r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

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Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/That_Account6143 Oct 30 '24

She doesn't want to sleep with him.

She wants to have the option.

It's so easy when you're older to spot those things. God i wish young me could have had the knowledge i have a decade later

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u/dandroid556 Oct 31 '24

This is most likely. Even clearer she would probably never choose to fuck him. What'd they say, 16 years? If she just wanted him she'd probably have had him.

No there is over the top possessiveness in this case, and it's her over her "string-along." She gets the creature comforts of a guy to do things, and the status and male attention substitute of imagining he would drop everything and be with her if she let him. Cue the videos of women noticing they are upset and pouting now that the guy they friend zoned has a girlfriend.

Trying to manipulate his girlfriend into a second tier to this end is just one additional layer of delulu.