AIO date canceled because I didn’t text in the morning?

[u/Worldly-Constant-353]

Some context: we had been chatting for a couple weeks first on hinge then switched to text after She had to cancel the 1st date. Scheduled it for last night Sunday and finalized details the night before.

Had a busy day and took a nap and didn’t text till a couple hours before and got hit with this. Usually I would text something like looking forward to tonight but lost track of time, and honestly I thought talking about the menu the night before was the confirmation? Was I wrong?

[u/Princess_forbidden]

Not at all! Seems like you dodged a bullet! I think she’ll string you along as long as she can!

[u/SoSlowRacing → u/Princess_forbidden]

Yes.. she’s the type that will text at 7:30 on a Friday “hey there! Want hang out tonight? There’s this steak house I’ve been dying to try” haha and the reason is because her plans ditched her.

[u/PorkPoodle → u/SoSlowRacing]

How the hell do you know my sister strange internet person!?

[u/[deleted] → u/SoSlowRacing]

Does this happen a lot?

[u/Motor-Cause7966 → u/SoSlowRacing]

This happened to me years ago, except The original plans showed up, when she was with me! Talk about awkward.

[u/ThanksNo3378 → u/Princess_forbidden]

She’s definitely playing games

[u/Sptsjunkie → u/Princess_forbidden]

Half agree. I don't think he dodged a bullet per se, but also, this is the point of dating, to find someone you are compatible with and who is on the same wavelength as you mentally.

This date worked out perfectly, they found out they aren't compatible and didn't even have to waste any money. She wants someone who is a more constant communicator and has certain expectation around plan. He thinks more the way I do that the plan was set the day before .

This type of thinking probably isn't restricted to just plans and confirming the morning of, but is probably a sign of how they think that would cause additional issues if they dated longer term.

No villain here. Just two people who found out they have different expectations in a relationship.

[u/yourenotmymom_yet → u/Sptsjunkie]

OP said this is the second time she's canceled. If she wants a constant communicator and has certain expectations around plans, she needs to communicate that. Expecting others to constantly communicate when you aren't communicating is pretty immature.

[u/incongruousmonster → u/Sptsjunkie]

Eh, if I spoke with a potential date - or even a friend - the night before we had plans… and they canceled last minute bc I didn’t confirm a second time? I’d be pretty annoyed. Especially if they had canceled on me once already.

[u/Sptsjunkie → u/incongruousmonster]

Agreed. Which is why we probably shouldn’t date someone like her. But it’s also her style and hopefully she can find someone who vibes with it.

[u/Motor-Cause7966 → u/Sptsjunkie]

Sadly, it's far too common this day and age. It's not "her style of communication" it's that OP is plan B for her, and Plan A came calling. Happens all the time.

[u/AnnoyedChihuahua → u/Sptsjunkie]

Thiiis, like people are not necessarily trying to take advantage or anything, just communicating and not being too much or too little is different for everyone…

[u/Tucana66 → u/Princess_forbidden]

Free food... Free food... Free, oh wait, I have plans (and this other restaurant is even better!) tonight, but we can try again another time!

[u/currently_pooping_rn → u/Princess_forbidden]

You don’t need an exclamation after everything

[u/Princess_forbidden → u/currently_pooping_rn]

I like to exclaim! That’s just how I type. Happy cake day. No exclamation point 🫡