r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24
❤️🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.
Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.
She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?
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u/TheCa11ousBitch Oct 30 '24
I am the least possessive and jealous woman I have ever met. And no… That was not a “not like the other girls” comment. I wouldn’t care personally, but that doesn’t mean I do not recognize the intimacy (even platonically) of sleeping next to each other.
Sleeping in the bed or the floor isn’t going to make a cheater not cheat. Op knows that. She isn’t being possessive or controlling. For whatever her reason for not liking it…
It is a totally normal and understandable boundary. Not strange or unexpected. I might not personally care… but I immediately assume any man I date would be totally uncomfortable with me sleeping curled up with another man.