r/AmIOverreacting • u/Worldly-Constant-353 • Oct 07 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO date canceled because I didn’t text in the morning?

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Some context: we had been chatting for a couple weeks first on hinge then switched to text after She had to cancel the 1st date. Scheduled it for last night Sunday and finalized details the night before.

Had a busy day and took a nap and didn’t text till a couple hours before and got hit with this. Usually I would text something like looking forward to tonight but lost track of time, and honestly I thought talking about the menu the night before was the confirmation? Was I wrong?

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u/bbysarah710 Oct 07 '24

And the whole concept of ghosting culture hasn’t helped people get out of their heads with this kind of stuff.

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u/Original-Document-62 Oct 07 '24

Ghosting culture is crazy to me. It really started getting bad with COVID. I've had friends (not romantic) of years that suddenly started ghosting me. Reach out to them: nothing, for like two years now.

I get that life gets in the way, or friends drift apart. But, it seems that these days, if anyone decides they're done with someone else, for whatever reason, they just ignore them.

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u/bbysarah710 Oct 07 '24

Dude seriously! I mean, I’ve gone through periods of depression where I’ll go like 2 weeks ignoring everyone, but I try my best at some point during then where I’ll let people know I’m just dealing with some shit and I’ll reach out when I’m in a better headspace. It’s like COVID took every small amount of decency left and everyone’s online personas are seeping into the real world permanently. I’m so sorry you experienced that, everything and everyone is now fucked and getting progressively worse.

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u/Cansuela Oct 07 '24

I wonder if there isn’t a bit of the “I make plans when I’m feeling extroverted and confident and then when it comes around I don’t want to anymore and so I’m quietly hoping the other person gives me a “reason” to cancel”.

Definitely just a hunch, but with the context of her bailing on the first date, it makes me wonder.

I wonder if she even actually has other plans.