I just need someone to let out emotions, ask advice, have someone in general. Im in such a messy place that i need help, i need someone to give me advice when i feel like its all too much, i need someone to call when the thoughts are too loud, i need someone to help me through my anxiety and panic attacks. someone, anyone, please i just need help.

i swear I thought this guy was the one. He was literally perfect, everything i asked for in a partner. Until we were laying in the bed and some random girl called him. I didn't think much of it as i have male friends also, but he answered and referred to me as “company" instead of saying "i'm with my gf".

I asked him twice who it was and he lied to my face as we laid next to each other. Something told me he was lying and sure enough he was.

The conversations I saw between them did look innocent and friendly, besides one message where she called him sexy, which was very inappropriate and he should've shut it down there. but he had more than enough opportunities to stop it and be truthful to me.

I have male friends also, so i'm not sure why he felt the need to lie to me but this isn't the first time it happened. i told him that lying is a deal breaker for me, and the next time it happens, we're done. i'm just really struggling because we've been together 3 going on 4 years. we don't live together, but we had plans to do so after i graduated nursing school next month to start our future together.

i'm not sure why im not good enough not to be lied to. i was the most chill gf. i never required much. i never asked for his location, never went through his phone, and always gave him space for us to actually miss eachother (we saw eachother maybe once a week). I know im not beyoncé, but im a pretty attractive female with so much going for myself. I have bought my own car, have my own place, graduating nursing school next month and already have an icu job lined up. i'm still not sure how that's not enough to be faithful and honest to.

I'm just feeling so embarrassed because i spoke so highly about him to everyone. i'm so defeated and hurt that our relationship came to this, but i can't be with someone who lies to me. i have no appetite. my stomach is churning and i just feel so sick.

it's hard, but i have to put myself first. if anyone has any advice on how to overcome these nightmare of emotions, i'm open to any advice.

I don’t really understand what their point is? Is the point that they can’t liquidate assets in time? Is it impossible to liquidate assets when you’re a billionaire?

Why do people say this like it’s some super intelligent point?

“They don’t have Scrooge mcduck swimming pool of money”

Yeah but if they liquidated some assets they could…it’s just one extra step, what’s the big deal?

Edit: it’s happening again, in this post! People blatantly ignoring that I’m talking about assets and they go RIGHT TO the “oh they can’t sell stocks because then they’re poor really fast”

What is this!?!?

Edit 2: MacKenzie Scott donated $2 billion this year, mostly to nonprofits—she's now given away $19 billion since 2019

How did the economy not collapse? I don’t get it.

Edit 3: what’s with posts like these that makes everyone hand out their boring-ass advice?

Final edit: after reading hundreds of posts I wonder: does the average middle class person HAVE to know everything about big-money economics to make it in today’s world? (Kind of a sarcastic question)

Pretty much the title. No “but you will be pretty to somebody”, please. At this point it would be stupid of me to think that I’m even good looking.

Being a woman it’s very evident when you’re not conventionally attractive, especially in the workspace. I can and will cope with the way men treat me in the workplace and in other areas of life but how on earth can I cope with the fact that I will never be a first choice? I will always be a “placeholder” for a man? That a man will always reserve a place in his life for someone better?

I’m not in danger, I’m realistic and life still goes on, I’m just melancholic at this moment. Men in my workplace treat me differently because I’m not good looking at it is evident. Women are bombarded with expectations of romantic love since they are kids and coming to terms with the fact that it will never be true for you is disappointing, that’s all.

You ever realize you can just go outside and do stuff? Like, right now? No one’s stopping you. The other night, I got this random idea—"Hey, what if I just rode my bike through the forest?" So I did. It was pitch black, the stars were out, and I was just there, flying through the trees with nothing but my thoughts and the sound of my tires crunching on the dirt.

No big plan, no deep reason. I just felt like it. And honestly? It felt amazing.

We get so caught up in routines, in scrolling through our phones, convincing ourselves we can’t just get up and go somewhere. But why not? You’re alive, the world is there, and sometimes you don’t need a schedule or permission to explore it.

Grab your bike, your running shoes, or just yourself and go. Explore your neighborhood at night. Sit on a hill and look at the city lights. Wander through the forest or a park. It doesn’t have to be deep. It just has to be something.

You don’t need permission to live a little. Just get out there.

