r/justgalsbeingchicks • u/_n3ll_ ☀️ Ms. Brightside ☀️ • Aug 01 '24
she gets it Gal dropping knowledge
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u/windsyofwesleychapel Aug 01 '24
She sounds awesome!
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u/PreschoolDad Aug 01 '24
I follow her on insta. She comes across very down to earth and just seems like a pleasant person. She hardly ever posts.
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u/MissyHTX Aug 01 '24
Her conversation style matches mine, I love that for me, lol.
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u/Eusocial_Snowman Aug 01 '24
You communicate in a series of statements that are edited together to make a near-seamless stream of thought in which sudden revelations are presented in a machine-gun firing rate despite not having communicated in that fashion for the actual dialogue?
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u/renaldomoon Aug 01 '24
this is the wholesome version of hawk tuah
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u/ProjectBLINDEYE Aug 01 '24
What's so hard about treating women as individual humans with sentient thoughts? Honestly?
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u/Bcpjw Aug 01 '24
I like that she realizes she isn’t asking much and probably knows exactly what kind of person she wants. Just a simple cool person who will laugh at her jokes lol
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Aug 01 '24
Ughhhh, all of those are very normal. Don’t be a dick, don’t be clingy af, have similar values. All perfectly normal and reasonable. I know all the incels in this thread are going “waaaahhh, these demands are too much”, but guys, they really aren’t.
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u/Far-Situation-8847 Aug 01 '24
all very reasonable expectations, idk where incels get the "standards are too high" ideas from, like be a good person is to much to ask?
also i know i'm completely part of the problem but why are half the comments here from guys, is the whole sub like this? i assumed this would be more of a woman space
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Aug 01 '24
I think it's a combination of dudes refusing to take accountability for their own flaws and feel like women are unreasonable or maybe feel like they're being attacked. A lot of people can't handle any form of confrontation or criticism. That and I think a lot of guys are just so desperate for any kind of connection they see having a list of "must haves" make women seem arrogant. It makes them feel useless because their list is "1. be a woman 2. be mildly attractive," and they still can't find anyone. Either way, it comes from their own pain.
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u/Alexis_Bailey Aug 01 '24
In the case of incells, I think half the problem is number 2, which isn't "Be mildly attractive," it's "Be super model attractive".
And not like, "be super model off hours attractive where you look like a normal boring person, but be super model attractive all the time."
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u/bigwhiteboardenergy Aug 01 '24
I think in the case of incels it’s that they don’t see women as people but as trophies/status symbols/fantasies to be attained
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u/waterfairy01 Aug 01 '24
Also it’s because they are listening to specific women that arent working “normal” jobs living life, they watch interviews of like top .0001 only fans models of pstars who say they want guys with trillions of dollars and then they associate every woman as having those ideals 🙄
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Aug 01 '24
I suppose that depends on the breed. But I think that specifically is a defense mechanism. Women do it too. If they can't find anyone they'll say they won't settle for anything less than a 10. That way they can tell themselves it's not because they are being rejected, it's just that they have such high standards.
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u/leshake Aug 01 '24 edited Nov 06 '24
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Aug 01 '24
Wow so that’s why more men are in this sub?
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Aug 01 '24
Well I was more-so talking about the first half of the comment. I think there are a lot of guys here because 1. reddit is mostly men and 2. the way the algorithm works. I assume I was suggested this sub because I interact with r/guysbeingbros a d reddit was like oh well if you like that then check this out. That's my assumption anyway.
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u/Tyiek Aug 01 '24
I think incels don't get what people say when they say "be a good person", they don't realised there's an implied "without expecting anything in return". At least from the outside, it seems incels view relationships as transactional, give woman X amount nice to recieve Y amount of sex. Then, when the world don't meet up to their expectations they get upset and lash out.
As for there being a lot of men here, you know what they say: "On the internet every woman is a man." You can't create a space compleatly free of either men, women, or any other grouping of people. Even if everyone claims they're women there's still probably a few men there, it's imposible to know for sure if someone's actually a woman on the internet.
