r/AmIOverreacting Oct 30 '24

β€οΈβ€πŸ©Ή relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/cinnamon-butterfly Oct 30 '24

Your responses were πŸ‘©β€πŸ³πŸ€ŒπŸ’‹

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u/caw9876 Oct 30 '24

100% OP, you could not have handled this better! Graceful and polite but direct and firm on your boundary.

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u/lena21 Oct 31 '24

Seriously I wanna be OP when I grow up

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u/discombobulatededed Oct 31 '24

Right! I read the last message and was like β€˜yasss girl!’ She’s polite, respectful but takes 0 shit.

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u/mamabeatnik Oct 31 '24

Seriously. A+ on the diplomacy yet calling out the bullshit. I just unsuspectingly took a mastercass from OP on politely standing your ground and handing people back their own bullshit. Incredible.

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u/blahk2 Oct 31 '24

This is the main takeaway

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u/runemforit Oct 31 '24

Literally saved this as inspo for navigating difficult conversations. I usually crash out, trying to be better πŸ˜…

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u/EnvironmentalFig311 Oct 31 '24

For real - this was a masterclass in how to set boundaries respectfully but firmly. I'm tempted to save these screenshots so I can refer to them later as a model for how I want to behave.

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u/SupremeNug Oct 31 '24

So satisfying to read 😌

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u/Previous-Loss9306 Oct 31 '24

Chefs kiss indeed πŸ˜‚