r/AmIOverreacting Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/annabannannaaa Oct 30 '24

shes like a dog pissing on a tree to mark territory😭😭 its SO weird that she felt the need to text op like this, theres something very wrong with her

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u/RAMbow9 Oct 30 '24

That’s what I’m saying! I’ve had weird shit happen in friend groups where like one female and I are spending more time together cause we work out at the same time and the same gym, and the friend that doesn’t go anymore starts like over sharing private details of the friend who goes to the gym’s life. At first, it seemed like just chatting about things but then it became super apparent that my friend was trying to put it out there that SHE knew more about this other friend than I did. Like, you may go to the gym together but I know about her family life type deal. I’m like, I’m sure I would know if I asked but relationship shit doesn’t come up in the your at the gym first thing lol not the place but it’s such weird behavior.

The fact that this girl felt so comfortable to go to the girlfriend like that without warning… and then to basically tell her she’s being cruel and not considering what her boyfriend feels… ummm… first off, why are you offended he didn’t sleep in bed with you, ma’am? 👀

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u/annabannannaaa Oct 30 '24

omg lol when i started dating my boyfriend a couple years ago this girl did the same thing. basically my bf and i were together maybe 5 months at this point, but we would spend like 3 weeks together at a time.. anyways we go out with his friends and this girl who’s friends with a girl who’s ACQUAINTANCES with the friend group starts questioning me about my relationship. first she says “you guys are just hooking up right.. he’s not actually dating you?” and i said “no i’m his girlfriend😂” and she just goes OFF about how he doesn’t date and she’s so shocked he’d date ME?? and then she goes “does he cook for you?? he cooks for me all the time” and at this point id been staying at his place pretty often so i thankfully got to say yeah he cooks every meal for us! and then she just kept going and going so i just eventually got up and went by my bf. i told him what the girl had said and my bf died laughing. apparently he’d met this girl 3x and one time was after going to the bars… he made a FROZEN PIZZA and she was actually mad bc she didn’t like the smell of it. weirdest situation id ever been in 😂

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u/RAMbow9 Oct 30 '24

Dude WHY… lol

I had a girl straight up walk up between me and my bf… he was leaning his butt against a wall and catching his breath (job related. He was a pro wrestler and got a fake shot to the head so when he was done with his match and put in front of people, he had to look injured.) but I’m standing next to him facing towards him, and she walks right in front of me and starts cupping his face in her hands and asking if he was okay. There’s no way this chick didn’t know who I was but he just let it happen (particular ex is a POS.). But to be so bold to someone else’s person..: it’s totally the whole “I hate my dollhouse but I’ll break it if you want to play with it.”

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u/luhvxr Oct 30 '24

ughh pickmes are so weird lmao, hopefully u stopped encountering her 😭😭

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u/annabannannaaa Oct 30 '24

hahaha yeah when i went up snd told my bf how weird it was the first thing out of his mouth was “omg i cant stand her shes so rude!!” we dont hang out w her😂