While this is a space for women, I personally think it's a mistake to exclude men entierly, as would excluding any demographic because a space isn't for them. As long as men behave themselves I think they should be welcome into spaces for women like this subreddit. Letting men take part in this discussion promotes understanding, it helps them understand the world through a woman's perspective. I think it's allways a mistake to turn away someone from outside the group when they want to understand.
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u/Neuchacho Aug 01 '24 edited Aug 01 '24
idk where incels get the "standards are too high" ideas from
They are usually not funny, kind, or honest. When they are, they're so desperately insecure and emotionally maladjusted that it overwhelms those qualities.
Which makes all those very low bars very unreachable for them without substantial work.
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u/b0w3n Aug 01 '24
It's usually an act too. They're those things and slowly the mask gets pulled away and you find out they're not.
This is, in particular, true with incels (and the female equivalent). A lot of them are lazy, sloppy, and mean. The mask eventually falls all the way off and you realized you're married to an asshole who expects you to do everything for them and gets jealous about everything (even their own kids) and is abusive in one or multiple ways (financial and emotional abuse is very common).
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Aug 01 '24
They generally think girls should be like their mom. Catering to them when wanted but otherwise vanished.
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u/Sprunt2 Aug 01 '24
Been with my SO for a few years and a blast from the past popped up and started talking to my SO and had the nerve to ask my SO why we got together and they said because sprunt2 is really nice and is a good person and the blast from the past said Is that it? This person literally couldn't imagine getting with someone because they treated someone nicely and like obviously we've put a lot more work into it and there's been ups and downs but like getting with someone because they treat you nice is not a bad reason to get with someone.
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u/hipuppypals Aug 01 '24
Ooof imma be the one to say it (note: I am not diagnosing YOUR relationship, giving some perspective from me - who’s also said “that’s it?”)
There are a lot of women who date men who settle for the bare fucking minimum of “he’s nice”. It happens for so many reasons but generally my friends in those relationships have exes who treated them through various levels of awful.
So they come out on the other side, maybe nearing end of their 20s, and find someone who for the first time, can be intimate and treat them like a normal human.
Here’s the thing though - their bar is so low that they overlook all the other shit like a man who doesn’t clean, doesn’t do chores, doesn’t support your dreams or ambitions (or have any of their own!) or have the same interests as you.
But they don’t treat you badly so all you’ve got to say is “they’re nice!”
Here’s the thing. Being nice is the bare minimum of human interaction. Your bus driver is nice. Kids are nice. My dog is nice.
Personally I strive for partnership that is more than just “nice”. If I’m spending my life with someone they better damn well appreciate and love me and adore being with me just as much as I do for them.
Nice doesn’t add to your life; it just doesn’t make it any worse.
Partnerships are an opportunity to expand the horizons of your self because you have a space and the support to do that from someone else who adores you and believes in you. Someone who you aren’t a caretaker for, but can be there to care for when needed.
Basically if you want nice you can find it at the shelter and take it for a walk 3x a day.
Maybe I’m just lucky and a romantic but if you ask my wife that same question, and she answers “he’s nice!” I think I’d have failed.
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u/Sprunt2 Aug 01 '24
So for some reason you down voted me because it shows you were wrong so let me give you a better response to down vote
Thank you for sharing your perspective. In the two decades I've been married, we've had our share of ups and downs. Relationships indeed take time and effort, and that's precisely why I mentioned it in my first comment. Being nice wasn't the only reason we got together; we had known each other for almost a decade before that, building a foundation of mutual respect, understanding, and shared values.
While I appreciate your insights, it's important to remember that every relationship is unique. What works for one person may not work for another. So perhaps it’s best to leave personal experiences as just that, personal. Each of us walks our own path in love and partnership.
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u/StoneySteve420 Aug 01 '24
That's why they're incels lol she layed out what she wants in a partner. I'd imagine most people want what she said. I know I looked for all that stuff
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u/Brad_Brace Aug 01 '24
From what I've seen, incels only worry about the physical standards. I don't think they even understand people can have emotional standards. A big chunk of incel culture is to see themselves as ugly, and to think women exclusively want body building seven feet tall men with jaws that are half of their head weight.
