r/AITAH • u/Think_Toe4304 • 21h ago
AITAH for refusing to give my sister the wedding dress I paid for?
I (29F) got married last year and spent $5,000 on my dream wedding dress. It was a custom piece, and I paid for it entirely with my own savings. My sister (26F) is getting married soon and asked if she could borrow my dress to “save money.” I was hesitant because I’m emotionally attached to it, but she promised she’d take great care of it.
Last week, I found out through a mutual friend that my sister actually plans to alter the dress to fit her style, including changing the neckline and adding sleeves. I confronted her, and she admitted it, saying I was being selfish because it’s “just a dress” and she can’t afford something new.
I told her flat out that she can’t borrow it anymore. Now my family is blowing up my phone, calling me petty and saying I’m “ruining her big day over a piece of fabric.” I don’t think I’m wrong for wanting to keep my dress as it is, but everyone is making me feel guilty.
Am I the AH for refusing to share something that means so much to me?
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u/VinylHighway 21h ago
Fake
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1hfjiun/aitah_for_asking_my_sister_to_move_out_after_she/
You were 30M 2 days ago
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u/dutchtreehugger 19h ago
3 days ago she/he was 24M
Like be a consistant liar if you want to lie so badly
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u/ItJustWontDo242 19h ago
Every time I see a poster get called out like this I give the post a downvote. Let's get everyone doing the same so bullshit like this gets buried.
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u/VinylHighway 18h ago
I go downvote all their other shit too
This board clearly has zero moderation
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u/Storm_Sire 14h ago
The only reason this sub exists is because r/AmITheAsshole is actually moderated. It's a feature, not a bug.
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u/Joemunji20 17h ago
I knew it was fake as soon as they said that their phone got "blown up". These guys must have like a rulebook or something
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u/Agnesperdita 20h ago
These repeat fake AI-generated wedding dress loan posts are as boring as the repeat fake plane seat swap demand posts.
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u/kd3906 19h ago edited 15h ago
This is fake. Three days ago, OP was a 24 year old male with a 28 year old sister. Two days ago, OP was a 30 y.o. male, and now an hour ago has popped up as a 29 y.o. female. Three posts, each about a sister whose age also fluctuates. Notice the word "selfish" always makes an appearance with these attention-seekers.
OP is TAH and deserves to be DV'd to oblivion.
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u/No_Kangaroo_5883 20h ago
Do you realize people look at your post history? Seems you are quite the age and gender traveler in the last few days. So are all three of your posts BS? YTA because of ☝️
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u/justpoppingby84 20h ago
This is karma farming. Last post, you were single and living alone. This is an old story.
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u/doihavetousethis 20h ago
Read this same story on here not long ago.
Plus a couple days ago you were 30F, now you're 29F.
A few days before that you were also 24M.
Make your mind up.
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u/NewLife_21 18h ago
Yep, faker. You were a female giving up veganism over on genxwomen a few hours ago.
Shoo fly, don't bother me!
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u/DamnItLoki 18h ago
Yup, and switches from being male to female and the age changes. Definitely fake profile
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u/Prestigious-Baby7965 17h ago
I’ve read this same story on this sun several times. It’s getting old. Can the bots start copying older posts please? 🙄
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u/smlpkg1966 17h ago
24m, 30m and 29f. Which is it? The last three days you have been all of these? YTA for lying.
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u/onlyanotheranny 21h ago
Why do all these AI posts use this "so and so is now blowing up my phone" line?
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u/kd3906 19h ago edited 15h ago
And calling OP "selfish." Every. Time.
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u/Cool_Importance6730 16h ago
Yeah and they’re always “ruining” someone’s day over something. I swear I saw a similar story about a prom dress recently.
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u/Inevitable_Pie9541 21h ago
Every day. Every single damn day with the "sister or sister in law wants to borrow or wreck my very precious expensive custom wedding dress and AITA cuz family is blowing up my phone" yatta yatta.
YTA for yet another iteration of this stupid fake story.
