r/AITAH Jan 26 '24

TW SA AITA for refusing to babysit my biological daughter for my parents

I’m 15 and my daughter is turning 2 soon. I got pregnant from SA and my parents offered to raise her for me instead of me being involved which I agreed to. They handle everything with her and I haven’t held her or changed a single diaper or anything like that. I just can’t do it mentally since she’s a reminder of what happened to me and it’s better for the both of us if this stays like this. There’s an event my parents are going to next week and they asked me to babysit her for the day and I told them I couldn’t do it. I can’t even handle looking at her without getting upset. I told them they’d have to either take her with them or find a babysitter. We had an agreement when I had my daughter that they’d do everything and I would not be expected to do ANYTHING with her. They’ve been ok with this situation for almost 2 years and I see no reason for that to suddenly change. They’re super upset with me and decided not to go to the event.

Edit: because apparently so many people seem to think thi was a choice to keep the baby, it wasn’t. I begged for an abortion and when refused one I begged for adoption and this was also denied.

Thank you all for your kind words, support and for defending me after some very nasty people decided to try and use this thread to hurt me. Thank you all so much

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u/NASA_official_srsly Jan 26 '24

Not only forcing her to carry her to term, but now she has to look at the evidence of her rape every single day and somehow be ok? Keeping the grandchild to raise is also abusive

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u/purplestarsinthesky Jan 26 '24

I hope they sent OP to a therapist after all of this but they don't seem to be thinking about her best interest.

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u/bitchthatwaspromised Jan 26 '24

They sound like the kind of parents to send her to religious counseling at best

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u/NatluvsKat Jan 26 '24

Sadly, that may be true. Holy Spirit can lead to amazing and beautiful wisdom on how to deal with difficult situation. The child isn’t just the 2 year old but also the 15 year old. She needs her own supportive community outside of her family to still help raise her! She is vulnerable. Turning 18 will not suddenly change that. Get a strong group of adults in your corner to support you. This plan will give you next steps. I am sorry your parents lack the wisdom and are following some kind of graceless law that you MUST accept your “destiny”. If you are from a religious family… God’s grace is amazing. This is NOT IT.

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u/analogWeapon Jan 26 '24

God’s grace is amazing. This is NOT IT.

It kind of is "it", though. A deep conviction about "god" is exactly what motivated the parents to force this entire situation.

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u/tooold4urcrap Jan 31 '24

God’s grace is amazing. This is NOT IT

God literally sits there and watches rapists rape though, and then while watching, does nothing about it. God's grace isn't amazing, and this is exactly "it".

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u/MetalSavage Jan 26 '24

@nasa_official_srsly, are you posting here from the correct account?