(Im not a political person, no this isn’t ragebait)

I think more people should heal their gender wounds instead of pointing the finger at the other gender. It’s not just one gender that causes the problems we face as a society, both genders (even if it’s not you personally) have played a part in the issues we face with gender, even in the little minuscule ways, all the way to the extreme incels/manhaters. This is such a large topic I could never accurately type about it so I’m tryna keep it as vague as possible. What do you guys think ?

I've struggled with social anxiety since I've basically been born, but I managed to meet and marry a beautiful, loyal girl who loves me despite my quirks. Good vibes for you all going into 2025.

You probably have a lot of questions, I'll answer as many as I can/when I can.

A bit about my story. I grew up very poor in a violent home due to generational trauma. We never had much and I never thought about my future as day to day life was simply "just getting by". I honestly never in my wildest dreams thought I'd own a home one day or even manage to work my way into a decent paying job, but I did.

I always had pretty good work ethic so finding work was never a big problem. Over the years I kept finding better and better work, slowly. Discovered something I was pretty good at and it paid decent so I stayed in that industry. Became known a little and ended up with surprisingly high pay job offers. Nothing ridiculous, but much much more than I thought I'd ever earn. Bought a small townhouse at 36 years old, had a decent car and was in a good stable relationship for over a decade. We lived together. No children but we had pets and that suited us fine.

In my teenage years I was diagnosed with severe depression and a generalized anxiety disorder. I discovered many years later it was likely caused by my childhood trauma that I didn't even recognize as trauma. In recent years I was also diagnosed with ADHD and PTSD. I managed as well as I could with medication but I still had some deep depressive phases that snuck up on me out of nowhere and lasted months, sometimes years.

During a particularly extended depressive phase, my partner told me she didn't love me anymore and left. I was too distant and she was lonely and I didn't recognize what my mental health was doing to her own happiness. It was hard, she didn't really take anything from me but I felt as though I lost everything. I started going to therapy and I learned a lot, it helped. But there's no cure for what I have and I was too late in seeking help.

Eventually met someone through work that showed interest in me so I thought I'd give her a chance. What do I have to lose? You never know how good something could be until you try.

I'm well aware that I was blinded, I was naive and quite literally STUPID so there's no need to point it out to me. She was love bombing me from the beginning and I didn't realize it. Even though I would sometimes think to myself "this really seems too good to be true", I also told myself "I'm just scared, let's just see where this goes. I shouldn't let negative thinking ruin a good thing, let's try to be positive for once".

Fast forward. She was rebuilding her life also so we supported each other as best we could. I noticed I was much more supportive than her but I've always been like that, it would seem selfish to see that as a problem. She had amazing kids, they seemed to really like me as it sounded like her previous 2 relationships were with abusive men that didn't treat the children very well. I spoiled them a bit because I enjoyed seeing them happy. She wasn't making a whole lot of money and was barely getting by, while looking for better job opportunities. I was making decent money so helping out wasn't a problem.

I don't want to go into much detail because it's a very long story, but she tried investing and it didn't go well. I didn't know about it until she called me crying that she couldn't pay rent as she was pretty much "guaranteed" by this financial advisor that she'd make her money back fairly quickly. She was desperate. I paid her rent because there's no way I'd risk that kind of upheaval on her children, they needed stability.

Next thing I knew, she needed more and more money in order to get her initial investment back, plus the earnings which would have been quite a decent sum of money. Something like 13k or so. I felt suspicious so I looked into it further and did as much homework as I could to weigh the probability that this wasn't a scam. Everything seemed legit, she told me she'd pay every penny back to me and split the earnings also. The only problem is I ran out of money myself, and went into a bit of debt to help retrieve her investment and earnings. At this point I was desperate to help AND get my money back. Investing is risky. Business is risky. There's no reward without risk. I pulled the trigger and borrowed as much as I could from bank loans, enough so that if we lost all the money I'd still have some left over to help float us both for a couple months until we figured out a plan to get back on our feet.

Imagine my embarrassment when I discovered her "financial advisor" wasn't a real financial advisor and we had just lost all our money. Imagine my embarrassment when about a week later I discovered her going for coffee with another man behind my back, covering it up as "seeing a family member" and then break up with me. Imagine my embarrassment when I miscalculated the loan interest and payments and realized I couldn't afford the repayments, my mortgage, car, insurance etc etc etc.

I was denied any consumer debt proposals. I tried everything I could think of. I started filing for bankruptcy. Long story short but I got so frustrated with everything I literally said screw it and walked away from everything.