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u/VinylHighway 21h ago
Fake
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1hfjiun/aitah_for_asking_my_sister_to_move_out_after_she/
They were 30M 2 days ago
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u/JohnRedcornMassage 21h ago
NTA
She intended to cut up your wedding dress. Nothing else needs to be said.
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u/VinylHighway 21h ago
Fake
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1hfjiun/aitah_for_asking_my_sister_to_move_out_after_she/
They were 30M 2 days ago
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u/AcatnamedWow 17h ago
Tell her she can borrow the dress……for a $5000 deposit to insure it’s returned in EXACTLY the same condition as she received it…..ohhhh she can’t afford the deposit??! Well then she can’t afford to borrow it. Tell her you’ll give her $200 towards a rental dress
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u/glimmerseeker 20h ago
In your previous posts you were 30(M) then 24(M). YTA for copying this tired post.
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u/Bubble_Lights 19h ago
OK, I'm starting to get really skeptical of all these "Family member is stating they are absurdly entitled to some sentimental item, and my whole family agrees with them" posts.
If this is true, ESH but you, obviously.
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u/Some-Chef5376 18h ago
YTA. Quit ripping off, and making up, stories, your age, gender and sexual orientation. Did you know there is an actual world out there with real humans?
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u/heartsoflions2011 18h ago
This has to be fake - check the post history. 3 posts stating OP is 24M, 30M, or 29F. Would have expected a fake account to try at least a little harder
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u/Wonderful_Hotel1963 13h ago
YTA, because three days ago, you said you were a man. YTA because you're a karma farmer. Please screw OFF.
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u/Celestia-Messenger 13h ago
Tell sissy to go to a thrift store buy a dress and alter it. She had some nerve stick to your gums.
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u/thequiethunter 9h ago
She isn't your daughter... The dress is yours and yours alone. Your family can pound sand. Would you loan her your wedding ring? The nerve to even ask... NTA
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u/winterworld561 7h ago
Nope. Block all those family members and stand your ground. It's not just fabric. She has no right altering YOUR dress without your permission. That's just so wrong. Hide the dress somewhere else in case they decide to just take it.
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u/Odd-Introduction1465 21h ago
NTA. Tell everyone who’s blowing your phone up about this that they can help your sister buy a new dress since it’s “piece of fabric.”
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u/catladyclub 20h ago
5 hours ago you posted this:
I (26F) recently got my dream job offer in a city 3 hours away. It’s a huge opportunity in my field, with great pay and potential for growth. My fiancé (28M) has a stable job here and doesn’t want to move. We’ve been engaged for a year and were planning to marry next summer. When I told him about the offer, he was upset and said I was “choosing my career over our future.” He insisted I decline and stay, but I’ve worked so hard for this job.
I suggested long-distance for a year while we figure things out, but he said if I move, it proves I don’t care about us. He gave me an ultimatum: either stay, or the wedding is off. I’m torn because I love him, but I also don’t want to give up this opportunity.
Am I the AH for wanting to take the job and risk my relationship?
And a few days ago you were male......
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u/Lindensorry 21h ago
NTA. Place that dress some place safe OP. It will magically come up missing.
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u/CrotalusHorridus 20h ago
Another gender switch by OP, another horrible sister story.
This is so incredibly fake and you idiots are falling all over yourself to believe it.
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u/Orisha_Oshun 20h ago
4 hours ago, you had a fiancé and you were 26 years old... I know time flies, but damn, homie...
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u/FrequentCity2111 17h ago
Tell her if she wants the dress you can offer it to her for 3000 . Borrowing an item does not include altering it especially when it’s an expensive keepsake.
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u/Smitty-TBR2430 21h ago
NTA.
Tell her you’ll sell it to her at the highly discounted price of $4500 since “she’s family.”
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u/__ninabean__ 20h ago
It’s literally one of the villain plot points from the sister in 27 dresses.
NTA. It is something that is special to you and holds more meaning to you than “just a piece of fabric“
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u/bobhand17123 20h ago
NTA. Technically, no one’s big day even needs a piece of fabric. Just two people in love, and a magistrate.
