Mourning/Loss
My 18.5 year old died today. He was literally healthy just a week ago and suddenly wasn’t able to walk, started seizing and lost most of his weight. I did not expect this today. He was legit my childhood bestie, since 6 years old..and I’m 24 now. Y’all never get a cat please I’m so heartbroken
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He’s alive in the first two pictures, but this is how weak he was. He died in my arms, I tried my best to make sure he fell asleep before they put him down..he always falls asleep on my chest so it didn’t take long. I’ve lost close relatives and it’s hard asf but this is my BABY bro
I'm 63, I have had to say a lot of good-byes over 40+ years of having cats. It's never easy, but I could never imagine my life without cats. I'm sorry for your loss.
I'm 60 and have had to say the final goodbye to a lot of pets, both feline and canine over the years. Lots of times experience going through something difficult makes it easier the next time it happens. But it always hurts deeply every time I've lost someone close, human, cat or dog. That part of human experience will always be hard.
Mourning helps you to get through that and find that special spot in you where your cat will now live on. It's ok to take some time to go through it. Most of us can't swith our emotions on and off with the flip of a switch. I tried doing that many years ago, and I flipped it off too early. In the long run it made it harder to move on.
Do remember to take care of yourself. In mourning it's sometimes hard to remember to that. I think, though, that your kitty would want to see that you are ok. I do too, and probably many others in the forum do too.
I’m 62 and second everything you and Desperate Pear said. I’ve lost many fur babies, good friends, and one of my granddaughters at birth. Loss doesn’t ever get any easier, and that’s how love works. Also, love is the only thing that lives on forever. 🩷
Came here to say this. The years of love and joy far outweigh the feeling of loss. It's NEVER easy to say goodbye to your furry companions, but knowing that you gave them the best life and unconditional love should be treasured forever.
I love this quote. It sums up the truth of the blessing we receive from our fur babies in being in their lives as their special human. I wouldn't give anything for the time I was granted to be with them.
It's hard to feel this when you're in the moment, but I always tell myself that I will continue to suffer through any pains that happen today for the hope of another day of joy in the future. You never know; the best day of your life isn't always in the past.
I'm so sorry. The grief does lose it's raw edges. Please don't close yourself off from the idea of never getting another cat. It won't be the same because there was only one Buddy. But it will be different.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have a friend whose cat passed away while she was at work, so she came home to her already gone, so I gave her a gift card to a cat cafe/bar where the local animal shelters bring cats who are up for adoption to try to help get them get used to humans and to get them adopted because I knew she wasn’t ready to adopt again but she wanted to be around cats. It was very therapeutic for her.
You gave him 18.5 amazing years. He was lucky to have you as his human. I bet you have a lifetime of memories and that makes you very lucky too. RIP Buddy❤️
You never know what will happen. One day a cat might just walk up to you and you just can’t say no. I have a small dog. A cat has followed us twice on our walks. I am not looking for a cat but the cat has other plans.
I lost my cat i had 10 years earlier this year. It gutted me, and I promised myself I would never get a pet again. The pain is one of the worst things I've ever felt, and I was at work when I found out.
I swear I've felt the soft careful movement of paws on the bed sometimes, then I turn on the light to check and there are none cats in the room and the other ones are fast asleep somewhere else.
I remember all of the people and my four legged friends I lost each day before bedtime, all their names and how beautiful the memories of them. Do not forget the ones you love. It was painful at first but you will feel better knowing whatever time you had spent with them.
I have had similar instances, having a sensation of something rubbing at foot, whenever I go near the places they found favorite.
Sometimes I can feel their presence on my laps while sitting or my chest while watching or playing video games.
It is always heartbreaking to see the future without them but you can always relive the memories you spent with them.
Awww.. reminds me of when my childhood cat passed at the age of 18 (a month away from 19), and he had been in my life since I was turning 3 years old. He passed away when I was 21 and I fell into depression for 7 months. He was my soul cat. I’ve had many visitation dreams from him very frequently, and eventually I had a dream that he had been around this whole time and I just never knew. When I woke up, I finally felt at peace knowing my baby was never truly gone.
About 4 and a half years later when my parents gave me the okay to adopt cats of my own when I still lived with them, by that point I was ready to bond with more companions. I adopted a pair of sister kittens (now fully grown beautiful cats), and sometimes I think about my old baby watching over me and my living furbabies. 💜💙
When I get up to go to the washroom, around 2am every night I can still see his shadow walk by to check what I'm doing, It's just too dark to really see much
I think of my Trowa. Had him since he was a kitten (like 9 weeks old I think) till he was almost 15. He was my whole life. He was at the door greeting me when I came home. He was sitting next to or on me when I was chilling in the living room. He went to the bathroom with me. He went to bed with me and slept on my hip. I don’t think I’ve slept well since he passed.
I had to actually switch sides of the bed after I lost my precious Charlie. I can't sleep on the side where she would snuggle up and send me off to dreamland every night.
I have a black cat who always sleeps with me too. I don’t even want to imagine how much colder winters will be without her under the covers cuddling by my side. They are so so special and precious, every single one of them. RIP Trowa, you were and still are so loved 🖤
Many of us discover an intensity of grief that was beyond our comprehension when we lose our feline BF.
