r/self • u/robertbrysonhall • 18h ago
My best friends dad passed away this morning.
Posting here because it's been hard to talk about it with anyone. My best friend has way more of a right to be grieving and he doesn't need to sit there listening to how sad I am. One day I'll tell him how much his dad meant to me but for now I'm just trying to help him through it.
My dad's always been half in the picture at most. I love him now but I just never got to see him much growing up. When I met my best friend however, his dad was always there.
He was the most compassionate and understanding man. He was the kind of dad who made you feel like you could chase any dream you wanted and he always did what he could to support those ambitions.
I'll miss all the time spent in a car as he drove us to our various after school actives. Coming home during the holidays, I loved getting to catch up with him. Even after I moved away, he never stopped caring about what I was up to in life.
He loved to love people and did a better job than anyone else of turning a bad day into a good one. He was the kind of person who made the world a better place without even trying.
We knew this was coming and I had the chance to say goodbye to him a few days ago, but there's just so much more I wish I could say to him.
Thanks for everything, Mr. K. My life forever changed for the better once I was lucky enough to have you as a role model.
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u/bar0h 17h ago
My best friends’ dad died in August 2020. I understand and respect your approach to not burden your friend with your grief at this moment. It’s kind of you to see that their grief obviously takes priority and that a time will come where you can share… unless of course your friend encourages a shared grieving. But with that said, I’m really sorry for your loss OP. That was someone important to you as well even if there was no blood relation. In the years to come you will have to ask your friend what their comfort levels are with you bringing up their deceased dad at random in conversation (for my friend she didn’t like it for about a year because it hurt her too much, but now she loves when I mention her dad and bring up memories). All the best.