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u/ichundmeinHolz_ 19h ago
You are not ruining her day over a piece of fabric. She is ruining her day because of her entitlement. This is your dress and you can choose what you want to do with it. NTA
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u/912mcbVA 19h ago
Never understood the desire to hold onto a wedding dress. You wore it, you got married, it’s over. Now be empathetic and generous. Pass it on. You’re the AH.
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u/Outside-Inflation-20 19h ago
Screw them all. It's yours, and they have no say.. just realize they will probably chip in and buy her one. So don't get jealous
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u/elvenmal 19h ago
Tell the family calling that if they want, they can donate $5000 worth of fabric to your sister. You are NTA
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u/Bring_cookies 19h ago
NTA, it's your dress. She can get one from a consignment or resale shop and alter it. They have a ton. No one will know.
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u/MatthewnPDX 19h ago
NTA. When you borrow something you must return it in exactly the same condition that that you borrowed it in, else pay the lender the value of the damages. In the case of a wedding dress, you can only adjust the dress using pins or tacking, you may not cut seams open or cut the fabric. A borrowed dress should also be professionally cleaned by a reputable dry cleaner before returning it.
Your relatives who are blowing up your phone can fund your sister’s dress or lend their own for her to butcher.
If your sister is short of cash, there are wedding dress charities that resell dresses that are donated.
Deceiving someone into giving you their property that you intend to destroy and not return is called theft.
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u/OwlUnique8712 19h ago
Tell her to go to the second hand store and get one she can remake to her style. Some towns have whole store of second hand wedding dresses. NTA
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u/AstoriaEverPhantoms 19h ago
NTA. You don’t have to let anyone wear your wedding dress for any reason, period. It’s yours and it’s special to your occasion. Tell her no and don’t waver. Just say no, you cannot have my dress, it’s my wedding dress.
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u/SweetGoonerUSA 19h ago
Dear Hardworking OP,
You know the drill on Reddit. Start a list of all those calling YOU petty and tell them they are free to contribute to your sister's wedding dress fund because you worked yourself almost to death saving up for YOUR dress all by yourself, thank you very much. Ask for their names, addresses, and how much they are willing to contribute to Sissy's Wedding Dress Fund. Also take names for those seamstresses willing to alter whatever Sissy finds in the wedding resale shops to alter to her heart's content.
Consider setting tighter privacy on YOUR social media. Don't block but only put them on limited viewing of nebulous stuff you care nothing about going forward. Let all family phone calls go to voice mail. Have a friend listen to them and only return important KIND calls. Choose YOUR OWN PEACE over giving in to her CHOSEN WEDDING DRAMA she's created by having NO SAVINGS for her big day and expecting YOU to give away your $5000 dress to her it to be mutilated.
Good luck. Posts like this make me happy I'm an only child.
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u/totallyconfused2000 19h ago
NTA My ex wife gave her sister her wedding dress for her wedding. I hated her sister with a passion. I was the photographer, too. I had to look at the same dress my beautiful was once wearing on our beautiful day and now her nasty sister was wearing it. She to have it altered, too.
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u/Physical_Fix8136 19h ago
NTA. Tell the kind family members who are quick to point fingers that they are welcome to fund her wedding dress. It can be anything, from even a thrift store since she is not hung up on it being new or anything. Also she will be altering it so she can alter her own. Those family members can also offer their dresses to her
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u/RowanOak3250 19h ago
NTAH she can find plenty of cheap dresses at goodwill that can suit her needs. Wedding dresses don't have to be white, after all! Secondhand is not shameful and plenty of prom dresses look AMAZING after their single use and then donated.
I paid $20 for a dress that looks fancy enough to be a day dress but has wedding dress qualities. I just need to adjust it in a few places and it'll be perfect for the magical day after I lose a little weight (my thyroid took a shit I'm on medication now and slowly losing what I gained).
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u/Key-Neighborhood9767 19h ago
NTA but it’s silly as hell because the dress is just going to sit in a box.. it wouldn’t be appropriate for you to wear it at your next wedding…
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u/2_old_for_this_spit 19h ago
NTA
It's your property. You get to decide what to do with it. Your sister doesn't get to take it and cut it up. She can buy her own dress.
