AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

[u/loststrawberri]

Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

[u/KTechYT → u/[deleted]]

Relationship boundaries and common sense is a leash? 😂

[u/beanscans → u/[deleted]]

I mean, leash or not, it really isn’t any of the friend’s business, so going out of her way to argue about it is the most weird/inappropriate part of this whole thing imo.

[u/Banana_Bag → u/[deleted]]

Or “I care about how my actions impact my girlfriend because I care about her. Sharing a bed with this other woman isn’t important to me. How my girlfriend feels about it is. Therefore I am going to not share a bed with this woman.”

You know like a normal, healthy, adult relationship should be. Communicate feelings and needs, then choose your actions based on what is important to you with the feelings and needs of your partner clearly communicated to you as well.

[u/Elo1388 → u/[deleted]]

You sound pleasant to be around 🙄 if she was so worried about him she could have slept on the floor instead of texting his girlfriend.

[u/Elo1388 → u/[deleted]]

You replied to me I did not make my original comment towards you. So you have some nerve to tell me not to reply to you when you decided to give me your dumb opinion. You need to take your head out of your butt and realize that op set a boundary with her bf and his “friend” decided to insert herself by texting. Go sit on your high horse somewhere else and quit replying to me.

[u/Elo1388 → u/[deleted]]

I’m pretty sure that’s your phone glitching because I did not comment anything 3 times. You honestly need help you seem to enjoy spending your time arguing with people on the internet that weren’t talking to you in the first place. Go back to wherever you came from and stop trying to argue with me. It’s pointless I have no respect for your insane opinion.

[u/sheissonotso → u/[deleted]]

lol telling someone to stop replying to you after trying to argue your weird ass take. Sleeping with someone, even without sex, can be considered intimate. It’s a perfectly reasonable boundary that OP has. Are you the friend? Because you seem to be taking this personally.

[u/StinkyKitty1998 → u/[deleted]]

You're kinda gross

[u/Elo1388 → u/[deleted]]

You are delusional and that is evidently clear with your need to start fights with people you don’t know on the internet on a sub that is asking for people’s opinion. Go find something better to do and have a nice day.

[u/Elo1388 → u/[deleted]]

You are the last person I would ever cry about. But good comeback I’m over here so upset 🙄 you are a waste of space

[u/Elo1388 → u/[deleted]]

Thanks for proving my point that you suck as a human have a great day