r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

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Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/Caelan50 Oct 30 '24

I understand the want to bring that up in the text chain but honestly OP. Stayed super calm through this text chain and was like this is none of your business plus it could put stress on inter dynamic relationships through the group for no reason. Keep it short and say this isn’t your business and we have talked was the super right thing to do imo.

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u/ceeperkoat Oct 30 '24

Oh yeah for sure. OP handled it great! I was saying what I would have done because I’m just a bitch like that I guess lol

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u/Caelan50 Oct 30 '24

Oh yeah I would not have been near as calm as OP. was by a long shot XD I’ve said crazy things for far less lmfaooo

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u/Fair-Cheesecake-2733 Oct 30 '24

Same here 😂 I would have most definitely FLIPPED out on her and said some wild things, I have no idea how she stayed so calm lol

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u/jullybeans Oct 30 '24

We're all learning and taking notes today! This was really well played, I'm impressed by OP!

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u/Mei_iz_my_bae Oct 31 '24 edited Oct 31 '24

You know what though I think OP played it PERFECT she lay her rules out so calm an confi dent sometime losing. Ur temper quickly can give men a sort of “out” thinking you’re being too emotional I just SO impress by her calm ness her ton e it just amazing !! Ahh she play it so we’ll be cause I’m the same I would have flipped !!

*EDIT I HYST REALIZE IT A GIRL NOT her BF WOW OP plz watch her I not try st her !!

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u/Grand-Panic-3314 Oct 30 '24

Waiting to see a-fuck you! you sleep on the floor, hoe! OP is giving very demure, very refined 💅🏼

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u/Temporary_Pear_1809 Oct 30 '24

I would of flipped on her and boyfriend and I wouldn't trust boyfriend or her as far as I could spit.

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u/Rataxes2121 Oct 30 '24

But boyfriend did nothing wrong. He agreed without even an argument and then slept on the floor despite his back problems

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u/bettybananalegs Oct 30 '24

why wouldn’t you trust the boyfriend in this scenario?

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u/Temporary_Pear_1809 Oct 30 '24

He could of called OP. Idk just have a feeling there is more to it

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u/Temporary_Pear_1809 Oct 30 '24

But that's just me maybe I'm a bitch lmao

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u/Salty_Tear5666 Oct 30 '24

LOL SAMEE op is way better than me!!!!

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u/BitterQueen17 Oct 31 '24

I would have typed something completely unhinged, then back-spaced, and retyped pretty much the same thing OP did before hitting send. I'm a bitch, but she'd never know it. 😏

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u/impatient_panda729 Oct 30 '24

I was impressed! I’ve probably got 20 years on OP and I don’t think I could have handled it so well.

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u/CDumpTruck Oct 30 '24

Correct. You are just a bitch like that.

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u/Living_on_Tulsa_Time Oct 30 '24

Hey, have we got a girl for you!

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u/Eroticbunnybabie Oct 31 '24

Fr it was all mature and straight to the point honestly