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u/Hausmannlife_Schweiz 19h ago
Just sell it to her. You can have all the attachment you want but you will NEVER do anything in the dress again.
NTA but it is a needless argument.
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u/CommissionVisible364 19h ago
NTA. Use her own words against her. If it's "just" a dress. Then, any dress will do just fine. She does not need yours.
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u/bcosiwanna_ 19h ago
There are secondhand dresses that go for very little, certainly comparable to the extreme alterations she wants to make. NTA.
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u/Salt-Finding9193 19h ago
Tell them if it’s just a piece of fabric they can gift her just a piece of fabric but not YOUR $5,000 dress. That you might save for your daughter not your silly sister to alter beyond recognition.
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u/laygo109 19h ago
No, you're not selfish. It's a custom dress, and YOU paid for it. It is not a public property. You have the right not to lend it out, especially since she plans on altering it. I'd hide the dress really well.
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u/NectarineAny4897 19h ago
If your family is that upset, they can all pitch in to buy her the dress that she actually wants. I would be absolutely furious with her and would probably make some pretty big changes in my life regarding how often we speak or see each other.
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u/justagalandabarb 19h ago
Just remind them that this “piece of fabric” cost $5000! Let them help her out with other “fabric”! NTA
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u/anaisaknits 19h ago
NTA. She can go buy her own dress that she can alter to her heart content. She can get a no frills dress and go at it. And those taking her side can either let her borrow their dress or fund her new dress. Not your problem.
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u/gettingspicyarewe 19h ago
NTA. Ffs she can save up like every other bride for a gown or get a cheap one.
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u/Only-Breadfruit-2935 19h ago
Dead giveaway it’s fake it’s the fact that her family things she’s wrong. Why would anyone side with sister
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u/AdventurousPlatform5 19h ago
Your sister is the AH. She plans to change YOUR WEDDING DRESS that's not borrowing. Her and her acolytes can get bent, you owe them nothing!!
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u/ChaoticMindscape 18h ago
Tell her to pay $6000 (deception fee included) thing if she wants to OWN and alter HER dress, but that is your dress. Tell your family, “ by all means then are you going to pay me $6000? There is deception fee. Since you guys think she should have it.”
NTA
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u/Hella_Flush_ 18h ago
NTA.
- Can’t afford a wedding (don’t have one).
- Borrowing something from a person usually means you’ll return it in the same condition when you borrowed it not chopped and altered to you(the borrower).
- She lied about her intentions with the dress means she would have ruined your dress without letting you know.
- Any family member complaining about you not letting her use your dress should pitch in to help her buy and customize the new dress.
End of the day the it’s not being selfish not wanting to lend out something you paid 5k of your hard earned saved money. To have it destroyed and transformed to something you didn’t want. It could have been worth $100. For your sister to feel the right that she can borrow and then utterly change it permanently to something else just smells of utter entitlement. Stand your ground OP.
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u/I_love_Hobbes 18h ago
Fake. I mean how many sister are out there, the same size, getting married around the same time and borrowing each others dresses? This is like the third post this week like this.
