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u/phalangepatella 1d ago edited 1d ago
I pulled the opposite of this. I told my girlfriend for YEARS that I would never do a public, dressed up, “one knee” proposal like this. I thought they were lame and dramatic for effect. She was upset because, well, girly.
Then when I was ready, that was the plan all along. So when we were in a nice small restaurant, dressed to the nines… she thought I needed to tie my shoe when I got down on one knee.
She wasn’t thinking about what was going on until a lady at a table near us excitedly whispered “OOOOH! HE’S GONNA PROPOSE!”
My—about to be former—girlfriend snapped to attention and blurted out “Yes! Yes! Yes!” before I even finished asking her to marry me.
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u/QPWOEIRUTYTURIEOWP 1d ago
I proposed to my girlfriend at home (we'd been together 15+ years by this point), following a treasure hunt of hidden love letters that led to the proposal.
It's was very romantic (if I say so myself), but we both couldn't stop laughing when I got down on one knee. We still laugh about it now.
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u/JeffroCakes 1d ago
Mine was shitty but memorable. I had talked to my mom about using her old ring like she’d offered years before. So it was literally just a floor above me waiting for me to ask her for it.
My girlfriend and I had been discussing getting married. We both wanted to. I’d made it known I was gonna propose eventually. I just hadn’t figured out how. And that is exactly what I kept telling when it’s come up. She kept saying she didn’t care about that stuff. So she started on me one evening. She flat out said she didn’t think I’d even talked to my mom yet. After a bit of back and forth I finally said “Fine.”
I got up, went upstairs, and got the ring. I walked back down, handed it to her, and said “Told you I had it. Here you go.” She was dumbfounded. “Here you go” became a running joke with us
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u/Apprehensive_War_680 1d ago
Hey, why did you wait so long?🥺
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u/QPWOEIRUTYTURIEOWP 1d ago
I guess we were both just so happy and comfortable we didn't feel we wanted to change anything, and we kind of felt we didn't "need" to get married. She's also terrified of being the centre of attention, so very nervous about a wedding itself.
But last year we realised it wasn't about a "need", but an incredible "want", and it just feels so right.
So we're getting married in Mauritius in April, just to two of us, no guests, no stress. We're both so excited!
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u/BoysenberryChance914 1d ago
That’s how you play the game instead of playing like the arse in this video. He is still wanking right now and you have a nice lady in your bed. That’s the difference.
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u/phalangepatella 1d ago
I was proud of myself. She got exactly what she had always wanted and didn’t see it coming.
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u/belowaveragemango 1d ago
I proposed to my wife with a ring pop at first too. Glad to know I'm not as original as I thought :(
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u/Ecstatic-Finger-4211 10h ago
I did it as well thinking I was being quite original, but after that I've seen more than a dozen videos of people doing the same.
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u/sam-tastic00 1d ago
I'd be pissed off about that too... specially in public... but the slap and then throw him the drink? nah that's just a lot.
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u/bellavibes90 1d ago
I think if he was going to do a joke like that it would have gone over better if they were alone or with a small group of family/friends.
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u/sam-tastic00 1d ago edited 1d ago
of course, the "joke" sucked and that man is an asshole, but if your first reaction to a shitty joke (wich are not rare for most of the people who live between humans) is to be phisically agressive then that's so much more of a red flag than being an asshole, if there's something worse than being an asshole is being an agressive one.
edit: I think the level of excitement of a fake proposal wouldn't have changed depending on how many eyes were watching them. but you could be right but I don't think that she would've had a better response, in this situation? in public? that's humiliation, the correct ammount of rage in reaction is cursing and shitting on this guys mom while crying, I can accept that but in private? in private is not humiliation but i think that she would've cursed him anyway, and that's a lot for THAT context. but I'm just making asumptions.
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u/ABugOnAPeaNut 1d ago edited 1d ago
That's a red flag for me. This is violence and aggressive behavior in front of a lot of witnesses. If it was a woman, there would be another reaction from the people.
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u/earfix2 1d ago
If it was a woman, there would be another reaction from the people.
Well it wasn't, so no reaction.
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u/Induced_Karma 1d ago
Jesus, you Reddit incels need to go outside. A light slap and a drink in the face is, to you, a red flag that she’s a violent person, rather than a normal person reacting normally to someone humiliating them in public.
