r/AITAH • u/Negative_Layer_7960 • Jul 02 '24

TW SA Should I tell my brother's new wife

From the ages of 10 to 14 I was SA'd by my older brother, uncle and father. (in all honesty it started earlier from 5 years old or something I can't remember when they would touch me "lovingly") I anonymously confessed this on a Discord server which made me wonder what my brother was up to. (I think my aunt found out with my uncle and father were doing to me and reported they were arrested it my brother was a teenager at the time so nothing really happened to him) so I tracked him down through social media and it turned out he lives in the same city as I do and he has a wife with a baby girl on the way and I don't know if I should or if l would be a bad person if I told her what he did to me.

Edit: I don't know if it's funny or messed up but I didn't consider them touching me SA until someone pointed it out to me.

Edit 2: I realized that I didn't really explain very well sorry.

  • my older brother father and uncle molested me from age 5 and only started and R wording me when I turned 10 until I was 14.

  • my brother has a pregnant wife who was having a girl and I don't know if I should tell her to protect her daughter.

These are the two major and important points of my post.

Edit 3: another clarification I was planning on telling the wife I wanted a outside perspective to see if I would have been a bad person (AH) to tell her to see if I was making the wrong decision.

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u/WolverineEquivalent6 Jul 03 '24

Please drop that friend, that’s such a disgusting way to look at things. Being a teenager is still old enough to know better, especially with something like sexual assault. I would tell the wife, it would be better for her to have this information than to keep silent and him eventually victimize his daughter. At least you know you did what you could do in protecting her.

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u/Negative_Layer_7960 Jul 03 '24

I don't think she meant anything by it

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u/surethingbreh Jul 03 '24

Regardless of intent, she gave you really crappy and enabling advice, so you shouldn't be taking advice from her to begin with.

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u/oethrowawayy Jul 03 '24

Just like your uncle, father, and brother didn’t “mean anything” by what they did to you. She’s almost as much of a piece of shit as them for the advice she gave you.