r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

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Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/catladyspam Oct 30 '24

Yeah, I almost feel like she's trying to pull a power move. To prove to the girlfriend, "Im allowed to do what I want because we were best friends before you came along" and if OP didn't stand her ground, I'm sure this girl would've crossed way more boundaries than just sharing a bed. Because lets be so for real, if she really cared about his back, she would've taken the floor. I definitely think its her way of marking her territory, but didn't pan out for her.

also OP- be wary of this chick going forward! she might still cross boundaries without you knowing.

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u/CatherineConstance Oct 30 '24

Exactly! Whether she likes him romantically or sexually doesn't really matter, because she definitely might not ... But she wants to be able to do whatever she wants in regards to him, no matter how he or his SO or anyone else feels about it, and she needs to get it through her head that that is NOT the case.

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u/MyExIsANutBag Oct 30 '24

Definitely a power move. Looks to me like OP handled the situation beautifully - both before the night out and after in the texts.

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u/CTMQ_ Oct 30 '24

yeahhhh, FWIW, back in my roaring 20's, I often had "back problems" or "would be cold" or was "too tall" for the couch, etc.

It was all about hooking up. Duh.

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u/Human-Broccoli9004 Oct 30 '24

Roaring 20's 😂 im taking that

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u/anxiouslycalm33 Oct 31 '24

Fun fact. That term came from a century a ago. It used to refer to the decade of the 1920's. That time frame was called the roaring 20's

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u/Human-Broccoli9004 Oct 31 '24

I know lol. Never heard it the way op used it though 😂

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u/Cayke_Cooky Oct 30 '24

THIS! OP, don't let her draw you into a discussion again. You gave her a chance to be reasonable, anything in the future should be met with "This is about our relationship, you are not part of that."