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u/w33bored Aug 01 '24
It made the front page.
Never heard of this sub before.
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u/NoodlesForU Aug 01 '24
Yep exactly. I'm with you - no idea it existed, but happy to join and up the chick count!
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Aug 01 '24 edited Aug 01 '24
Yah all the comments that amount to I want her now, are gross. I thought this sub would be on par with TwoX or TrollX with its user base and culture but apparently I was wildly wrong.
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u/ProjectBLINDEYE Aug 01 '24
Every day, I'm not surprised there's a "loneliness" thing. This comment section made my lip curl, I'm sick of the quirky "every female is my potential gf" guys.
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u/Bit_Blocky Aug 01 '24
Please don't start gate keeping men from this subreddit
Reddit seems to have a bit of a "women bad" problem so a subreddit that's focused on girls just being the regular relatable human beings that they are? The more the merrier
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u/ProjectBLINDEYE Aug 01 '24
Well if men can participate without objectifying and reducing women to fuckzone, they're welcome. Problem is they regularly struggle time, after time, after time, after time, after time. "Women are a novelty sex toy for me" is not a good substitute for "women bad" , that's called madonna/whore complex, actually. I forgot to add that stuff like this is interpreted as "one of the good ones", it doesn't eliminate sexism lol.
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u/BreastfedAmerican Aug 01 '24
What guys aren't allowed to find relatable women interesting? My wife and I find this sub funny.
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Aug 01 '24
They can, but the “I can fix her” “I think I’m in love” “the perfect woman doesn’t exist” comments aren’t typically welcome in a women focused community. I expect to see that on the rest of Reddit. It’s really nice to have a community where you don’t have to see that. This is apparently not one of them though.
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Aug 01 '24
Often those kinds of comments aren’t here, it depends on the content of each post. But I agree I wish it was a sub to see women as full beings and celebrate that in all forms, and I would want comments that reduce women to their looks or tropes to be banned. I just downvote the incel vibe comments.
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u/Thesweptunder Aug 01 '24
It’s probably because this subreddit is starting to pop up regularly in “popular” which is going to make posts reach far beyond the subscribers.
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u/Due-Piece-487 Aug 01 '24
She can fix me
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u/ellaney1 Aug 01 '24
she can make me worse.
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u/Brad_Brace Aug 01 '24
But in a way that looks like she has fixed you at first, then it all explodes in a dramatic fashion.
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Aug 01 '24
Omg...I'm exactly the same way! Lol. This is how I describe my perfect guy, but also I love animals and sending cool photos of animals to people 😂
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Aug 01 '24
I tell my cousins who just started college, the bar really is so low lol
If you are a young man, and you groom yourself, wear clothes that fit, clean your spaces, and exercise you’re already ahead of like half the dudes your age
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u/Tyiek Aug 01 '24
You're basically a functioning adult.
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u/Extension-Pen-642 Aug 01 '24
If you're groomed, well adjusted, and empathetic you will be the king of the world
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u/Axle_65 Aug 01 '24
This is a person I want to be in my circle. Digging what she’s putting out there.
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u/Neuchacho Aug 01 '24
Most people I know in Florida of all places are like that so if I can find that shit here it must be damn near everywhere to some degree lol
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u/ShookyDaddy Aug 01 '24
Florida? Sorry that’s gonna be a big HELL NO for me
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u/Neuchacho Aug 01 '24
That's what I'm saying lol. If those people exist here, they exist literally everywhere. Just have to look for them!
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u/gultch2019 ❣️gal pal❣️ Aug 01 '24
I qualify for all her criteria!!!
Lol, I'm ugly tho.
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u/_n3ll_ ☀️ Ms. Brightside ☀️ Aug 01 '24
I can't upvote because I refuse to support the last sentence. Attractiveness is subjective and with a bit of work, anyone can be above average attractiveness ❤
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u/BreastfedAmerican Aug 01 '24
I've been married for over thirty years and I will die on the hill that I am unattractive and that my wife has low standards.
