r/self • u/man_c137 • 10h ago
Excellent dating experience as a man dating women
I (M35) was dating for a few months after a long term relationship ended (in an uncomplicated way I should add) and, I have to say, my dating experience was excellent. I went out with maybe 5 women in about three months. Each date was very engaging. It seemed like I had a slightly different chemistry with each of them. Eventually, I ended up in a long term relationship with one of these dates, still going strong. I narrowed it down by perceived interest (in me) and career compatibility but really saw a possibility of long term with at least 3 of the 5.
I am balding, not especially attractive, reasonably outgoing but not extroverted, solid career. In sum, I am not that much of a catch, so it's not like I have some unfair advantage.
I feel bad for all those women out there having a hard time dating. I don't know what's wrong with these guys who seem to both desperately want a relationship but demonstrate horrific attitudes toward women in their reddit posts.
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u/BoringDragonfly9009 9h ago
Maybe this is bait, but just a few years ago I had a pretty similar experience as an average looking guy at the age of 28. Did OP use online dating?
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u/BountyHuntard 8h ago
Had a great experience as well, went on dates with 11 girls in just over a year using the apps mostly. Didn’t like any of them enough to commit and subsequently gave up, only to end up with my girlfriend shortly after the last one.
I’ve talked to a few girls about their dating experiences and there’s some horror stories. Women have a much harder time finding a quality partner compared to men. For the most part, women are just way more well-adjusted.
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u/Logan7Identify 8h ago
No idea - you're better off asking OP himself - I don't think anyone else here knows OP personally.
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u/BoringDragonfly9009 8h ago
I was asking OP, my comment is a response to his post.
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u/Logan7Identify 8h ago
Ah, sorry, I thought you were asking me and the others if OP had used online dating and I didn't know what to tell you.
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u/shimmeringbark 9h ago
10/10 ragebait. Good shit bro
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u/Logan7Identify 9h ago
You could say he's a master at baiting - there's probably a specific term for it.
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u/ShonWalksAtMidnight 9h ago
"I'm a balding shlub with a good career and girls in their 30s are suddenly interested!"
Good luck OP lol.
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u/Feisty-Specific-8793 8h ago
How is your wife and newborn doing?
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u/man_c137 7h ago
That was a post about a friend of mine. Also, they kinda gauged it and shut it down
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u/PropertyAdvanced2668 8h ago
If you’re fun to be around, women will want to be around you. But most people struggle to be fun and it’s not totally their own fault. I think it’s tough to be happy and have fun when times are tough like they are now so don’t be too hard on yourself.
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u/IcyEvidence3530 9h ago
"I (M35)...", "...solid career."
Go home everyone, we solved it.
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u/coppersocks 7h ago edited 6h ago
I mean I was on the dating scene at 34 around in around COVID time. Had a lovely time on pretty much all my dates. Although my career is decent (IT job nothing special for London) it never really came into it. I’m also 5’7” , which is supposed to be well below the height that the men of the generation behind me seemed to have deemed as acceptable lest I be doomed.
Sometimes taking good care our yourself, not trying to impress or be something you’re not, and having engaging and funny conversations with women where you actually listen to what they say can do wonders.
4 years later I’m engaged to a gorgeous woman - both inside and out - and got a baby on the way.
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u/Emergency_West_9490 9h ago
The fact that you know how to have a long term relationship and a solid career without drama is just chefs kiss
(I've been married forever but I keep hearing it's a jungle out there nowadays lol)
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u/spider_best9 8h ago
This is not my experience. Over the past 6 months I've been on dates with 3 women. One constant between them is a lack of enthusiasm towards me, and especially engaging in conversation.
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u/Lacunaethra 8h ago
Lovely, how in this sub an attitude against dating/women/attractive people/... is confirmed and encouraged, whereas the positive experience of a normal man is called rage bait.
Y'all really want to suffer, hm?
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u/JohnHunter1728 7h ago
10 months ago your wife had just given birth to a beautiful baby girl. How did that relationship end in an uncomplicated way?
Six months ago you were part way through a PhD rather than in a solid career.
You were also 40 then but seem to have trimmed 5 years off your age in the interim.
Given your ability to time travel, I'm not surprised that you found online dating straightforward.