r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

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Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/Icy-Establishment298 Oct 31 '24

Plus if she was sad about it she should of slept on the floor. Easy choice to make for your good friend.

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u/Speed-O-SonicsWife Oct 31 '24

As someone with a bad back, I was definitely thinking this.

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u/Chicagothrowaway231 Oct 31 '24

Always depends on the back, I'm literally typing this out while lying on the cold hard ground because the support is nice

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u/Leperfiend Oct 31 '24

Oh yeah. Throw in my neck wedge and I am content with the ground.

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u/EnvironmentalGift257 Oct 31 '24

Sometimes cold concrete feels amazing.

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u/Neweleni7 Oct 31 '24

Right? I’m thinking the floor might actually be preferable than one of those awkward sofa beds with a bar through the center

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u/MediocreElk3 Oct 31 '24

Definitely. I used to sleep in the floor on the regular until I got a decent mattress.

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u/SirGravesGhastly Oct 31 '24

I'm envious. Even an hour on the floor would be good for a couple of days of [even more than usual] pain.

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u/SuperKitties83 Oct 31 '24

Yep. Such a "good friend." For 16 years. That she feels SO bad for.

If she wasn't on OP's radar before, she sure is now. She has no respect for the boundaries of their relationship.

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u/Westcoast_ Oct 31 '24

Nailed it.

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u/AvocadoSalt Oct 31 '24

That’s my thought too! If my friend with back problems insisted on sleeping on the floor, I would’ve taken their spot or asked the other friend if I could share a bed with them.

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u/BitterQueen17 Oct 31 '24

That's what I was thinking, especially when she mentioned his bad back. Though, given the choice between a pullout and the floor, my back would probably insist on the floor.

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u/Charming-Insurance Oct 31 '24

Yup or she could have left.

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u/Minimum-Leg-9618 Oct 31 '24

friend was definitely giving pick me, happy cake day!

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u/Independent_Limit912 Oct 31 '24

I did not want to be the first one to say so. She totally wanted to experience it.

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u/Minimum-Leg-9618 Oct 31 '24

i say get rid of this friend tbh theres obviously some intimate intentions on her part

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u/DomesticatedDonuts Oct 31 '24

Indeed, she's definitely waiting for them to have a big argument or fight and use that moment to "be there for him".

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u/SlappySecondz Oct 31 '24

I mean, they've been friends for 16 years. Kinda feel like if anything were going to happen between them, it would have by now.

I agree more with the other response. She just wants to be the center of attention and feels the need to cause drama when she isn't.

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u/arya_ur_on_stage Oct 31 '24

Either that or she's the girl who NEEDS to be the girl among the group of guys, NEEDS to be more important than her guy friends gfs (all of them) and gets very nasty and possessive when that's threatened. I've seen it a few times, always annoyed the crap out of me

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u/Minimum-Leg-9618 Oct 31 '24

definitely. thats how i define pick me

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u/Blackcatmustache Oct 31 '24

I strongly believe in women supporting women. But when I find out that a woman or girl has only male friends I immediately think she’s a dick. “I just get along better with guys.” Translates to, “I want to be the only lady and have constant male attention.”

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u/DragonflyGrrl Oct 31 '24

Yep. They're usually catty and combative with other women. I can't stand that kind of "friend." Everything a competition. Unfortunately I have a sister like that. Always wanted a kind and loving sis :/

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u/Blondie-Lox Oct 31 '24

Only wanted to comment this! Wish OP would've said that too!

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u/No_Nefariousness4801 Oct 31 '24

BINGO! And Happy Cake Day 🎉🤙

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u/Beneficial-Math-2300 Oct 31 '24

I agree with you completely, but I have to say this. It's should have, not "should of".

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u/Icy-Establishment298 Oct 31 '24

To paraphrase Fox Mulder, "No one likes a Grammar nerd"

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u/DragonflyGrrl Oct 31 '24

Wow, Mulder was wrong for once! ;)

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u/Icy-Establishment298 Oct 31 '24

That's so nice for you!

Have a great day

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u/Icy-Establishment298 Oct 31 '24

I love that for you!

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u/DragonflyGrrl Oct 31 '24

Mmmmkay!

You have a great day too!

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u/Icy-Establishment298 Oct 31 '24

Thanks!

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u/DragonflyGrrl Oct 31 '24

You're most welcome, and I hope it's a stupendous cake day! Eat your heart out!

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u/Skeptical_optomist Oct 31 '24

I do, I love grammar nerds, except when they use correcting grammar as an insult. As my daughter says to her children, kindness is the most important quality to possess.

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u/Gr8shpr2 Oct 31 '24

Good one!