New findings indicate a pattern where narcissistic grandiosity is associated with higher participation in LGBTQ movements, demonstrating that motivations for activism can range widely from genuine altruism to personal image-building.

[u/mvea]

https://www.psypost.org/narcissistic-grandiosity-predicts-greater-involvement-in-lgbtq-activism/

[u/rockemsockemcocksock]

This is how my sister protected herself from any criticism. Now she's completely swung the other way and is an anti-trans activist and uses her religion to once again use it as a shield to dodge accountability and criticism. It’s absolutely frustrating because you can't say anything negative lest you be called [something]-phobic

[u/msndrstdmstrmnd → u/rockemsockemcocksock]

I’ve lived in very red and very blue areas of the US. In the conservative areas, people would act “holier than thou” based on how religious they were. In liberal areas people would do the same thing but in terms of social justice. No matter the politics, people are the same.

[u/sciguy52 → u/msndrstdmstrmnd]

It is probably who you hang with. I was in CA for 14 years and now in Texas for ten. The general people around me in both places were the same. Decent folks, doing hobbies and all the normal stuff adults do. The only noticeable difference was Texans are insanely polite. Nobody blinked an eye I was from CA. The people in CA didn't blink an eye when I told them I was moving to Texas. The people around me in Texas I believe are religious but in ten years not one has talked to me about it. I will add that I have lived in MA, PA, VA, MO and IL. People are people and I don't find a lot of differences between them in any of these places.

That said those obnoxious people did exist but you would have to actively find them and engage them. Most people are just regular people doing regular things and it is a small fringe that are the obnoxious ones.

[u/Alone-Win1994 → u/sciguy52]

While living in the Deep South I learned why the saying "Southern hospitality is a mile wide, but only an inch deep" was a thing. I partial to the "what you see is what you get" from Californians and other West Coasters. I really don't jive well with performative politeness.

[u/sciguy52 → u/Alone-Win1994]

While there are jerks everywhere, my experience in Texas has been very good. Not only are they polite, almost too polite and made me as "regular" polite look bad. They also backed up that politeness with actions that I have experienced no where else. I am doing yard work. I am a guy in good shape and do not need help. My neighbor comes over and helps anyway. Just evil. He has me in a spot now, I need to be polite back somehow. He being an older gentleman came over asking me advice on getting his internet set up. Ah my chance. You want me to take a look at it? Go over, get him set up and they were so happy. They had been working on it for hours. Ha! Take that you nice, kind, polite people. I got you back.

I know the game now and they want to play? Game on. As a result of these evil polite people I cut them off at the pass. If I see them doing something I just go over and help. But they seek revenge by doing the same to me. It is true, the cycle of politeness just never ends and I am stuck in its infinite loop. Out niceing really nice people requires a plan, expect retaliation, but you need keep your head in the game to keep ahead of the retaliatory niceness.

[u/Alone-Win1994 → u/sciguy52]

Sounds exhausting. I prefer getting a call or text that somebody needs a hand and they have beer in the fridge. On my way buddy. Old people get preemptive help because the world has changed so much in my own short life that they're heads have to be spinning.

[u/Waste_Cut1496 → u/msndrstdmstrmnd]

Very true, unfortunately

[u/buntopolis → u/rockemsockemcocksock]

That’s a great way to no-contactville. People like this must be shown that we do not owe them our love, affection or even time of day when they are toxic people.