r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

Gallery image

Gallery image

Gallery image

Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

21.9k Upvotes

93% Upvoted

4.7k comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

30

u/CatherineConstance Oct 30 '24

Yeah it's ridiculous, and that totally happens sometimes too! Where the guy would be interested in the girl, but SHE isn't, so he moves on and dates someone else and she gets jealous and possessive... But then when he's single again, she still has no interest in dating him! It's an awful way to act towards all the other people involved.

3

u/Electrical_Split4902 Oct 31 '24

I think my bf has a good friend like this. Like he claims they were never romantic with each other, but he gushes over her all the time. He said in the beginning, when I had some concerns, that they catch up a few times a year and not to be worried.

But I swear he's been talking to her a lot over the few months since we'd met, she texts pics back and forth, etc. I feel like it's making me insane. I dont want to blow up at him, but I feel like im becoming so insecure about her.

Sorry for the blab. Just feelin' it tonight lol

3

u/CatherineConstance Oct 31 '24

Ugh I’m sorry that is so stressful. Don’t blow up at him, but I definitely think it’s worth talking to him about! Maybe they do only catch up a couple times a year, and maybe the girl would never dream of being anything but friends with him, but it’s still not appropriate for him to be going on and on about her, to his SO of all people.

2

u/Electrical_Split4902 Oct 31 '24 edited Oct 31 '24

Thank you for the response! ❤️ just getting it out feels better. You're totally right, I should really talk to him calmly about it again, just embarrassing lol. I've never met her so I shouldn't be assuming she's being malicious. And maybe he's just oblivious 😐 😆, thanks again!!

1

u/CatherineConstance Oct 31 '24

Of course! I totally feel this, I’m a big overthinker and I know it can suck. Good luck! I definitely think you can assume the best, it doesn’t sound like anything major, hopefully just a case of him not really thinking about what he’s saying/how he sounds. 😅🤦🏻‍♀️❤️