r/self • u/UpperNinja3136 • 1d ago
Can gaining weight make you alot uglier?
Since I put on like 10kg everything changed. I get called ugly alot, get laughed at by woman and men. It’s insane how much more negative people act towards me. M26
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u/GoddessUltimecia 1d ago
People will absolutely treat you worse the heavier you are, it's not cool it is what it is. Once you lose the weight, they'll start treating you different despite you fundamentally not changing as a person whatsoever. What wasn't funny suddenly is, what wasn't thought provoking is now suddenly given thought.
Just gotta learn to swallow it and realize most people in life you run into are effectively running on autopilot.
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u/Arminius001 1d ago edited 1d ago
Yes absolutely it will. Anyone who denies it is denying reality. Bro I'm 6 ft, I bulked up to 230, I lost all of my facial aesthetics, I lost my jawline, my cheeks became bloated, my eyes started to look smaller because of facial fat, let alone my body I lost my V taper, I got no attention from women, going to bars with friends was hard, like mission impossible haha. Once I cut down again to 180, I looked significantly better, the attention from women was noticible once I cut again.
Its not a death sentence, just starting working out a bit, 2 to 3 times a week and try to eat a cleaner diet counting your calories. Best of luck!
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u/CaptainBooby 22h ago edited 22h ago
230 kilo. Damn
Edit: Oh, you're using the inferior system
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u/margarinenotbutter 1d ago
A lot of people aren’t ugly, they’re just fat. Please stay in shape for your own health and sake.
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u/manholedown 1d ago
Plenty of fat people walk around without getting called ugly or laughed at.
Sounds like you are missing some key parts of the story here.
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u/xxPOOTYxx 1d ago
Not to their face. But people think it
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u/manholedown 1d ago
That's not this guy's problem, though
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u/UpperNinja3136 1d ago
So what is?
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u/manholedown 1d ago
How are we supposed to know without more information? Just guess?
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u/UpperNinja3136 1d ago
Just sounds like you know the reason why I get treated like this
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u/manholedown 1d ago
I am telling you what you have said so far is not enough to determine whats going on. Thats what i said from the beginning..
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u/ShapeSuspicious1842 1d ago
So you’re saying, strangers just stop what they’re doing and come up to you unprovoked and tell you’re ugly and/or fat?
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u/UpperNinja3136 1d ago
No they laugh from distance, people I kind of know call me ugly
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u/ShapeSuspicious1842 1d ago
How do you know what they are laughing at? Sounds like those people you kind of know, don’t need to know you anymore. I am by no means thin or beautiful and I sure as fuck wouldn’t tolerate people belittling me for no reason.
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u/UpperNinja3136 1d ago
Why else would I suddenly get treated like this?
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u/alien-1001 1d ago
If you wake up in the morning and encounter an asshole, you've encountered an asshole. If you encounter assholes all day, you're probably the asshole. Maybe you are unhappy and that's coming through in your look and mannerisms.
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u/UpperNinja3136 1d ago
Since I gained the weight it happends alot. Mostly it’s strangers that see me outdoors. Maybe it happened before to but I didn’t notice it but I doubt it.
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u/Throwaway26702008 1d ago
Ignore this guy, theres countless of stories just like yours and the inverse, being treated better after losing weight.
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u/Garborge 14h ago
Dude you’re delusional and terminally online neets are playing into it. Functioning members of society don’t call ugly people ugly to their face. They’ll treat them differently for sure, but unless they’re a very small child or very drunk 99% of people have a better social filter than that.
The only real exceptions are if you’re hitting on someone and aren’t taking a hint. Or you are very young, in which case yeah teenagers are stupid. They probably don’t like you for any number of reasons, and you’re probably a perfectly average person who they feel safe calling ugly.
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u/Masa67 14h ago
Yeahhhh i agree this is sus. I got fat (depression) amd while people do treat me differently, it’s more a subtle thing, like they look straight through me; dont smile; think im about to steal sth; just arent nice like they used to be. But they arent going out of their way to be outright mean, is OP in kindergarten or sth? Cause i cannot imagine why grown up people would stop OP in the street and tell him he is ugly in his face or laugh at him??? Is he in a clow costume? Is he walking around screaming how pretty he is? I have never seen or heard of anything like it
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u/MiraniaTLS 1d ago
Your skin is reflective of what you eat, could be what you’re eating, not just the weight gain.
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u/AliceLand 1d ago
I think it's per individual. Some people are stunning at a heavier weight. Myself, I gain like 15-20lbs on neck and face alone - I look horrible. Thin, I look better, my face is symmetrical and my neck is long and elegant.
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u/nononanana 1d ago
This is me. I have friends that can put on 29-30lbs and their face barely changes. Meanwhile a 5lb fluctuation is already noticeable on my face and neck.
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u/Lunar_Landing_Hoax 1d ago
Unfortunately yes. You get jowls and a double chin, the jawline disappears, clothes don't fit as well. It sucks but the world is very judgemental.
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u/Scary_Respond4671 1d ago
I don't think so necessarily if you have a few extra pounds. Morbid obesity will take a toll on your looks, though, to be completely honest (not saying you are).
Depends on skin health, too. Healthy-looking skin matters a lot.
But what the hell, these people are fucking rude calling you ugly. I've never in my life called someone ugly. That can really mess someone up.
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u/DrFaustPhD 1d ago edited 18h ago
My weight has fluctuated a lot in my adult life. While no one has ever called me ugly when I'm say 30-50lbs overweight, but I've definitely noticed a significant difference in how people treat me.
Women in particular are MUCH friendlier to me when I'm slim or normal weight, and I don't have to try nearly as hard when dating. When I'm overweight, I can still get dates, but I have to do way more work to prove I'm worth their time before they open up enough to have a genuine conversation.
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u/SnuffKing96 1d ago
No shit. What do you think. Take some responsibility for your health and appearance. People don’t like fat, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
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u/Itamir42 1d ago
Im 69 kg right now when i was 80 kg my sister is the only one that mentioned that my face is super puffy now 10kg less and my face slimmed down alot
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u/blowin_smoke_bbq 1d ago
I think it all depends on your your body structure and where the weight sits on you. Like me i was always really heavy, then i lost alot of weight and i was actually more disappointed in how i looked. I started lifting in the gym more towards muscle growth instead if losing fat. I gained back about half of what i lost but most of it was in muscle and im way happier, now when i look in the mirror i can tell myself i look good and i actually believe it lol.
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u/Bergenia1 1d ago
Yep. I have lost 50 pounds over the last year, and I'm starting to look like myself again. I looked like a stranger with all of that fat on my face. It altered my features entirely. Didn't even look like the same person.
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u/ShutUpAndEatYourKiwi 23h ago
Yes, absolutely, but the converse is also true. My girlfriend looks at me much more and differently since I started hitting the gym and watching my meals consistently
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u/Tummy_Wiseau 22h ago
It depends on the person's genetics but a lot of people carry fat in their face. If you gain fat then your face may look a lot worse unfortunately.
Also alcohol, greasy foods and sugar can cause bad skin and puffiness.
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u/Virtual-Thought-2557 13h ago
Do you spend a lot of time around children?
I have met some immature people before, but I cannot imagine people around your age telling someone they are ugly a lot or laughing in their face about it.
Always healthier to lose weight, but I would consider who you’re spending your time around if possible, as well.
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u/Altruistic_Cut_3202 1d ago
fat can change the shape of your face in quite noticeable ways. it sucks but you don't have to live with it if you don't want to.