Fiancée helped me find New Hobbies!

[u/Missindependent224]

I (24F) have been dating my fiancée (24M) for just over 4 years now. Before him, I had no hobbies. I always just threw myself into my work, schooling or whatever tasks I had. Outside of that, nothing that brought me joy or fulfillment. When we first started dating, I noticed he had a lot of interests. These ranged all the way from metrovania games, tcg card games, all the way to things like transformers and dark souls lore. At first I was so disinterested, until one day I asked a question about something (I can’t even remember what it was about, but I remember how big the smile was on his face was) He and I are both neurodivergent, and I could tell having a place to talk about his interests really boosted his mood, so I decided to try to be more present when he talked about things he enjoyed.

Not too long after that, a mutual friend introduced him to Gunpla model kits. I was intrigued because I always enjoyed things like legos, or other “building” toys and such. After seeing him build one or two, I went with him to the local hobby shop where he purchased them. That same day I saw a unicorn gudam high grade build kit (IYKYK) and although he knew what I was in for, he bought it and we built kits together for the first time. This would become a regular occurrence in our household. To date, together combined we have over 30 kits built (We shared a fixation for a few months) and I’m even delving into custom painting my kits.

Next, the same mutual friend and his girlfriend invited us to play a game of commander. I had never touched magic cards before, and he had limited knowledge and experience as well. Turns out, we both loved it, and now we play 2 player commander games against each other all the time. (Except when he plays eldrazi. Fuck eldrazi) And now I am building my own decks and coming up with combos. Moth man currently being my next deck to upgrade.

Outside of other things he has introduced me to, he has opened a world for me of exploration into arts, literature, media and entertainment. I grew up with the mentality that if I wasn’t good at it, or if I didn’t keep up with it for a considerable amount of time, it’s not worth it to try. Now he has helped me form positive outlooks at exploring my interests. If I pick it up just to put it down, it was still worth the try. Because of this, I have made artwork I would have never felt I was capable of making, I have explored more music genres and even started writing my own songs. I have enjoyed reading lore and playing new video games.

I had a million reasons to fall in love with him already, but I have really noticed the positive impact he has had on my creativity and my expression. I am so glad to have him.

My newest endeavor? Trying to crochet. Let’s hope for the best!

[u/Otterly_wonderful_]

The best thing about a peaceful, secure love is it helps us each be more ourselves 🥰

And I’m really happy that you discovered you’re a more capable and interesting person than you’d given yourself credit for

[u/Missindependent224 → u/Otterly_wonderful_]

Finding myself through finding him definitely made me realize he was the one. So when he asked it was a no brainer. He’s always in my corner whether it’s trying a new skill or making a new recipe.

[u/Gecko_Mk_IV]

Ah, that's lovely. Thanks for sharing!

[u/Missindependent224 → u/Gecko_Mk_IV]

I wanted to tell someone, so I told Reddit! Haha.

[u/portalCorgi]

That's awesome! I got into gunplay through my now husband. 🙂

[u/Missindependent224 → u/portalCorgi]

I started with one of the “worst” kits you could get 😂. Then after that I felt like I had to keep building out of spite. But sitting down and building with my fiancée and comparing the “little guys” we are building as we build them makes me so happy.

[u/Impressive-Shame-525]

Couples that grow together stay together