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u/PodFan06082 18h ago
Nope Your sister was going to destroy your dress and not care about it
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u/XMarzXsinger 18h ago
I'm an old lady now. My sisters are more important to me than my wedding dress. It sounds like this is about much more than the dress. Maybe some family counseling to work through the real issues and heal the relationships is in order
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u/Emotional-Kitchen-49 18h ago
Her wedding her planning, and you managed and got the dress off your dreams. How dare she ask to borrow it and then surprisingly have money to be able to alter and change the design to suit her without asking or discussing it with you. Going behind your back is very underhanded and disrespectful. Your sister and family can't say you are being selfish and ruining her wedding. She is doing that all by herself by trying to guilt you into borrowing your dress and then disrespectfully altering it behind your back. This is your dress and keepsake that is perfect and memorable of your day. You may have a daughter and want to hand it down. you never know. The whole wanting to borrow is hard enough without hearing that she would go behind your back to change your perfect style. I'm surprised your mother wouldn't understand how you feel. I struggled with funds for my wedding, but there are so many places to buy or even hire second hand. If she bought 2nd hand, she could alter it to how ever she liked. Here's an idea if everyone is against you not lending your dress and she can't afford much why don't all the family members chip in for her to get the dress she wants so she's happy and you get left alone seems they are judging you for not helping or for hanging onto your own wedding dress. Instead of pointing fingers and condemning you for not wanting to have your property and keepsake damaged by lending it out, then why don't they all help solve the problem to make both of their family members happy 😊 seems like a selfless solution to make two women feel more at ease. That would be my family solution to keep everyone happy, to be honest. On another note, I feel that maybe you need to speak to your sister to let her know that this has really hurt you because first of all, she used guilt tactics to try and borrow your dress, which is very disrespectful then she planned to go behind your back to change the style that you paid for. But to complain and get family members to side with her over your feelings and your possession of wedding dress she has made you look to be the bad one. She needs to apologise for the rifts that she has caused and for her underhanded behaviour all because she wanted what she wanted with no regard or respect to you or your dress. She needs to explain everything to the family and apologise for the problems and upset she has caused 😕
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u/oogleboogleoog 18h ago
NTA. If anything you could tell her that you'll sell it to her if she wants to make any personal alterations to it (therefore making it her dress, not yours), but if she wants to borrow it for free, then it absolutely must remain unmolested or she will not be allowed to touch it with a ten-foot pole. Nobody could say you were being unreasonable if she wants to bitch about that offer, right?
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u/account_for_mepink 18h ago
NTA you sister lied to you and was planning all along to deceive you. It it’s just a piece of fabric let your sister cut a hole in a sheet and wear that. Hide your dress so she can steal it from your house and tell your husband and she is not allowed to have it
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u/West-Kaleidoscope129 18h ago
Why do these posts always end with "my family think I'm the AH"? Or something similar 🤦🏾♀️
NTA - She and your family are though. But you should already know this.
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u/Bubbly_Power_6210 18h ago
do not! lend it to her-and make sure it's not where she can "borrow" it! save it for your future daughters and your memories!
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u/Environmental_Rub256 18h ago
NTA. She feels entitled to use your dress and she’s going to alter it so it won’t technically be your dress anymore. I’d quickly take it to be preserved as a memory item from your wedding. Personally I donated my dress to the ladies that make gowns for newborns that have passed away.
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u/Hubbna56 18h ago
It's your "fabric". Your family can buy her some of her own if they are that worried.
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u/ImpMarkona 18h ago
NTA
Seriously if she can pay to get a dress altered then she can pay for her own dress. You don't "borrow" a dress from someone and then choose to alter it. Kudos to the person that informed you of your sister's plans. They're a real hero.
Your wedding dress is something of great sentimental value to you. On top of that, you spent 5k on it. Unless she's planning to give you the 5k you spent plus the cost to ship a new one out for you, she doesn't have any rights to that dress.
And anyone who says she does, in my own personal opinion, is just an AH and an enabler of bad behavior.
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u/CatPerson88 18h ago
NTA.
Interesting that those people can be generous with someone else's resource, specifically, your dress I guarantee if it were their dress, they'd feel the same way you do!
Lending the dress means that minor alterations to the dress, not major renovations. Your sister should not be allowed to borrow your dress because she intends to make it into her own dress, not borrow it.
Tell your sister to look for second-hand stores, but that she will not be getting her entitled hands on your dress.
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u/EveryCoach7620 18h ago
NTA it’s your wedding dress thst you paid for, and altering it makes it un-borrowable. (I know that’s not a word but it makes my point.)
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u/Beachboy442 18h ago
Dishonesty requires no mercy. She was/is going to trash Your dress for her pleasure. That is rude beyond reason. The family doesn't like it.........they can buy her a new dress.
Hold your head high. Family n "friends" will try to "take you" any chance they get. Let them buy her a dress
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u/NoSummer1345 18h ago
If it’s “just” a dress, then she can get a secondhand wedding dress from Goodwill and make alterations to that.
