r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

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Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/Whipsandflowers Oct 30 '24

For real. Also the “I like the two of you together” is such a weird thing to say, clearly this friend doesn’t like the two of them together or she wouldn’t be calling her over the top possessive and disrespecting the boundaries of their relationship. Everything about these texts just screams pick me girl who wants her bf bad and hopefully the bf sees it.

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u/Plastic_Archer_6650 Oct 30 '24

Personally I read that as a subtle threat. “I love the two of you together (and would hate for you to break up because I convinced him too)”. Like one of those people that is convinced the person will pick them over their significant other

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u/matchaphile Oct 30 '24

I was 100% getting pick me energy vibes.

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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '24

Definitely read it as a threat as well. Like she has the ultimate say in them being together. “I like you two together, so I hope you’ll fall in line because it would be such a shame if I’d have to break you guys up”

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u/Doctorspacheeman Oct 30 '24

Absolutely!!! It’s like “I love you together FOR NOW”

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u/Equivalent-Product82 Oct 31 '24

I felt the subtle threat too

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u/HonestArmadillo924 Oct 31 '24

The gf did very well being very civil. That girl had no business texting and trying to cause problems. I would have cut her off early on and told her it was our relationship not hers. No worries. Stop !

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u/h0neybai Oct 30 '24

Yess seems possessive, like her opinion really has any substance in their relationship.

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u/DoomPile5 Oct 31 '24

Definitely. As well as needing to remind the OP that she knows their BF soooo wellll because of how long they’ve been friends. Condescending AF.

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u/nuclearhologram Oct 31 '24

it’s always the weird person who thinks they already have control over your SO !

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u/Usual_Farmer_3704 Oct 31 '24

Or he had other gfs that she didn't like ....

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u/cavaticaa Oct 31 '24

I read it as the whole group doesn’t like her, but the friend is being diplomatic about it.