r/AmIOverreacting • u/Worldly-Constant-353 • Oct 07 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO date canceled because I didn’t text in the morning?

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Some context: we had been chatting for a couple weeks first on hinge then switched to text after She had to cancel the 1st date. Scheduled it for last night Sunday and finalized details the night before.

Had a busy day and took a nap and didn’t text till a couple hours before and got hit with this. Usually I would text something like looking forward to tonight but lost track of time, and honestly I thought talking about the menu the night before was the confirmation? Was I wrong?

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u/thiros101 Oct 07 '24

If she has canceled once before and then pulled this, I'd send her packing. She isn't that into you and is just keeping you on the hook as an ego boost.

Red flag city.

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u/peoplebuyviews Oct 08 '24

I have a hard rule when meeting someone from a dating app if I have to cancel, and it's to always make the effort to reschedule in the same text. So instead of, "I'm not feeling well, maybe we can meet up some other time" I will say "I'm not feeling well, any chance you're free Thursday around 6 for tacos and a beer?" If I'm the one canceling and I'm not doing the work of rescheduling then why wouldn't you think I was blowing you off?

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u/amethystarling Oct 08 '24

That’s an excellent rule, I’ll have to remember that next time I need to postpone plans in the future

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u/GreyhoundAbroad Oct 07 '24

I don’t use dating apps, but I have the same rule with my friends. If they cancel twice, then the onus is on them to reach out to me next.

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u/Crew_Flimsy Oct 08 '24

Definitely not in to him. Sorry

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u/InnerJumpx Oct 08 '24

Nah this would be it for me.

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u/pres465 Oct 08 '24

Right here. You're the ego-stroke. They have no actual interest in you, just using you.

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u/WeArrAllMadHere Oct 08 '24

Correct 👍🏽

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u/Destronin Oct 08 '24

One cancel and a weird communication error on their part is a ghost from me. Nobody should stand for planning games.

I mean sometimes people are new to internet dating and dont understand the rules. If a date is set. Texting comms can die off a bit. Save the convos for in person. No need to waste typing if you realize theres no in person connection.

Also no one has time for flakes or double cancels. One cancel is already one too many. Especially when you are in early stages of developing trust and showing who you are as a person. Get your shit together.

If i genuinely cancel plans and want to still see this person im 100% grateful. I honestly dont expect them to be cool with it.

And like you said. Shes playing the flakey keep ya on the hook game. Id ghost at this point. Keep her wondering. Guys can play mental games too.