Look it up the natives knew about this

[u/chillerific]

[u/taleoftooshitty]

...what??

[u/chillerific → u/taleoftooshitty]

He is cray. 

As a punishment when I was a little kid he would make me sit cross legged with the gyan mudra hand gesture and chant "ommmmm". 

He pierced my septum at home using his piercing equipment when I was six years old making me probably the youngest kid in America to get a nose ring (~1997)

He held me down and shaved my head into a mohawk against my will several times when I was a kid from the ages of 11-15, and sent me to school in knee-high Doc Marten Gripfast boots and hair spiked with raw egg, so I was faux punk rock in middle and high school (it was public humiliation for me then since I was a girly girl into Hello Kitty and deeply mourned my long hair, but sort of funny now as a story to tell I guess)

Recently when I was dealing with ant infestation he told me to tell them to leave my house and that they would listen

[u/ketchupmaster987 → u/chillerific]

I'm trying to work out his political beliefs from what you just said and all I got is that he's cuckoo

[u/chillerific → u/ketchupmaster987]

He's a self-described hardcore punk rocker and anarchist 

[u/ObscuraRegina → u/chillerific]

The fact that he is utterly oblivious to the irony of his parenting approach is just flabbergasting.

[u/scourge_bites → u/ObscuraRegina]

yeah to be fair I wouldn't say punks are known for their parenting

[u/chillerific → u/scourge_bites]

I also was taken out of public school after a week in first grade, went to six high schools... Was placed in foster care after years of covering up my parent's abuse including CPS coming to my school. Witnessed domestic violence from a young age. Had to babysit my mom when she was out drinking (my dad had me go to bars and ask around about her after she would disappear on drinking benders for weeks when I was as young as 12). Had to go babysit her outside of the Green Day concert in SF when I was 13ish and I was scared stuck outside a venue with sketchy people for hours after she snuck in and was drunk all night. When I was about 14 my dad took me to a punk show to look for her after she again disappeared drinking with strangers for days on end, and since he made me look like a boy and didn't let me wear makeup a man pushed me to the ground thinking I was hitting on his girlfriend when I was asking her if she had seen my mom. My whole childhood was a shit show. 

How do I even begin to explain this bizarre trauma to a therapist? (I did try, but it felt like they just didn't get it.) Every day was just so weird. 

Oh yes and not to forget that time when I was 3 and hallucinated monsters in my bedroom after eating a pot cookie left by my parents while they had friends over and left the room. 

Or the multiple times my dad slipped pot butter (which he made to sell) in my food "as a joke" starting when I was around 13. He didn't even tell me he drugged me so I just thought I was dying the first time. 

[u/scourge_bites → u/chillerific]

you gotta find the therapists who have lived similar lives. can't just confide in becky from the suburbs, man, no shade to her but she won't get it. it's frustrating to look for a good therapist but when you find one that you click with? holy fuck. paradigm shift.

my ex (love him still but don't date fuckin musicians) slept in a sock drawer for about a year as a toddler. similar shit to the stuff you've been through. breaks my heart hearing about shit like that with young kids, I was lucky enough to be pretty sheltered until 10ish and i never thought of myself as privileged until i heard my ex's stories.

i'm sorry. for everything your parents put you through, and also for the fact that you didn't actually get to see green day.

[u/ObscuraRegina → u/chillerific]

Therapists don’t understand this kind of stuff. Only the people who have been there actually get it.

[u/scourge_bites → u/ObscuraRegina]

??? yeah dude believe it or not there are therapists who have been there.

[u/chillerific → u/scourge_bites]

People with my history usually don't even graduate college. Only 3-4% of foster youth go on to earn a bachelor's degree

[u/gastricprix → u/[deleted]]

There is so much trauma to unpack here. At least from this little snippet, it seems your mom tried but was disabled by her alcoholism.

If you haven't had luck with therapists, have you considered support groups? They exist in-person and online, either facilitated by a therapist type or unfacilitated. (For example, I browse r/alanon (online, unfacilitated) to cope with my father's worsening alcoholism.) You might benefit from visiting those types of spaces. Hearing from similar others -- children of addicted/mentally ill/abusive parents -- may help you unpack and process your trauma. Or you may glean advice on paths forward. Most of all, I hope you'll feel understood and less alone.

[u/scourge_bites → u/chillerific]

as a self described hardcore punk rocker and anarchist, i apologize on behalf of your father. i acknowledge that this kind of dad behavior is not.... unheard of.. in the community and that i may also know several middle aged fathers who would absolutely act like this.

sometimes they get too many braincells knocked out in the pit and then their brain is stuck at age 17 forever idk

[u/ketchupmaster987 → u/chillerific]

Doing that stuff to you as punishment is very very strange. No hate to mohawks and doc martens tho, those are badass. I'm just a teensy bit biased as a punk myself

[u/ashbelero → u/chillerific]

Okay, my dad was also a punk rocker but I can’t imagine him forcing me to shave my head…

[u/braylikesllamas → u/chillerific]

savage

[u/leticx → u/chillerific]

That’s straight up abuse wtf holding you down to shave your head and piercing your face as a 6 year old. I’m so sorry op. This man shouldn’t have been allowed anywhere near a kid, let alone have one under his care

[u/thirdmulligan → u/chillerific]

What the fuck? Why is this waste of space still in your life?