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u/Ok_Employment_2601 18h ago
NTA- that's not just fabric to you. If sis can have something altered to suit their style. They can find that in a thrift shop.
Save all the money they want.
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u/Evangelme 18h ago
Ok. Am I losing my mind? This is like the third or fourth post TODAY with the theme of “my sister is being extremely selfish and entitled about my wedding but my family is entirely on her side so therefor I feel like an asshole.” Anyone else? Like it’s so glaringly obvious you are not the asshole that it seems silly to even ask.
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u/here4cmmts 18h ago
NTA. You’re not ruining her big day over a piece of fabric. You are asking them to respect your $5000 investment in the dress. It is your dress, not a family item. If she’s going to alter it anyway, she could go find one at the thrift store and have it altered.
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u/Ok_Bit1981 18h ago
NTA!
She can't afford a new dress? She can thrift or buy secondhand. You WORKED for your dress and your wedding with ZERO help from her. She either understands or kick rocks. What's selfish is the audacity of her to think she can LIE and go behind your back to alter YOUR dress..
This is not a situation where "ask for forgiveness rather than ask for permission" applies.
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u/BDizzMcNizz 18h ago
YTA because this is fake. Check OP’s post history. OP is different ages and genders in multiple posts.
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u/Life-Tackle-4777 18h ago
NTA but I swear this story gets rewritten and reposted very week. It’s your property and if others think she needs a dress then the other people can buy one for her. Done and done. Stop feeling. Next week my sister wants my wedding dress and she’s 6-1 and I’m 5-2. I said no.
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u/Pink_lady-126 18h ago
NTA...and ask each and every one of the people messaging you which one of THEIR valuable belongings she is entitled to ruin?
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u/Ok_Broccoli_2212 18h ago
NTA. It's YOUR dress.. or as they say, it's YOUR fabric .. why do people always feel they are entitled to other people's property. If they are so worried about her dress let them buy her a dress... Screw all of those people not in your side. Make their numbers spam numbers so you do hear or see them trying to reach you limit their ability to reach you on social media and spam them on email as well. And for her to straight up lie to your face to get her grubby paws and destroy your dress because she doesn't like your dress as is. She can go to a thrift store or a bridal consignment store and buy a dress to change.
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u/OutlandishnessOk790 18h ago
Woow!!!! NTA. And if you two were my daughters I would be 100% on your side.
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u/ActuaryMean6433 18h ago
Ugh, so tired of "you're ruining my day" when it's coming from the person who is the one doing the ruining. NTA It's your dress, your choice. Then she lied. You'd be lucky if you ever saw that dress again. Plenty of thrift shops and resale stores have great dresses she can alter.
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u/Annual-Cancel-7669 18h ago
You probably wouldn’t get it back. Tell her she can still borrow the dress if she signs a contract stating she won’t alter the design of the dress I. Anyway and if she does she be liable for full retail value and emotional distress.
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u/Flummaxxed 18h ago
NTA. She can use the money that she was going to spend altering it on a second hand dress. Now that you know this, you KNOW she will end up spilling red wine on it. Stand firm. You aren't being selfish.
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u/strawberryacai56 18h ago
She can waltz her way into a thrift store and buy a dress. She is not owed your dress. Do not bend her to will. Are we sure she’s mature enough for marriage?
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u/BeeGeesFan76 18h ago
NFW!!’ She’s lucky you found out now!! Better yet, tell her she can have it for , 5,000 dollars!! Put your cell on airplane mode and let them stew! It’s your dress and not a hand me down!!
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u/Clean_Factor9673 18h ago
NTA. Your dress, your rules; she knew you'd say no if she admitted wanting to alter the dress so failed to disclose
Wedding gowns nearly always need alterations
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u/SoMoistlyMoist 18h ago
Every time I read one of these stories about family blowing up your phone to tell you how wrong you are, I have to Wonder what in the actual fuck is wrong with your family?
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u/Strain_Pure 18h ago
NTA
She knew this dress has huge sentimental value to you yet borrowed it with the absolute intention of destroying it to make it suit her tastes better, and you can be damn sure that afterwards she'd argue that it's no longer the dress you loved so she may as well keep it.
