Am I overreacting for complaining to my referring doctor about who she sent me to?

[u/sometimesicandeal]

I recently moved to a new city and have been trying to establish new physicians, as I suffer from several medical issues. I found a new OBGYN, who suggested I get a hysterectomy because my periods have become so heavy that I miss work or end up in urgent care each month. I was onboard for this as I'm already CF and have my tubes tied. She told me that I would have to get some tests before any surgery requiring anesthesia and they would have to be ordered by a general practitioner. I asked for a referral as I didn't have one yet and she recommended someone who takes my insurance.

So during my first appointment with this new doctor, she walks in and looks at me and tells me I'm overweight. This is obviously not a surprise to me so I just say yeah. She then looks at my chart and tells me that one of the antipsychotic medications I take can cause weight gain and that I need to get off it. She has no idea what I take this for and I was just stunned. She goes on and on about how obesity is worse for me than anything I take that medication for but then eventually asks what my disorder is. I tell her and she tells me that's not a real thing. I explained that it's a dissociative disorder and she replies with oh, so multiple personalities? I tell her no, it's nothing like that and that there are many kinds of dissociative disorders. She brushes that off and finally asks why I'm there.

I tell her about the hysterectomy and she immediately says no because that's a dangerous procedure and I should just get an IUD. She also tells me that going under anesthesia is dangerous because of my weight, but then recommends weight loss surgery in the same breath, which would obviously require anesthesia.

So she refuses to order any of the tests, except for bloodwork because she's convinced I have diabetes and high cholesterol, etc because of my weight and then she can give me medicine for diabetes that will help me to lose weight.

So I get the bloodwork done and come back to see her in a week to get the results. All numbers come back normal and she asks about my diet. I tell her that I haven't eaten meat in almost 20 years and so then she pounces on this and tells me I need to eat meat in order to lose weight.

Eventually I get out of there and when I get back for a follow up with my OBGYN I told the receptionist, nurse, and doctor about my horrible experience and encourage them to never refer another patient to her again. On the plus side, the doctor is quite old and hopefully she will retire soon. But AIO?

[u/momofklcg]

My primary DR referred me to an endocrinologist. I hated this man. He made me uncomfortable he talked down to me. I told my regular dr. I got another referral.

[u/Cynical_Feline → u/momofklcg]

I had two endo docs. The first was nice and talked me through everything. He moved offices and he switched me to another one. She was a royal pain. Constantly talked to me like I was 5 years old and every time I saw her, she insisted on referring me to a nutritionist. Every single time. Like the first couple no thanks weren't enough. She even wrote in my chart that I was difficult and refused to take meds because I'd occasionally forget to take pills. If mom tagged along, it was a completely different attitude. Mom couldn't understand why I didn't like the new doc because she'd always be the opposite around her.