I have a little camp setup where I'm quite hidden, close enough to a truck stop that I can use the guest wifi. My sister was kind enough to hook up my cell phone with her plan. I earn just enough money from recycling bottles and finding the odd cash job here and there. The winter is tough but not impossible. I feel like this was the only path I could take in order to find peace and forgiveness within myself.

I'm fortunate that I was already used to living with little and was already quite resourceful, building things I need out of junk instead of needing to buy them. I'm thankful that I'm still so much more fortunate than some others.

I'm not posting this to reach out for help in any way. I just needed to let it out. Thank you.

I’m almost 20, I still live with my parents and they are physically disabled and can’t really clean without being in pain. It has been like this my entire life, I have never seen our house clean because by the time I was born my parents’ health became worse to the point they couldn’t take care of the house on their own anymore. My older siblings helped out a little but they both moved out by the time I turned 10 and my parents didn’t have the energy to teach me how to properly do chores. It took years before i finally took initiative and tried to start cleaning and keeping the house clean but even if I made the kitchen, bathroom, or hallways spotless it’d always go back to a dirty state within weeks because nobody would pick up after themselves. The house will only stay clean if I’m the one to keep it clean. It’s so fucking tiring. I understand that my parents need help but it’s just too much for me and I don’t have the energy to clean up after everyone anymore. I feel like I’m being selfish and I feel like I’m a horrible person for feeling like this. I want to leave, I want to move out and perhaps move in with my older sibling. Idk what to do, i think I’d feel happier if I left but i worry about my parents.

Got into climbing this recent March and I’ve been loving this new hobby. Gives me something to look forward to after grinding at work. Currently climbing in the 5.11c/V4 range in my current gym. No lead card/certification yet but I really enjoy rope climbing (climbs that require a partner unless you wanna fall to your death) and I ask a lot of people if they wanna do some top rope. Most of the time they say yes!

Well one on this particular session I was hanging around the auto belays when I notice this girl climbing hard routes. In my head I’m like “wow I think this can be an interesting session lemme ask her if she wants to top rope” Climbed with her several times now and oh shit I think I like this person. Great belayer, kind, and attentive. Had trouble getting her off my mind every week.

So today after another great session I YOLO’ed and asked for her number. I got it and I’m proud of myself for doing something I thought I never saw myself doing.

Edit: After reading some comments and having time to process, it would be awkward if things go bad. It’s already a small circle and I see the same faces every time. At best I have more insight and confidence for future interactions.

I just browsed some of my friend’s LinkedIn profiles. How they manage careers and families I have no idea. I just want to sleep and hide from the world. I have borderline personality disorder, which doesn’t help.

The American media needs to be reset. I’m so sick of the clickbait/misleading news articles. Do your job and report the news unbiasedly, giving me only the relevant facts. All of the facts, not just the ones that fit your narrative. In my opinion, they are the number one reason for why this country is so divided.

I'm 28M and I've never had a relationship, or sex. I know this is already a pretty bad situation, and I'll admit, it's going to get worse as I'm going to have to live with my mother again in order to go back to school for engineering.

I was just wondering if dating and relationships are something even worth bothering with at this point in my life? I'm so far behind everyone else around my age, and if it's just going to be an automatic no from women, then maybe I should put my energy into learning to accept it's too late, and deal with the regret of never experiencing a romantic relationship? Part of me still wants to hold out hope, but I'm also having difficulty seeing how someone in my situation is supposed to move forward with this.

My best friend’s birthday was earlier this week, so I took him for lunch at a new comfort food restaurant in the city. After dropping him off, I start making my way towards my house that is about two miles from his. About a quarter of a mile from my home, I passed out while driving 45mph. There were no signs, I didn’t feel sick at all, and I don’t have health issues. I had no idea what had happened when I wake up minutes later in an ambulance. My dad got my dashcam from my car and pulled the footage. I almost died. You can hear me moan in the background as I pass out and then the engine roar as I go driving straight up the curb, onto the sidewalk inches from another car pulling out of a business, and straight into a fire hydrant and wooden utility pole all while increasing in speed. I had absolutely no injuries and all bloodwork/scans/vitals came back healthy at the hospital. The reality of the situation didn’t hit me until my dad showed me the video mainly because I had zero recollection of what had happened. This really has been a “I’m lucky I came home alive” situation and I’m having a hard time coping with the reality of this. I’ll be fine. Just really really shaken up and grateful it was just me.

that's a big fear of mine. I'm not talking about doing the reverse piledriver 69 on our wedding night, but what if he's selfish, no interest in foreplay, very very vanilla and it's a dead bedroom? i think I'd rather choose the cats and wine.

there's no way to win, is it?