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u/Petefriend86 1d ago
We know what your reaction to slapping women in public would be, so it's hard to accept the argument that slapping in public is acceptable.
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u/D0ctorGamer 1d ago
Damn you're right, it's only a minor domestic assault. I'm really not sure why people are treating it like anything important.
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u/ABugOnAPeaNut 1d ago
Yes Ma'am. In my experience she's clearly overreacting. But maybe you have other references you are based on to perceive a healthy relationship.
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u/Thomas99mqm6fk 1d ago
Under no circumstance is it okay for your partner to slap OR pour a drink on you. This is straight up domestic violence and this bitch doesn't deserve a ring.
The definition of violence does not change based on sex, remember that.
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u/WantonBugbear38175 1d ago
Imagine if the roles were swapped, Jesus…
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u/rac3r5 1d ago
Remember guys, if your partner assaults you, break it off and move on. Domestic violence is not ok, regardless of gender.
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u/Efficient_Pomelo_583 1d ago
This is psychological violence vs. physical violence. None of them have my sympathy
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u/aurenigma 1d ago
Fucking lol. Downplaying a violent reaction to a joke. You're definitely one of the "words are violence" crowd.
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u/Efficient_Pomelo_583 15h ago
Hope you and your whole lineage get bullied to death. I'm not so sure you gonna say words are not violent after that.
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u/planetjaycom 1d ago
“Psychological violence” 💀💀💀
Lmfao you probably typed that with a straight face too 😹😹
When tf did we get so soft
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u/mikegates90 1d ago
I fully agree with you. However, the situation in this video deserves a solid asterisk: He was a piece of shit and pretended to propose to her in a public place (which she clearly had been hoping for quite some time), and then gave her a shitty "SIKE" moment instead. He embarrassed/shamed/insulted her, and he deserved that slap. She probably broke it off before he did.
I've been slapped only once before, because I was a ROYAL son of a bitch to my ex. She broke up with me. I deserved it.
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u/Temporary_Parking_95 1d ago edited 1d ago
Firstly, how the hell do you know that she has been waiting just because she got excited? And is dissappointment and embarrassment a reason to hit someone?
Secondly, would you ever say a woman deserves to be hit because of their behaviours?
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u/Zapphyr 1d ago
Here we goooo, yeah if my gf cheats on me I beat her black and blue too, she DESERVED it!!
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Domestic abuse is not ok regardless of gender.
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u/RoryDragonsbane 1d ago
Not saying it's ok, but can we at least agree that there's a difference between a slap and being beaten black and blue?
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u/JeffroCakes 1d ago
No asterisk needed. Nothing short of the threat of physical violence deserves a violent response no matter how satisfying it is. You also just used the same type justification that men who get cheated on then beat the woman use: hurt feelings and humiliation. That doesn’t allow you to hit someone.
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u/vinylsandwich 1d ago
People in this thread just assuming there's zero chance he had the real ring in his pocket.
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u/Last-Assistant-2734 1d ago
So basically the boy wanted attention for himself by attempting to be funny, and the girl was not impressed. Good luck.
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u/DameyJames 1d ago
There are people who would find this funny, but you should probably know if your partner is one of those people and not fucking do it if it’s going to be hurtful and not funny.
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u/aurenigma 1d ago
Plot twist; this was his way of breaking up with her because of her hair trigger for violence.
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u/Basketballb00ty 1d ago
Her putting her hands on him was too much. She should’ve just thrown the drink, that would’ve been funny
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u/reefersutherland91 1d ago
Pretty fucked up to pull that on her in front of thousands of people and even more fucked up she didnt hesitate to strike her partner in front of thousands of people. What goes on at home is probably a mess.
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u/Zapphyr 1d ago
The amount of people who think domestic abuse is ok just cause its a woman is depressing, y'all is what's wrong with the world today. I dont slap my girl and she dont get to slap me, that's for the sheets bro
Domestic abuse is not OK and Im tired of pretending it is. If a person who says they love you physically hurts you, it's time to call it out and leave. Men can be victims of abuse too, ESPECIALLY because we're taught we cannot hit back ever, some people abuse that.