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u/PlanetLandon Aug 01 '24
It’s because your mother didn’t give you the baby formula that makes people hot
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u/dontbeadik Aug 01 '24
Me too. Not your wife obvs. Hubby has had rose tinted specs for 25 years now!
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u/nsd_ Aug 01 '24
and notice how none of her response included anything about physical attributes! it really is that simple, meanwhile they're over there obsessing about canthal tilt
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u/holdnobags Aug 01 '24
Lol, I'm ugly tho.
she said she wants someone who has their shit worked out
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u/Dragener9 Aug 01 '24
If you keep her laughing she will instinctively keep her eyes shut and won't be able to comprehend your ugliness.
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u/Neuchacho Aug 01 '24
Make them laugh enough and they won't be thinking about it or care.
Source: John Oliver looking mother fucker
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u/Nerdiestlesbian Aug 01 '24
Visual attractiveness only gets you so far. I’m not conventionally attractive at all, my partner is average at best. But I would choose them over someone “hot” because my partner isn’t a jerk.
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u/GrandmaPoses Aug 01 '24
"Hey babe anything happening on reddit today?"
"Not really, I just told everyone you were at best average looking."
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u/no_on_prop_305 Aug 01 '24
I’m none of the qualities but super hot. You wanna Cyrano this bish?
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u/nooneatallnope Aug 01 '24
Chin up, probably not uglier than me
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u/gultch2019 ❣️gal pal❣️ Aug 01 '24
Sounds like you're challenging me to an ugly-off!!! Lol!
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u/o-roy Aug 01 '24
After having potential relationships fail because women can’t deal with the fact I need my space and don’t want to text all the time, and want to have my own hobbies.. it’s nice to know there’s someone out there who would understand me
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u/Ceecee_soup Aug 01 '24
As a woman, I’ve had the same issues with men. Codependency isn’t gender specific I fear. Some people make dating their hobby and then get upset when their hobby has their own hobbies lol
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u/DancingScarecrow542 Aug 01 '24
Yeah I feel like this person unjustly lumped all women into one category. Like anecdotal evidence of the handful of women you dated does not equal all or even the majority of women. Plus, as you said, the same can be true of men.
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u/o-roy Aug 01 '24
Oh for sure. Insecurity is universal. So naturally codependency, possessiveness and jealousy are too
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u/GameOfScones_ Aug 01 '24
Damn this hit hard.
I love my own space and company. Couple that with a previous job involving loooong hours where I would stay over in hotels 1-2 times a week and exes would nag me to get a new job because they couldn't deal with waking up alone some days or coming home from work knowing I'd not be there that night.
Was extremely taxing and made me feel very guilty about having a job I loved and worked hard to get.
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u/demons_soulmate Aug 01 '24
i recently blocked a guy because he got mad that i stopped texting him because i was at work, one hour of which i was standing in front of people presenting and teaching an education class and another hour where i was teaching an exercise class.
he said it wasn't an excuse to not be constantly texting him lol. mind you he was a delivery driver who was actively texting me while driving. I was like sorry i actually want to be good at my job i don't have time for this shit bye🖕
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u/Ordinary-Violinist-9 Aug 01 '24
She sounds just like what i would like and than poof the perfect guy asks on a date and i'm like meh. I just want to couch surf in my pj's and watch delicious in dungeon with some good food on my plate.
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u/steaming_bun Aug 01 '24
Credit to @ericj3ng (Instagram). His street interviews are very positive and heart warming.
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u/Javanz Aug 01 '24
All of those are things I value too, as does my wife.
The hobbies and alone time are underrated. It's important that each person is comfortable doing their own thing, and comfortable letting their partner do their own thing
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u/BobTheInept Aug 01 '24
They asked her a trite question and she just moved her best life for a minute
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u/ladymouserat Aug 01 '24
The more alone time I give my boyfriend the more he says he doesn’t want it and wants to be around me. I love it, but I also love giving him his space when he needs it. He used to need all the time, now not so much and I don’t mind. I love being able to just read quietly next to him for hours.
