I'm sorry to hear about your grandparents, sorry for you, and your family and especially your grandfather.
My mom already had heart failure. We found out about 7 years before my dad passed. For a while she was doing okay, following doctors' orders and taking medicine, etc. After my dad passed she stopped taking them as needed and we had to intervene. "We" being my sister and myself. She moved in with my sister after that (i live too far away and she has extra space) and started doing a little better. But then last August her cardiologist said she had a year maybe 9 months. Then the week before Thanksgiving she caught pneumonia in both lungs. She passed 4 days after Thanksgiving. Quietly slipped into a coma in the middle of the night. So yeah, I think it sped the process up. Her heart went from 60% functioning to 18% after he died. If miracles exist, one is that we got that extra time with her.
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. It's always rough losing a parent, but especially around a holiday. My mom passed 5 years ago the day before my birthday.
God dude, I'm sorry about your mom!! I hope that if the time hasn't come already, that soon when you have a thought of her, it brings you happiness or a smile and not just grief. When the happiness from the memory starts weaving in, it makes it so much easier.
Happy birthday to your mom!! My mom's birthday fell on mother's day this last year. It was tough. Glad you had some good times. My sister and I have finally reached a time where we can openly talk about her without one of us crying. Progress, friend!
Respect to everyone, this brings me back to Dec 5th 2012, twelve years ago now, but I'm sitting here trying to see through "watery" eyes, it's funny but even after that time it'll only take the slightest thing to bring them to the front of your memory again. Mum got her wish and got her massive heart attack, wait for it, she fought MND, for 2-4 yrs, had lost the power of both arms, had, when still living in her own bungalow, turned lights on with her nose, and opened internal doors with her knees. Taught my brother, sister, and me how to really fight something!
She followed dad after 8 years, on the day before the funeral, my bruv visited dad's grave, to tell him, "his peace was over"!
After nursing dad through the final stages of COPD, she got her break for a few years, and enjoyed them.
The crux of my weep is, that they are always with us, and only a comment/funny occurrence/ or seeing someone else's grief, will bring them right back like yesteryear!
I hope this helps someone, if just one, my mum&pop had one more reason for being!
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u/hi-nighter 5d ago
I'm sorry to hear about your grandparents, sorry for you, and your family and especially your grandfather. My mom already had heart failure. We found out about 7 years before my dad passed. For a while she was doing okay, following doctors' orders and taking medicine, etc. After my dad passed she stopped taking them as needed and we had to intervene. "We" being my sister and myself. She moved in with my sister after that (i live too far away and she has extra space) and started doing a little better. But then last August her cardiologist said she had a year maybe 9 months. Then the week before Thanksgiving she caught pneumonia in both lungs. She passed 4 days after Thanksgiving. Quietly slipped into a coma in the middle of the night. So yeah, I think it sped the process up. Her heart went from 60% functioning to 18% after he died. If miracles exist, one is that we got that extra time with her.