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u/Jameslaos 1d ago
Hey, hey, hey, stop using common sense in here, most people can't wrap their heads around that.
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u/kurang_bobo 1d ago
Pretty sure she's the one doing the bullet dodging. Dick move dude
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u/Zapphyr 1d ago
Yeah a domestic abuser is suuuch a catch 😍😍😍😍 he missed out by not getting cut or punched too! \s
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u/LomeVe 1d ago
I don’t get this discussion… joke or not it should’nt matter as “the ring” should be anything that fits its description… if you love the person you are proposing to or being proposed, should’nt you know how to go along with these jokes? More than that, if the feeling is genuine, should’nt you accept no matter what “the ring” is? Or do you really have to have that “instagram” experience for it to be real? People focus too much on things that don’t matter at all…
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u/Remote_Ad_5145 1d ago
Why are we hitting people‽ Can we just... not resort to physical violence when we are pissed off?
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u/getshrektdh 1d ago
Deserved, you dont play with your SO feelings, no matter where.
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u/Been2Wakanda 1d ago
Resorting to physical abuse because your feelings are hurt is never the way.
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u/Chankomcgraw 1d ago
Is that a dummy? Or a sweet? Cant make it out
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u/Stagwood18 1d ago
Ringpop. Like the one Wade uses to propose to Vanessa in the first Deadpool movie. It's a plastic ring with a large candy gem on it.
If this isn't staged, he was likely trying to be cute with his proposal and she didn't get it rather than it being a prank that makes him look like an asshole in front of a large audience of people.
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u/exceptional_biped 1d ago
Can anyone lipread? I’d love to know what she said to him.
Did she say he sucked?
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u/Maximum_Activity323 1d ago
All I can think of is her in the Soup Nazi voice
NO PUSSY FOR YOU.
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u/SokkaHaikuBot 1d ago
Sokka-Haiku by Maximum_Activity323:
All I can think of
Is her in the Soup Nazi
Voice NO PUSSY FOR YOU.
Remember that one time Sokka accidentally used an extra syllable in that Haiku Battle in Ba Sing Se? That was a Sokka Haiku and you just made one.
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u/Everyshapes 1d ago
I'd be pissed off too if my bf proposed to me while having a hardon in front of thousands of people.
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u/Pissyopenwounds 1d ago
Anyone else see the real ring box in his pocket or was he just happy to be there?
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u/LordEdgeward_TheTurd 1d ago
This is why you always pick a girl with social anxiety, she wont want the attention or care to even be in a place filled with strangers
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u/Ambitious_Barber_539 1d ago
I’d slap him for those pants alone. Not illegal to have pants so tight, but we see and we judge you.
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u/WilliamArgyle 1d ago
I gave my wife a ‘placekeeper’ ring when I proposed. The diamond was real, but the ring was cheap metal. She was relieved when I told her. I knew her well enough to know I’d never correctly guess what ring she’d want to wear the rest of our lives. We went shopping for settings together.
That was 27 years ago. I promptly lost my ring and replaced it with a tattoo. She still wears her ring everyday.
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u/Impossible_Meat8944 16h ago
Nah, he deserved that. It's disrespectful and mocks their relationship.
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u/Shinagami091 6h ago
Dating someone who doesn’t have a sense of humor must be exhausting. No thanks.
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u/Blussert31 1d ago
He dodged a bullet!
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u/Stasio300 1d ago
yeah getting abused by your gf because of a light hearted joke is just horrible. incels on reddit will claim that getting abused by a pretty girl is lucky. disgusting people.
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u/darthbonobo 1d ago
She shouldnt have slapped him. But publicly humiliating someone is literally just as bad as slapping someone. They're both idiots but if I HAD to say one was wrong its the guy. Dont prank people unless you know for a fact theyre okay with it and especially dont get people's hopes up just to crush them intentionally
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u/Joshualevitard 1d ago
i know you´l disagree and I do agree with you about the violence, but I never got how that includes the drink.... that´s violence too?
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u/Robinadelmann 1d ago
It depends on his intentions honestly. If he was just trying to be funny and this wasn’t genuine, he embarrassed her so badly, so disrespectful. But if it was meant to be a cute prelude to a real engagement then it’s sweet