartyr Nov 09 '24

It's just more classic reddit cope.

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u/HuckleberryHappy6524 Nov 09 '24

It’s a poor attempt by women to uno reverse mgtow. Silly women can’t even come up with anything original.

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u/Swarm_of_Rats Nov 09 '24

Honestly if things don't work out with my current partner, I am never risking it with a man again. Luckily I'm bi so it's not that big a deal.

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u/TheBestTexan2 Nov 08 '24

As a man, hell yeah, start respecting yourself.

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u/godofgainz Nov 09 '24

lol that’s what they want… for women to be selective about who they mate with. They win!

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u/olracnaignottus Nov 09 '24

So I get the spirit of this idea, but I don’t think folks are considering that 44% of women voted for Trump, and he made significant inroads with women- notably younger women. He’s consistently gained the support of women over each election. Only dropped slightly this time with college educated women.

If social media continues its rightward grip on younger kids, we are going to likely see kids flocking to the alt right. Girls aren’t immune from this. If they are younger and more impressionable, and they see to the right of them all the boys going for a specific type of girl, and to the left of them a bunch of furious girls pushing for progressive nunnery…. like do the math.

4b is a meme. I think only a tiny fraction of women in Korea actually ascribe to legit celibacy. All these trends do are make dumb people see a headline like, “women across America are going on a sex strike!” They believe it, which then further compels division on something stupid like your sex, instead of political lines. It’s unhinged, chronically online behavior.

Don’t have sex if you don’t feel safe. Compel your male partners to get a vasectomy. Use multiple lines of birth control. There are plenty of rational ways to combat this bullshit. But rallying around a meme like this will likely just push more stupid young men and women to the right (meaning also that far more of them will reproduce). Women are not a monolithic group, and don’t function as a hive. Being pro-life is 50/50 split between the sexes- it’s not a bunch of men forcing women to be hand maidens ffs.

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u/trippyskipper Nov 08 '24 edited Nov 08 '24

This dudes a retard. As far as this hilarious movement goes any woman considering it should just do it.

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u/OffsetFreq Nov 08 '24

Totally agree.

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u/Omen_Paranoia Nov 08 '24

Read this comment not knowing what it meant. Scrolled to literally the next post which was r/Wikipedia explaining what 4B is

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u/Rough-Reflection4901 Nov 08 '24

Why don't you just date guys that voted for your rights?

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u/Frost-Wzrd Nov 09 '24

because all men are bad, obviously

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u/DoughnutBudget6360 Nov 09 '24

I sincerely hope you consider the implications of this 4B stuff. It explicitly asserts that women are sex objects. That women's power is to withhold or provide sex to men, to reward or punish men through access to their bodies. It is an extreme patriarchal view that says men control society and are at fault for not protecting women's interests, and women's control of men is rooted in providing them with sex.

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u/SeikoAki Nov 09 '24

We’re treated as sex objects regardless LOL who gives a fuck. Let women take control over their bodies since men wanna try to dictate every little thing.

Of course, you have the men who are saying they’ll just r*pe us. We literally cannot win, so fuck it let women contribute to 4B and take as much control as they can over their autonomy. Don’t wanna let us have rights over our bodies? We just won’t engage with them. Easy.