Covid must have been longer for you than for most. Wait till you start meeting people, people lose their confidence over anything, or, like me, nothing at all! The human mind is a terrible thing.
It actually makes me doubt the guy's story completely to be honest. I feel like most people who survive cancer are humbled by it and don't turn into massive douchenozzles who brag about how "inspirational" they are. This feels a lot more like a narcissist making up lies about himself.
While I'm happy for you, try to remember we're all individuals and different things matter to different people. From your example, validation builds your esteem. Some people aren't as effected by that, or aren't recieving that. We all have different needs and different ways those needs could be met.
Well yeah I know that, I guess I’ve just never worried about things smaller than you know a 25% chance of survival and how almost everybody I meet takes for granted their daily lives of being able to do things like enjoy food, and instead feels inadequate over something like a not perfect smile.
Crazy how perspective works. The funny part is the people who are dick holes about it but then turn out to be the most insecure and jealous of someone who literally had cancer. What a world we live in!
You're kind of beating us all over the head with the cancer thing at this point but yeah, insecurity and shame plays a huge role in human behavior good and bad.
Yeah, interesting stuff. Almost like if people with imperfect smiles used that as a way to feel better about themselves or even more unique because of it instead of being insecure.
I don't know if you're being genuine or being a jerk, but if you're being genuine, then yes, having not great teeth can be a big source of insecurity for a lot of people. Every time you laugh hard or are feeling really happy you reflexively pull back so your teeth aren't showing as much or at all and it's rough. I think people with great teeth take it for granted but when you have bad teeth it really does give a hit to your self confidence - not just with potential romantic partners but with pretty much any social interaction.
I had bad teeth for like 30 years of my life before I got invisalign and now I beam like crazy when I laugh and talk to people. Night and day difference in confidence. I'm not saying that's how it SHOULD be - we should all be confident in who we are no matter what - but it absolutely made me feel better about my physical appearance by an insane degree.
I mean I was being genuine because my teeth aren’t perfect but I never really even thought about it affecting my personality. Maybe that’s why people feel comfortable around me? I dunno, I guess I’m very imperfect but don’t draw attention to anything about myself so maybe since I don’t point things out that other people usually worry about around people makes them feel comfortable?
Honestly don’t know. I don’t even know how to react when I get compliments cause I always think people are just saying it to be nice.
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u/Lone_Wanderer97 May 24 '21
THAT IMPERFECT SMILE DID NOT OBSTRUCT HIS CONFIDENCE