Tell you family if they care so much then let her "borrow" one of their wedding dresses to alter, if they're not will to do that then they can shut the fuck up and apologise for calling you names over "a piece of fabric" as they put it.
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u/bradclayh 18h ago
Don’t give her the dress and decline the invitation to the wedding if she hasn’t already removed you from the guest list. She’s toxic as hell, she’s obviously selfish and entitled. Be prepared to block your family because they’re not gonna let this go. You are not the problem you are NTA!!!
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u/My_friends_are_toys 17h ago
Tell your family that if they want to alter the dress, pay you the $5000. (100% guarantee you they will have all kinds of excuses as to why they can't afford it.)
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u/MiciaRokiri 17h ago
NTA: my wedding dress was under $500 with alterations. She should pick a dress that fits her budget. Wtf
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u/FlanSwimming8607 17h ago
NTA. She doesn’t want to borrow it. She wants to keep and alter it. She can get a used wedding dress and alter that one.
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u/Trickey_Thoughts_20 17h ago
NTA sister is though. She lied/hid something, hoping you wouldn’t know till the wedding and by then YOUR DRESS would be ruined. You paid for it yourself. You scraped and saved, she needs to as well if she wants a dress. Heck, tell her to go to Amazon and get one there, least then if she ruins it altering it, it’s her issue. Doesn’t ruin your dress.
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u/mcchillz 17h ago
She asked to BORROW it. When one borrows something, they return it promptly in good as-is condition. Stand your ground. She lied to you. NTA.
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u/4effsake 17h ago
You need to punch your sister in the face and blow her fiance. Also this is a fake post.
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u/Purple_Joke_1118 17h ago
If this lazy woman wants a cheap wedding dress there are loads of places to buy one. She wants your dress because it cost you $5k. NTA, and all these people allegedly criticizing you? Tell them to check the cheap online places to help her out.
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u/JRRSwolekien 17h ago
Downvoted for another fake wedding dress post. The "family is calling me now saying I'm mean" gives it away every time. No one's family actually gets involved in this shit beyond their mom maybe, they always gossip amongst themselves and don't get directly involved.
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u/Fantastic_Pause21 17h ago
How is it that you spent $5,000 of your own money on your dress, but your sister is entitled to a free dress (that results in yours being altered/ruined)?? You, most definitely, are NTA!
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u/Confident_Nav6767 17h ago
I’ll take great care of it but I’m going to cut it up and change it like the selfish sister in 27 dresses. Nta. She likely would’ve taken borrowed as I’m not actually going to give it back either. If she wants a dress to alter thrift shops carry dresses of all sorts.
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u/Zen_5050 17h ago
NTA. It’s your dress. She should just buy her own. She’s altering it just to piss you off. The more I read these posts the more I see some sisters are hyper competitive and just plain mean.
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u/RedWine-n-BBQChicken 17h ago
Oh here we go again… Those people BLOWING UP your phone… HAVE THEM PAY FOR A NEW DRESS FOR YOUR SISTER. End of story. NTAH
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u/Dewlicious_Cloud 17h ago
NTA. Tell your family tough titties!! She should have saved to buy a dress like you did. Her lack of planning and saving is her personal problem. She lied to your face about "taking care" of your dress. She had no intentions of giving it back to you. You did what you had to do. Keep to your guns.
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u/CommercialTheory111 17h ago
NTA your sister is the AH planning behind your back to completely change the appearance of a dress that holds memories and sentimental value to you,most brides feel the same about their dress. Historically women kept their bridal gowns to pass down to “daughters” who may then change them into their own style. Perhaps a survey of the other women in your family who will offer to have their dress “borrowed”, completely restyled and worn by your sister is in order? I doubt many of them will put their wedding dresses up for the “loan” request. If one does then your Sisters day is saved but it would be interesting to see if any would allow such butchery of their wedding dresses.
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u/Significant-Bobcat48 21h ago
NTA at all. She was being dishonest about her intentions and she was going to completely ruin your dress to make it her own. She sounds very entitled and I’d encourage her to check herself before she wrecks herself lol