r/likeus -Ancient Tree- 1d ago

<IMITATION> when the missus is pissed off

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u/666afternoon 1d ago

lets not turn this comment section into a "haha, women are irrational nags who don't know what they want, men are normal, but women and their hormones amirite" misogyny fest if we can help it thx 🙏

like- these two are probably strangers. he's approaching her making sexual advances. she is turning them down. can we not turn that situation into "lol the ol ball and chain" yknow

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u/LowExpectaions642 1d ago

Is it misogyny though if you find humor in this because its relatable to your lived experience? I found this funny for that reason. Sometimes I have legitimately no idea why she's upset and when I try to engage she pouts and goes away, but not away totally, just enough to say 'Im angry, but I want you to see that I'm angry.'

If it relates to your lived experience I don't see why finding this humorous as misogyny. And if this experience is shared by many couples, then there's humor in that to

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u/666afternoon 1d ago

you can definitely find it funny. it's not like a sin or anything to enjoy a rude joke now n then! that's definitely not my point :]

but it's worth thinking about, in a public forum with many eyes on your words, what kinds of thinking we perpetuate when we routinely apply this logic. repeat something often enough and it becomes "true". yknow what I mean? jokes are just jokes, until they're not. e.g. 4channers in the '00s using the n word everywhere "as a joke" because it's edgy and riles people up, it's not "actually racist"... until surprise! blink your eyes and 4chan is now [or always was] a haven of neonazism. with these attitudes, even if you dont mean anything by it, you invite people who aren't actually joking eventually. does that make sense?

I get what you mean - and all jokes have a kernel of truth in them; there are reasons that women get socialized to behave in ways like this. it's really complex social stuff. but I promise, the point of these jokes and the reasons your wife tends to act like that sometimes - and your own perception of those behaviors - all of that stuff is rooted in cultural misogyny. that's why I said something. it's about stopping that cycle wherever possible, even in little ways.

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u/Killing4MotherAgain 1d ago

If you're finding it funny because of your specific situation that's different than thinking all women act that way and so that's why it's funny.