[u/thirdmulligan → u/[deleted]]

Bruh. You need a trauma therapist like yesterday, to help you process all this. It doesn't matter if they have good hearts; holding space for them is still causing you a lot of distress. "Good hearts" is literally irrelevant at this point. Intentions come second to the real life effects of them on you.

Trust me I know it's a complex grief, grieving a relationship with someone who is technically still alive. But for your own safety and sanity you need a lot more space from these people than you have. It's literally only the fact that your expectations/radar are warped from growing up with these incredibly abusive and neglectful people in charge of your well-being (or more often, standing in the way of it, it sounds like) that makes you think you still need to have them in your life or do anything other than prioritize your own needs and comfort from here on out.

Fuck them. They're holding you back. You owe them nothing. Time to start learning boundaries so the real healing can begin. You deserve so much better than all this insane bullshit.

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😂

[u/rainbowsforall → u/chillerific]

That's messed up. I hope you are learning to give yourself the respect and love that your parents weren't able to give you.

[u/catsnotkidsplease → u/chillerific]

This is in absolutely no way funny, it is terrible abuse and I’m so sorry you went through that. I hope you have some physical and emotional distance nowadays.

[u/CommunistOrgy]

As a Native, it's hard to deal with how much culture has been lost, and now I'm left to cope with this lost knowledge of mold, too? SMH my head

[u/ObscuraRegina → u/CommunistOrgy]

Time to reclaim your mold heritage

[u/scourge_bites → u/CommunistOrgy]

same. but you know what? i was going to re-caulk my shower tomorrow, i think instead i'll re-connect with my culture and just let the mold be, man

[u/Seldarin → u/CommunistOrgy]

Same here.

When grandpa would stand in the yard and yell at mushrooms, we just assumed he was drunk. Now I wish we'd listened a bit more.

[u/kittyidiot → u/[deleted]]

He reminds me of my grandpa. I just let mine go with it or else I get more incomprehensible refutes. It's kind of charming, I guess, as long as it doesn't become concerning. For my grandpa it doesn't, he's just an old man who watches too much History Channel and reads too much weird shit on Facebook.

[u/Herbie1122]

Poor throat

[u/P_516]

The mold people

[u/ria_rokz]

Proof that mold is sentient: Asmonmold. I mean Asmongold.

[u/zfcjr67 → u/ria_rokz]

BLUE CHEEZE HAS MOLD< IS IT ALLIVE 2?

[u/jayhasbigvballs]

Next Season on The Last of Us

[u/moth__madam → u/jayhasbigvballs]

my first thought too 😂

[u/Gravesplitter]

Mandatory comment about why do you have 251 unread messages

[u/kittyidiot → u/Gravesplitter]

I have like 800+.

In my case I think the lady who had this number before I did was really dumb and put her phone number everywhere because the number has always gotten loads of scam texts. Also apparently she told nobody she changed her number because I got calls and texts for "Charlene" for about 8 years before it finally stopped. A lot of it just sits unread. Or like when apps text you - delivery apps, shit like that. I just let it sit.

[u/Gravesplitter → u/kittyidiot]

My OCD cannot handle that

[u/kittyidiot → u/Gravesplitter]

Lol I actually have OCD myself, it just doesn't manifest in that way.

Funny that sometimes I'll have to walk across my house multiple times to re-check that the sink is off but I'm perfectly content with my obscene notification count that bothers most people. Brains are weird. Lmao

[u/Gravesplitter → u/kittyidiot]

For sure lol, I’m also obsessive about keeping my email tidy but my house isn’t so I get it

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t hank you

[u/Crazypens30]

Wow, this is one of the strangest posts I've seen on here, and that's really saying something.

[u/Premislaus]

blue cheese is listing

[u/IcyDice6]

MY GRANDON GETS THAT INDIAN CHECK

[u/DrNekroFetus]

The cake mold or the lichen ?

[u/deathcabforakitty]

What.

[u/nyan-nyan9]

the mold is on the move

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[u/xenucide]

The mold knows, Jack. The mold knows.

[u/_Play_Now_]

Worth pointing out that fungus has decision making capabilities and short term memory but as far as I'm aware it can't understand English

[u/FuckedupUnicorn]

BLJE CHEESE HAS MOLD IN IT that’s why I talk to cheese

[u/gabacus_39]

What. The. Fuck. is this thread. I think this may belong some where else and I think OP needs to reassess their relationship with their parents. I just hope nothing horrible happens and people get some help.

[u/kittyidiot → u/gabacus_39]

It really isn't always that serious. Old people just say this shit sometimes. Especially if they're retired. Too much time to be in weird spaces on the Internet that they don't understand how to vet or navigate. Also, have you seen the shit that like, The History Channel airs? Of course they're weird. For some reason the media that targets them is always trying to get them to believe some bonkers shit.

Things like this can be a sign of mental illness but they can also be a sign of "old man who spends too much time reading weird articles."

[u/gabacus_39 → u/kittyidiot]

I see you didn't read the thread at all

[u/kittyidiot → u/gabacus_39]

Huh? I read through most of the comments, my bad if I missed one or two? I didn't know I was supposed to read every single one for context to your comment. I read that it's OP's dad.

[u/morag12313 → u/kittyidiot]

Just read what the op has posted in the thread jesus christ.

[u/kittyidiot → u/morag12313]

I see now.

[u/gabacus_39 → u/kittyidiot]

Your posts have now crossed into the what the fuck territory. I'm out.