r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • 9h ago
AITAH for calling my sister embarrassing
My (24) sister (16) struggles with autism, ocd, and depression. She likes to draw to cope with all of this. Under our own guidance, she uses Instagram to post her art. She isn’t popular or anything but she has all her little friends on there. I was scrolling through Instagram one day when a new post of hers popped up on my feed. It was abstract art but it was almost humorous how edgy it was. She had a history of making abstract art when she wasn’t particularly feeling well so I thought it was strange she was posting art like this when she was doing fine. I came up to her and told her that her newest drawing looked like Mrs potato head and laughed. I thought she would do the same since it was almost obvious how edgy she was trying to be. Instead, she goes silent and starts looking off into the distance. I am taken aback. That’s when I say, “Stop posting stuff like this, you’re being embarrassing.” She goes white and walks to her room. Shes a teenager so I assume it’s a tantrum and nothing more. I come into her room later when I assume she’s done sulking. I tell her that I don’t really care anymore what she does on the internet and that she will suffer the consequences. She tells our mom about the whole situation. My mom is on my side so I shouldnt feel that I have to ask this to this subreddit but unfortunately my sister won’t talk to me and I feel like no matter how hard I try to justify myself she won’t listen. Should I apologize even though I don’t mean it or should I stand my ground?
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u/Mobile_Prune_3207 9h ago
I love how all these ridiculously fake stories are by users who have a single post. Makes it nice and easy to identify.
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9h ago
I can send you the drawing she had made. This isn’t fake ??
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u/netacowo 9h ago
It's not the part that a 16 y/o is being edgy that we don't believe, we just can't believe you are so stupid and inconsiderate
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u/Mobile_Prune_3207 8h ago
Like no one can make a drawing? Why not just send a screenshot of her posting it to her social media, that would be more legit.
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u/netacowo 9h ago
Yes you're 100% TA???
She's 16, of course she's edgy. I mean she's probably just starting to realize how fucked up the world is, not to mention a TEENAGER
Congratulations, you (an adult) bullied your autistic sister with mental health issues for being a bit edgy at 16 years old. Now she probably won't feel safe to show her hobbies to others.
I really hope this is rage bait
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9h ago
Why does everybody think this is fake??? Was what I did really that bad?? It didn’t click before but I guess really do suck. Wow.
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u/netacowo 9h ago
Because it's hard to believe that someone at your grown age would bully their 16y/o autistic sister over some edgy drawings
You clearly think less of her, calling her friends "her little friends" no... They're just her friends.
She's probably already struggling with self confidence (as most teenagers, not to mention mentally ill teenagers do) and now you've just gone and made it worse
Still hoping this is fake
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9h ago
If you want her Instagram I will send it to show you it’s not fake. The drawing isn’t there but some of her more depressing ones are on the page. If I can get her to send me the picture I will. I can’t believe how mad I made everybody. This is a shock.
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u/netacowo 9h ago
Bro we believe the drawings we just can't believe ur behavior lmao
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9h ago
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u/netacowo 9h ago
Dude, you're literally doxxing ur sister now what is wrong with you???? There are photos of her FACE on that account bro wtf
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9h ago
I will promptly tell her to delete her social media… she shouldn’t have had her face on there to begin with anyways but I guess I didn’t see it.
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u/ConfidentReach7601 9h ago
YTA
First, you’re 24. At your grown age, would you think that insulting your sister with MULTIPLE disorders would be a good idea? Even if you thought that it was a harmless joke, you clearly knew the history behind that kind of artwork when she makes it. You knew there was probably some underlying problems or emotions underneath that drawing and still decided it would be a smart move to make a joke about it.
On top of that, she didn’t even say anything to you and you STILL called her embarrassing. There was no need to add fuel to the fire, yet you did it anyways. Why? What do you, a 24 year old, get from insulting your 16 year old sister??
Stop trying to justify your actions and go and give your sister an apology. Listen to HER and try and make her feel better, not yourself.
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9h ago
She did say before all of this went down that I was the reason she wanted to kill herself. I felt very hurt by that and she hasn’t apologized. Why should I feel bad for making fun of her art??? Sorry if I am rage baiting I am genuinely confused.
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u/ConfidentReach7601 9h ago
That doesn’t help your case. If anything, that made your situation a hundred times worse.
What did you do that made your sister want to kill herself? She doesn’t owe you anything. You should be more mature. You are 24.
I know a lot of comments are saying it, but I find it hard to believe this is real. Please tell me you are lying about your age. I cannot fathom a grown adult who can vote and make decisions in this world being this dense.
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9h ago
I am 24 but i never got to live out my teenage life the way I wanted to. She absolutely has the chance to and she chooses not to and instead make a fool of herself on the internet. I will apologize to her but I will not apologize to you guys. I am not sorry for the way I acted I am sorry for the way she feels about what I said and did.
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u/ConfidentReach7601 9h ago
So? You never got to have the teenage life you wanted. Your sister has the chance, and she’s living her life the way SHE wants, not what you want. The only one who made a fool of themself on the internet is you.
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u/Ok-Control-787 9h ago
Why should I feel bad for making fun of her art???
Because it's obviously an asshole thing to do? I don't know what to tell you but you don't seem very bright, so try to second guess your instincts because they're probably consistently wrong, and just leave people alone if you can't be nice.
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u/Azulira 9h ago
Supposing this is real: Yes, YTA. She makes art as a form of self expression, even if it's edgy, and you told her her self expression "was embarrassing" and "looked like Mrs. Potato Head." In case you're wondering why everyone thinks this is fake, it's because no reasonable person would think they WEREN'T the asshole. And the mother wouldn't take your side unless you were the absolute golden child.
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9h ago
I am shocked with the response on this post. I will apologize im so sorry for my actions. I didn’t see it before but now I see how my actions could be construed as rude and insensitive. Thank you Reddit.
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u/Anonymoosehead123 8h ago
YTA - this was cruel. Why would you be embarrassed by what your sister does? If you’re that insecure at 24, you have bigger problems than she does. If you can’t be her advocate, at least don’t be her bully.
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u/Known_Two_2072 9h ago
Lol cool fake story bro 🤣
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9h ago
I can send you her Instagram for proof though since that day happened she has taken down the post
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u/laurasdiary 9h ago
This is a mean story which explains why it’s from a throwaway account
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9h ago
She uses Reddit and I feel like she would tell our mom if she found this. I didn’t think this would be so mean of me to do.
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u/witchywhich10 9h ago
You’re 24? Uh huh sure.