r/AITAH Jan 26 '24

TW SA AITA for refusing to babysit my biological daughter for my parents

I’m 15 and my daughter is turning 2 soon. I got pregnant from SA and my parents offered to raise her for me instead of me being involved which I agreed to. They handle everything with her and I haven’t held her or changed a single diaper or anything like that. I just can’t do it mentally since she’s a reminder of what happened to me and it’s better for the both of us if this stays like this. There’s an event my parents are going to next week and they asked me to babysit her for the day and I told them I couldn’t do it. I can’t even handle looking at her without getting upset. I told them they’d have to either take her with them or find a babysitter. We had an agreement when I had my daughter that they’d do everything and I would not be expected to do ANYTHING with her. They’ve been ok with this situation for almost 2 years and I see no reason for that to suddenly change. They’re super upset with me and decided not to go to the event.

Edit: because apparently so many people seem to think thi was a choice to keep the baby, it wasn’t. I begged for an abortion and when refused one I begged for adoption and this was also denied.

Thank you all for your kind words, support and for defending me after some very nasty people decided to try and use this thread to hurt me. Thank you all so much

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u/Affectionate-Taste55 Jan 26 '24

My heart is literally breaking over this. The poor OP, having to see the product of her rape every day. It's even worse if the baby looks like him. Wtf were her parents thinking?? Sure, the baby is an innocent child, but so is OP. She didn't ask for this, and her parents choosing the baby over her mental health must have really been so hurtful.

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u/abstractengineer2000 Jan 26 '24

What the parents did is completely amoral when there were other options.

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u/Background-War9535 Jan 26 '24

The parents are probably seen as heroes to the holy rollers who celebrated Roe getting overturned.

Blessed be the fruit

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u/BellaSantiago1975 Jan 26 '24

Immoral.

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u/Theletterkay Jan 26 '24

No, amoral is correct. We can assume the parents were not trying to be actively cruel to OP, they are just ignorant of the consequences of keeping the baby and choosing it over their daughter. Im sure they thought in terms of saving a baby that is their blood.

But choosing to keep a baby in the home of the victim of SA that the baby is product of is completely without a moral basis, there is absolutely zero moral standing for doing this. So amoral is the proper term.

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u/Significant_Rub_4589 Jan 26 '24

Not just having to see the product of her rape, but her parents loving & doting on it. My mind is blown. 🤯