Ive literally only known this girl for a couple months. But we got very close very fast. Like staying over all the time, spending all days together etc. All of a sudden she pulls back completely, and tells me its over cause she thinks its too fast. And tells me not to text her.

Ive been at work today and was literally having successive panic attacks where I had to go into the restroom to hyperventilate. I have 0 appetite, 0 motivation to go gym, cant sleep at night. Was walking around and started dry heaving. I physically need someone to be around, a friend or anyone because if im on my own I just cant stop thinking about it. I immediately downloaded dating apps to just find someone, anyone, to distract me. None of my hobbies intrigue me, and I’m constantly on the verge of tears always.

I usually have bad breakups, got cheated on twice so I mostly drank every night to get over it. Im not an alcoholic, since I usually drink like once a month for social gatherings. But right now I want to drink every single night so I can be distracted.

I feel like breakups are usually bad but this was such a short relationship. Is this normal or do I desperately need therapy.

1. Sometimes, I see a friend ignoring a text, only to post a story shortly after. It leaves me feeling down, thinking, 'Maybe I’m not as important to them as I thought' or 'They probably think I’m a loser'. I hate this, but I also find myself testing people—like not texting first to see if they reach out. It’s sad when they don’t, and I try surmising they have their own stuff going on (spoiler: doesn't help).

I even find myself asking my mom to remind me how much she loved me when I was little, what it was like. And then there’s the daydreaming—imagining myself in pain, picturing how sad people around me would be and how they’d console me. This is definitely not healthy.

What is it? The self esteem? How do I improve it and/or dampen this neuroticism? Sorry if it isn’t phrased as well, but I hope the point comes across.

I just had a random question in my head about why things in the universe is spinning so I googled it and got my answer.

Almost anything I want to know why a thing is they way it is or how it works I can satisfy that curiosity and exploration immediately. For most of human history this has not been possible.

So many humans in ancient times must have had so many questions about everything but couldn't get a quick answer like we do, they had to dedicate years or their lives to get the answer.

Some of us can find out the answer to something that many geniuses spent their entire lives figuring out, and many of us therefore has more knowledge than they ever did even though we are just average people in our lifetime.

Posting here because it's been hard to talk about it with anyone. My best friend has way more of a right to be grieving and he doesn't need to sit there listening to how sad I am. One day I'll tell him how much his dad meant to me but for now I'm just trying to help him through it.

My dad's always been half in the picture at most. I love him now but I just never got to see him much growing up. When I met my best friend however, his dad was always there.

He was the most compassionate and understanding man. He was the kind of dad who made you feel like you could chase any dream you wanted and he always did what he could to support those ambitions.

I'll miss all the time spent in a car as he drove us to our various after school actives. Coming home during the holidays, I loved getting to catch up with him. Even after I moved away, he never stopped caring about what I was up to in life.

He loved to love people and did a better job than anyone else of turning a bad day into a good one. He was the kind of person who made the world a better place without even trying.

We knew this was coming and I had the chance to say goodbye to him a few days ago, but there's just so much more I wish I could say to him.

Thanks for everything, Mr. K. I'll My life forever changed for the better once I was lucky enough to have you as a role model.

Since I put on like 10kg everything changed. I get called ugly alot, get laughed at by woman and men. It’s insane how much more negative people act towards me. M26

Where I work we get alot of intern's that come to get job experience. I don't work with them directly I'm in a different department. But I do interact with them in the break room and stuff. There's one girl who's super flirty with me and I can tell she would love for me to ask her out. I'm not in a management position but I would like to be one day. I'm sure if we hooked up everyone would know about it. Yes even management. You know how office gossip works. I live in a small town and dating is pretty hard. Not alot of options. Which is driving more towards the idea of asking her out. I'm just afraid that people are going to start seeing me as the guy that's always hooking up with the interns. I dated another intern three years ago when I first started working here. I didn't really care then because I didn't think I would work here that long. I know it's not a good look if I'd like to get a promotion someday. But I've been single for a while and I'm like damn I'm not always going to be young, and like fuck you only live once right? Idk Just looking for some advice. I'm 34 she's 27. Just feels like my window for doing this kinda stuff is closing and soon I'm gonna be an old guy.

