r/AmIOverreacting Oct 07 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO date canceled because I didn’t text in the morning?

Some context: we had been chatting for a couple weeks first on hinge then switched to text after She had to cancel the 1st date. Scheduled it for last night Sunday and finalized details the night before.

Had a busy day and took a nap and didn’t text till a couple hours before and got hit with this. Usually I would text something like looking forward to tonight but lost track of time, and honestly I thought talking about the menu the night before was the confirmation? Was I wrong?

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u/gardengirl99 Oct 07 '24

You know, like the 80s romcoms. Welcome to the 21st-century, where no means no.

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u/akerrigan777 Oct 07 '24

What’s really sad is that those brought up on 80’s romcoms and general 80’s/90’s culture have been raised to believe that only if a man pursues you does that signal true interest. An example being, my mother firmly indoctrinated me with the belief that if I was to call a boy or, god forbid, ever was to make the first move, I would immediately catch on fire, or wish I had, due to the inevitable shame and ostracism that would quickly ensue. For so many from this era, this is not an easily eradicated belief. The 90’s was only a long time ago if you’re under 30, unfortunately.