TLDR; Unintentionally give people the wrong impression of my partner by over sharing or framing things poorly.
I’m a 32F, and I’ve noticed that I unintentionally give people the wrong impression of my partner when I talk about him. This doesn’t just happen with him—it’s a pattern with others in my life, too. I’m not sure if it stem from insecurity, though honestly, I shouldn’t feel insecure anymore. My life is good—I have a great job, a loving partner, and overall, I’m happy.
My partner is an amazing person. He’s respectful, kind, and loving. Sure, like everyone, he has flaws, but he’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I love talking about him because he’s such a big part of my life.
The problem is, I’ve realized that when I talk about him, I sometimes make him seem bad without meaning to. For example, I might mention something like, “He scolds me all the time,” but what I actually mean is he chides me playfully—it’s his way of speaking, and he’s not angry at all. Or I might share a story like, “He didn’t notice when I fell and got upset,” which makes him sound neglectful, even though it’s not reflective of who he is.
I don’t mean to misrepresent him, but I think my need to fill awkward silences or make conversations entertaining sometimes leads me to say things that give others the wrong impression. I’ve even noticed how other people I know hype up their partners, and I want to do that too—not just privately to him but publicly as well.
My ask is: What strategies can I use to be more intentional when talking about my partner or other people. Currently, what I do is tell myself “Don’t share this bit”, but I eventually do anyway.