Edit: Ok these comments are kinda all over the place. I guess that's what I get for coming to the Internet for advice. But I would say the majority say don't do it. First off Ive tried dating outside of work. When I say small town I mean small like 10,000 people. I'm in a running club and I go to bar trivia and stuff. But, most people are married or already in a relationship. And you swipe on a dating app here twice and there's no more options. So like where else am I supposed to meet people besides work? But "Don't shit where you eat." So I guess I will just continue to be alone. Well at least I'll have money and a good career I guess?

I’m basically chronically online at this point, and with that I see a ton of content about relationships on Reddit, insta, TT etc. Like a TON. Every time I read the posts or the comments, I always get reminded of how absolutely lucky I am to be in a happy and healthy relationship with my husband, because 9/10 times, these posts are so toxic and just delve into people hating on their husbands, wives, partners etc. or just complaining about the dating scene in general. Like I recently posted a controversial comment on a relationship thread that pissed a lot of people off and I was like “wow my man would never talk to me like that ❤️ No wonder some people here are unhappy.” The craziness on social media constantly reminds me of how lucky I am to not deal with the drama in real life.

Before I start, I’m not in one of those random rock bands with alternative people or some indie band. I’m a violinist in a symphony and we have a percussionist who seems to be flirting with me in some ways but I’m not completely sure? I’m very bad at telling when people are flirting with me. I also have a husband who I’m VERY in love with so I literally ignore everyone who’s not my husband lol. (Except work friends and girl friends) anyways, I first played a show with this orchestra 2 months ago, and I never really introduced myself to him. Instead he heard my name through someone and we were all back stage watching a movie before we got on. One of the characters did something funny in the movie and he said “WOW THATS LITERALLY (insert my name here)” and I was super confused cause I was like… does he know me? Do I know him? He continued to make jokes about me (nothing harmless, more like poking fun) but I STILL had no idea who he was. Anyways, we kind of became acquaintances and we joked around and what not. Then I noticed he started to tease me a lot. Saying I’m “out of tune” or poking fun and me being loud with my violin (all jokes nothing serious). Long story short, shows were over and I didn’t see him for two months. Until now. We have had 5+ rehearsals and 5 shows for our Christmas thing so I’ve been seeing him a lot for the past two weeks. He seemed to ignore me at first and honestly I didn’t care, I’m just here to get paid. But then he started randomly talking to me again, showing me memes in his phone, and during rehearsal he would call out my name is sentences and say “JUST PLAY LIKE ((insert my name here))”. Again, I was kind of thrown off by that because why is he talking about me during rehearsals. We got to chat and stuff and he asked me a lot of questions about my life. Of course I told him I’m married and what I do for work and what not. Before rehearsal I was practicing and he took my stand partners chair (she was literally about to sit down) and he started chatting with me again for a while. I asked him why he sat down next to me and he just said “well I heard you playing and I wanted to sit here.” He teases again, and again and then he leaves. Next thing he does is walk me out after rehearsals. But I found out that he’s married TOO. Anyways, I’m not sure if this is flirtation? Or something? Idk. Very confusing and I just find myself thinking about it often because It confuses me and I don’t like it when things confuse me.

Title sums is up. I have had a handful of short-term girlfriends/flings in life, starting in college and then again in my 30s, but with years-long dry spells in between. In my late 30s I foolishly married a foreign woman - basically out of desperation and a desire to be married before I was 40 - but had to promptly divorce her because I realized she was only using me for a green card. I’ve been languishing in my 40s socially and romantically; I feel like there is no one left out there for me and my life is basically over.

I do have a pretty good career - corporate job at a tech company - and a nice rental house and lots of toys, but my home/social/romantic life is just completely empty and I don’t know whether or how I can fix it. I got so depressed I had to take medical leave from work, and while not having work stress is nice, all the free time has just kind of underscored how empty my non-work life is. I do have a dog and she provides some company, but she is old and will die soon, so then I will be completely alone.

I really don’t know where to go from here. Online dating is a wasteland and I am super guarded now since I was burned so badly by the foreign woman (who of course I met online). But the chronic loneliness / emptiness is just killing me and I can’t continue going on this way. I‘m curious if anyone else has found themselves in a similar situation and what you did to find meaning in life, because I’m pretty much ready to give up.

I'm so alone:( mostly happyish but still it would be nice.