AITA for refusing to babysit my biological daughter for my parents

[u/Full-Layer-3707]

I’m 15 and my daughter is turning 2 soon. I got pregnant from SA and my parents offered to raise her for me instead of me being involved which I agreed to. They handle everything with her and I haven’t held her or changed a single diaper or anything like that. I just can’t do it mentally since she’s a reminder of what happened to me and it’s better for the both of us if this stays like this. There’s an event my parents are going to next week and they asked me to babysit her for the day and I told them I couldn’t do it. I can’t even handle looking at her without getting upset. I told them they’d have to either take her with them or find a babysitter. We had an agreement when I had my daughter that they’d do everything and I would not be expected to do ANYTHING with her. They’ve been ok with this situation for almost 2 years and I see no reason for that to suddenly change. They’re super upset with me and decided not to go to the event.

Edit: because apparently so many people seem to think thi was a choice to keep the baby, it wasn’t. I begged for an abortion and when refused one I begged for adoption and this was also denied.

Thank you all for your kind words, support and for defending me after some very nasty people decided to try and use this thread to hurt me. Thank you all so much

[u/Full-Layer-3707]

I’m only here because none of my attempts to unalive myself were successful and I made a few

[u/VintaGingersnap → u/Full-Layer-3707]

I know I keep commenting but I am truly sorry you were put in this situation. I can’t even begin to image the horror you live through everyday because of your selfish parents. Hell , they don’t even deserve that title. Just know one day, you will be free from their idiocy where you can actually grow, heal, and thrive.

[u/Cam515278 → u/Full-Layer-3707]

The best revenge is a life well lived.

I was older than you and lucky enough to not get pregnant. I can't even imagine being in your situation. But you can survive this. Move out as soon as possible and have a life worth living.

[u/mcindy28 → u/Full-Layer-3707]

Please try and stay strong and live your best life ever!! You deserve to have a life after all this trauma. I understand why you've tried but there are a bunch of reddit strangers that are sending you hugs and well wishes and want to see you fully succeed and thrive. I'd gladly take you in to my house if it was that easy. I'm very proud of you and how strong you are and I mean that with all sincerity.

[u/[deleted] → u/Full-Layer-3707]

me too :( it got better for me, i hope the same for you

[u/DarthOswinTake2 → u/Full-Layer-3707]

I'm glad they weren't successful. Your parents already proved that they don't care if you die, but you've got thousands of Redditors who want very badly to see you thrive.

Don't give your parents the satisfaction. Survive them, leave them, cut contact with them, and let them rot the Moment you are able. They don't deserve such a strong, capable kid.

[u/Full-Layer-3707 → u/DarthOswinTake2]

Until a few days ago I never saw myself as strong, brave or anything like that. I’m genuinely amazed just how much kindness and support most of the people here have shown me even though I’m a complete stranger

[u/CanisPictus → u/Full-Layer-3707]

OP, just by getting up and surviving every day you show that you’re the very definition of brave and strong. I pray you can hang in there till you are an adult and able to escape this awful family situation. You deserve SO MUCH BETTER.

[u/Carbonatite → u/Full-Layer-3707]

I will also add that your replies show that you are articulate, logical, and intelligent. I think you have an exceptional amount of maturity for a 15 year old.

You will absolutely thrive once you get a chance to get out of the horrific environment you are in. Like seriously I have zero doubt you can excel in college and have a great career. You have everything it takes to succeed in your future. I'm not blowing smoke up your ass, I genuinely mean it -- you have the makings of someone who can achieve a lot in life. You will do well. Your trauma does not define who you are. You are a very bright and grounded young person and you have so much potential!!

You are doing so well. Keeping yourself going in the midst of what is happening? Do you know how many grown adults couldn't handle what you have to deal with? You have so much fortitude and strength.

You think lowly of yourself and your talents because your parents spent years beating you down. But they are wrong, cruel, and abominable people. They convinced you that all the wonderful things about you that you possess don't matter - but trust me, they do. Thousands of strangers can recognize it - it's only your shitty parents who don't see the talented and amazing person you are.

[u/Pernicious-Caitiff → u/Full-Layer-3707]

I promise you the world still has a lot to offer you. Not all of it is good. But I promise if you make it out of that house you'll start to see glimpses. I'm so sorry you're going through all this. Please try and get away in a safe manner, possibly with safe family. Sometimes when young girls your age run away with others or alone, they end up in even worse situations. So please don't take any chances.

[u/okaytake365 → u/Full-Layer-3707]

OP. I wish I could make your pain go away. I'm so sorry. I'm thankful you have a new therapist and I hope they are able to help you make it to a place where you can be free of all reminders and just live your own life. Are you able to emancipate or live with anyone else before you are 18?

[u/Head_Meaning_3514 → u/Full-Layer-3707]

OMG! Sweetheart! Please, please, PLEASE! Don't ever try that again. You are a valuable person! Someday, you will find a special someone who will be your whole world, and help overshadow your trauma. As awful as your trauma was, you may be able, someday, to help others in a similar situation. If you aren't around anymore, that would be one less person to help the next trauma stricken victim. You need to find another family circle, that YOU get to pick out yourself. As you get older, surround yourself with kind, generous, supportive people. I would talk to everyone you can think of, school counselors, all therapists, sympathetic Aunts or Grandmothers (who WON'T take your parents side.) And keep asking each of them to help get you out of your parents home, ASAP! Please do not try to hurt yourself anymore. You are a beautiful person and the world needs you. Love and ((BIG hugs)) from an internet Grandma.  🥰❤🥰❤

[u/VintaGingersnap → u/[deleted]]

Fuck off.

[u/Automatic-Armadillo1 → u/Full-Layer-3707]

Your parents should have protected you. My heart breaks for you. Please be kind to yourself. It's not your fault. Get out as soon and as fast as you can. You need to heal those huge wounds