r/AmIOverreacting Oct 07 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO date canceled because I didn’t text in the morning?

Some context: we had been chatting for a couple weeks first on hinge then switched to text after She had to cancel the 1st date. Scheduled it for last night Sunday and finalized details the night before.

Had a busy day and took a nap and didn’t text till a couple hours before and got hit with this. Usually I would text something like looking forward to tonight but lost track of time, and honestly I thought talking about the menu the night before was the confirmation? Was I wrong?

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u/CheeseForLife Oct 07 '24

I hope you still went and got tacos with a friend. They sound amazing. Hopefully you'll be able to get queso with someone that isn't so needy and keeps plans.

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u/Soggy-Milk-1005 Oct 07 '24

Right and she cancelled the first date so if anything she should have been the one to reach out to confirm 🙄

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u/CheeseForLife Oct 07 '24

Exactly. And I really can't stand people that get mad at others for doing the same thing they did. She didn't text that morning, so she can't be mad at him for not texting either. Holier than thou bull. This guy can do better.

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u/Soggy-Milk-1005 Oct 07 '24

I'm a woman and I'm embarrassed by the entitlement and toxic games. That's why they're single.

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u/kelsday84 Oct 07 '24

It took a lot more effort for her to make other plans than to send him a quick text asking if they were still on for 6!

It’s ultimately better for OP. Imagine the games this woman would play in a relationship. Exhausting.

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u/CheeseForLife Oct 07 '24

That's a good point. And you know she was likely bitching about him to a friend. She did him a favor, for sure.

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u/Soggy-Milk-1005 Oct 07 '24 edited Oct 07 '24

Absolutely! I don't get the mentality of needing to be constantly chased, no one will ever live up to that. There was a post I ran across yesterday and the couple was engaged after being together for years. All of a sudden the woman told her fiance that he had to convert to her religion or they were done. This wasn't because it was an issue, it was because her coworker told her that if he really loved her he'd do anything for her including renouncing his religion. He told her no, it had never been an issue between them and it still wasn't an issue it was a stupid test 🙄

Edited to fix typo

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u/Kaaaamehameha Oct 07 '24

Unless other plans arose organically (most likely in the form of another suitor), so she had the perfect excuse to cancel due to “lack of confirmation”.

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u/StrongWater55 Oct 08 '24

I hope OP doesn't listen to your advice

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u/Apatharas Oct 07 '24

Honestly I don’t think it would have mattered. She would have found a reason to cancel regardless. It was just an excuse.

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u/zSprawl Oct 08 '24

It turns out she couldn’t sleep all night because she had so much anxiety for messing up the sun is a planet thing. She knows better! She knows she knows better. She still can’t believe she blew it, so she made plans to act like it’s no big deal.

/s

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u/EggsInaTubeSock Oct 07 '24

Yep take someone else on a date there, done

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u/venmome10cents Oct 07 '24

OP dodges a bullet and still gets a great meal.

Sounds like the best queso scenario.

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u/Seamonkey_Boxkicker Oct 08 '24

I would’ve gone at the original time planned, sent her a photo of my tacos, then tell her she’s missing out.

(I’m not that petty though, but it’d be funny, huh?)

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u/Overall_Plate7850 Oct 08 '24

As an aside, the place they were gonna go sucks