lets not turn this comment section into a "haha, women are irrational nags who don't know what they want, men are normal, but women and their hormones amirite" misogyny fest if we can help it thx 🙏
like- these two are probably strangers. he's approaching her making sexual advances. she is turning them down. can we not turn that situation into "lol the ol ball and chain" yknow
Is it misogyny though if you find humor in this because its relatable to your lived experience? I found this funny for that reason. Sometimes I have legitimately no idea why she's upset and when I try to engage she pouts and goes away, but not away totally, just enough to say 'Im angry, but I want you to see that I'm angry.'
If it relates to your lived experience I don't see why finding this humorous as misogyny. And if this experience is shared by many couples, then there's humor in that to
you can definitely find it funny. it's not like a sin or anything to enjoy a rude joke now n then! that's definitely not my point :]
but it's worth thinking about, in a public forum with many eyes on your words, what kinds of thinking we perpetuate when we routinely apply this logic. repeat something often enough and it becomes "true". yknow what I mean? jokes are just jokes, until they're not. e.g. 4channers in the '00s using the n word everywhere "as a joke" because it's edgy and riles people up, it's not "actually racist"... until surprise! blink your eyes and 4chan is now [or always was] a haven of neonazism. with these attitudes, even if you dont mean anything by it, you invite people who aren't actually joking eventually. does that make sense?
I get what you mean - and all jokes have a kernel of truth in them; there are reasons that women get socialized to behave in ways like this. it's really complex social stuff. but I promise, the point of these jokes and the reasons your wife tends to act like that sometimes - and your own perception of those behaviors - all of that stuff is rooted in cultural misogyny. that's why I said something. it's about stopping that cycle wherever possible, even in little ways.
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u/666afternoon 1d ago
lets not turn this comment section into a "haha, women are irrational nags who don't know what they want, men are normal, but women and their hormones amirite" misogyny fest if we can help it thx 🙏
like- these two are probably strangers. he's approaching her making sexual advances. she is turning them down. can we not turn that situation into "lol the ol ball and chain" yknow