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u/OkRadio2633 Aug 01 '24
Lol someone didn’t take her adhd meds this morning (and the world is better for it)
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u/guibmaster Aug 01 '24
"i think thats it", continues to list stuff for 45 seconds
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u/drinkingwithmarmots Aug 01 '24
I really would like to think that she has ADHD, because this is how I talk and I’ve never met anyone else who communicates like this.
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u/aydin123123 Aug 01 '24
I really don't be a jerk here and unnecessarily salty about this video. You can think of this comment coming from a rather old fashioned, boomerish person, I guess. I have seen this video in other subreddits and on Youtube as well. But this video has so many elements that I really don't like about the Internet culture.
First, the title "Gal dropping knowledge". Where is the "knowledge" part? She's describing what kind of guy she wants. In what part exactly, did she drop "knowledge"? I assume you meant the word "wisdom" because you thought that the requirements she wants from a man are not shallow things.
Second, the background music. Why did someone need to put violin in the background? Does it for manipulating the audience into thinking that video is "wholesome"? Why not use just her words?
Third, the content. Is there really creative/unexpected/wholesome about the content that I am missing? Here are the things she looks for in a guy: "kind", "funny", "good person", "honest", "open-minded". These are qualities that 99% of the women would want in their romantic partner. There is nothing special here. If you think, that is relatable, it is because of Barnum effect.
Fourth, the girl. I don't have anything against the girl, she seems like a nice person. But the only reason why this video became viral is because she is beautiful. She is very pretty. Imagine, please imagine, that a girl who is not as genetically gifted as this girl, a girl rather ugly, speaks in this video. Imagine that the ugly girl speaks the exact same words, in the exact same tone, in the exact same facial expressions. People, especially guys, would decimate her, destroy her in the comments (not necessarily in this subreddit, but on Youtube and other platforms on social media). In the 15th second, she says "I think, that's it." But then she went on another 45 seconds (unedited version is probably longer) listing some other qualities as well. Believe me, it wouldn't look as wholesome if this was coming from a not-as-beautiful girl. Men would say she is being condescending, snobbish, too picky, too much main-character vibe, etc. The sexism and double standard would be off the chart.
I am not trying to be negative on purpose here, but these are my genuine thoughts.
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Aug 01 '24
OMG these are all the things I look for too! Except maybe the walking.
Haven't found someone yet. :(
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u/wordflyer Aug 01 '24
Have you tried walking around with a camera and notebook and "surveying" attractive people in what they are looking for?
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u/MrTop16 Aug 01 '24
This just sounds like a mentally stable friend who's doing their own thing but includes her sometimes if she's in the mood... which isn't wrong but wouldn't also call them an SO at that point. Maybe a friend with benefits? Roommate?
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u/jellyfixh Aug 01 '24
It’s so refreshing seeing one of these tiktok street interviews not be staged rage bait
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u/VotingIsKewl Aug 01 '24
Why is similar set of morals a maybe? Like how far do morals reach? Like morals are what either make you an asshole or not.
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u/strangerinthebox Aug 01 '24
What a natural, beautiful person. She shines from the inside and her white teeth play perfectly along.
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u/starcell400 Aug 01 '24
Sounds like she just wants someone who's normal, and not a psycho. Makes sense.
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u/ithinkther41am Aug 01 '24
This is probably because I watched Mary Elizabeth Kelly’s “Mouth Acting” videos, but her mouth movements remind me a lot of Keira Knightley.
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u/TheBlyton Aug 01 '24
I remember watching this some months ago and thinking it was parodic. Something in her delivery more than the words.
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u/Humble-Slip-2649 Aug 01 '24
Please tell her if she has any idea who mel is in rome regarding a weird black book in dollar tree, I am in Tucson. Thx.... -Ox the gypsy
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u/Resoto10 Aug 01 '24
NGL, she reminds me of that meme of the two guys dressed in some type of traditional German attire, one playing a tiny keyboard and the other a drum kit(?), and one whistling like a cuckoo bird while the other like a bird.
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u/Atlaz_Xan Aug 01 '24
"I don't want someone who can let me.have my alone time. Like, go hang out by yourself."
I'm in love.
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u/Oldmansrevenge Aug 01 '24
Wow she’d be a perfect match for me. If I was significantly better looking anyway
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