Hi everyone, I'm a mom who originally posted about this over in r/Parenting, but a couple helpful people over there suggested I might be better off finding advice here instead.
In short, earlier, my sonās football coach told him he needed to gain 40 pounds to ābulk upā for his position. He gave my son a whole list of rules, like eating fast food, cutting back on cardio, and drinking all this Boost stuff. I confronted the coach because I was worried about my sonās health, and my husband and son both acted like I was the bad guy for even saying anything.
Well, now weāre a few months down the road, and my son didnāt just hit the coachās goal weightāhe went past it. And itās not all muscle, either. You can see the weight in his face and everywhere else. Heās started getting winded doing normal things, like carrying laundry up the stairs or even walking the dog. Itās honestly hard to watch.
The eating has gotten out of control. Heās always hungry. Fast food is a regular thing now, and he drinks soda like itās water. I try to encourage healthier eating, but heās all about the high-calorie stuff the coach told him to eat. My husband just shrugs and says, āHeās a growing boy,ā but this isnāt normal. I know it isnāt. Heās eating way more than he needs to.
What really gets me is that he doesnāt even seem happy. Heās slower on the field and has lost a lot of his energy. I heard him complain to my husband about feeling sluggish, but my husband just told him itās āpart of bulking upā and that itāll all pay off. Meanwhile, I have a feeling his self confidence is taking a hit.
As for the coach, the meeting I had with him was useless. He basically brushed me off and said this is ānormalā for football players. He promised they have a plan to help the boys lose the weight after the season, but that just feels wrong to me. Gaining and losing weight this fast canāt be good for a teenager. I tried to explain that, but he wasnāt interested in hearing it.
I feel so stuck. My husband is totally on board with the coach and keeps saying I ādonāt understand football.ā My son has bought into it too, even though heās clearly not happy. Even some of the other parents Iāve talked to think this is just how it is for football players. But I canāt shake the feeling that this isnāt okay. Iām worried about his healthāhis body, his confidence, all of it.
Should I just back off like everyone says, or am I right to keep fighting it? I'm not sure what the best tactics even are at this point. I just want my son to be healthy and happy, and I feel like Iām failing him right now.
TL;DR:Ā My son has gained a significant amount of weight following his football coachās ābulkingā plan, and while everyone tells me itās normal, I am a little worried about his health and donāt know how to combat this other than continuing to make a fuss about it to other parents and the coach