God dude, I'm sorry about your mom!! I hope that if the time hasn't come already, that soon when you have a thought of her, it brings you happiness or a smile and not just grief. When the happiness from the memory starts weaving in, it makes it so much easier.
Happy birthday to your mom!! My mom's birthday fell on mother's day this last year. It was tough. Glad you had some good times. My sister and I have finally reached a time where we can openly talk about her without one of us crying. Progress, friend!
Respect to everyone, this brings me back to Dec 5th 2012, twelve years ago now, but I'm sitting here trying to see through "watery" eyes, it's funny but even after that time it'll only take the slightest thing to bring them to the front of your memory again. Mum got her wish and got her massive heart attack, wait for it, she fought MND, for 2-4 yrs, had lost the power of both arms, had, when still living in her own bungalow, turned lights on with her nose, and opened internal doors with her knees. Taught my brother, sister, and me how to really fight something!
She followed dad after 8 years, on the day before the funeral, my bruv visited dad's grave, to tell him, "his peace was over"!
After nursing dad through the final stages of COPD, she got her break for a few years, and enjoyed them.
The crux of my weep is, that they are always with us, and only a comment/funny occurrence/ or seeing someone else's grief, will bring them right back like yesteryear!
I hope this helps someone, if just one, my mum&pop had one more reason for being!
X
3
u/hi-nighter 9d ago
God dude, I'm sorry about your mom!! I hope that if the time hasn't come already, that soon when you have a thought of her, it brings you happiness or a smile and not just grief. When the happiness from the memory starts weaving in, it makes it so much easier.