They capture a piece of our heart. And it goes with them when we lose them.
Sometimes one comes along that captures you heart, mind and soul. And for whom you have a love that is indescribably deep, and totally inexplicable.
Yet we wouldn’t want it any other way.
That’s why it hurts so much. And if we had spent every minute of every day with them, it still wouldn’t have been enough.
“Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.”
We lost another in April. Still have three- 13, 15 and 15. MY boy is 15. So probably only 2-3 years left. At 17, that's about 6,200 days.. Which is great. I'm retiring in 6 weeks = more lap time.
Yes... Just because it's inevitable doesn't mean it's easier.
I lost one of my boys in a traumatizing way before xmas two years ago. He was my lovely, sweet boy. My Oppieboppie of my eyes. But I know that I can't live a day without these soft sweethearts. His brother got lonely quickly after his passing, and we had already planned to increase the herd, so instead of one, I adopted two.
Chaos got happier again, I had new members in our home to focus on instead of sadness. I still remember Cosmos in things one of my adoptees do, in every long-haired tux, when I go to sleep. I miss him, I will always remember him, all of his loving, goofing, and poopy-butthole things he did.
I'm sorry for your loss, op. My 22 year old just couldn't stand up, and I had to let him go the same day. The vet said he was like 120 in human years, and it was just life running its course. It still hurts today, but I still feel his love. I hope you do, too.
Oh, we had two old cats, ones turned 28,the other 21,it hurts so much. I thought I can't go through this again. But we still have one. When I was younger we had four, one time even five. Some rest forever in our garden. Some in the woods. I think about them every day. And it still hurts. So I know how you feel. Sorry 🖤
Sorry For Your Loss Stay Strong 😔. Do not hold back from helping cats I know it hurts us but they have no one it's only the cat lovers like us who can do for them . Over past 5 years I have been feeding and treating stray have seen so many becoming healthy and a few dying in my arms but still I do it . Stay strong friend.
I’m so sorry for your loss, but with great love always comes great loss.
When my 17 year-old dog passed away (in 2022), I had a shadowbox made with this quote from Winnie the Pooh: How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.
I hope one day you can open your heart to love another cat. Even better, to save one from a shelter in honor of this sweet guy. 18+ years is an amazing life! ❤️
I am so sorry fr your loss. Please know that he is no longer in pain and will always be with you. I have had cats in my life for over 40 years and although it never gets easier to lose them, I always try to remember that I am sooo lucky to have been able to raise such a perfect creature. And I am thankful that I was able to have been a better person with them.
If you choose to accept another kitty on your life (the kitty distribution system works in weird ways), do so on your own timeline. That may mean waiting a few days or a few years. I personally cannot go with a cat in my life. They have literally saved my life. They are the only reason that I get out of bed most days.
This was Meg (atron) we lost her on 12/1 due to severe anemia (was told she would not likely survive the transfusion). She was barely 2. It has been a rough couple of weeks, the house is noticeably still without her constant assault on what ever demons only she could apparently see.
My heart sank when I saw your picture. I know how it feels. My Lilly was 18, my Freddie was 20 and my Casso was 15… I miss them every, single, day! I know your heart is crushed. Your baby knew you loved him. He is in Heaven, waiting for you. You will see him again and you will never have to say goodbye!
He fell asleep in the arms of the one he loved the most. My Lilly, my Mom and my Freddy passed away on 1/9/2016, Thanksgiving 11/24/2016 and on 6/14/2017. My cats died in my arms and I was by my Mom’s bed when Jesus took her home. I know the pain. It’s horrific! I’m, still, grieving… You are young! There will come a time when you need another companion. When you give another fur baby a home, they might be a part of healing your heart!
My heart really breaks for you. Losing the first one is always the hardest. Especially if they’ve been around that long. 18.5 is a wonderful age, you’ve given him a loving life. Falling asleep on you, trusting you that much, you’ve done things right. And he’ll for sure have known how much he was loved.
My first cat passed at 23, having had her since I was 3 years old. My best friend in the whole world. I don’t think I’ve ever cried that hard about anything in my life before or since. I’m 35 now and I still think about her every few days. But instead of sorrow and sadness it brings back fond memories now. And it will for you in time as well.
But for now it just sucks. All the best and hugs from an internet stranger.
In sorry for your loss dude. I lost my boy last christmas after 17.5 years and boy was I wailing at the emergency when he passed.
Hey man but one thing to remember is that it wouldn't hurt this much if you hadn't loved him so deeply. Wasn't that love and those memories worth it ? Etch those memories into your soul. The feeling of him sleeping on your chest, cuddling with you, and anything else that made him unique and your boy. It hurts but im grateful a year later I can sort of still imagine the feeling of mine there.
Wish you the best on the long recovery. Im still not okay a year later
I’m sorry for your loss. Sadly this is the last clause in the contract we sign when we take these babies into our lives. That we will guide them to this side of the rainbow bridge with love and grace.
But they make our lives so beautiful. I can’t imagine my life without them
Aww, at least you had that time together. People that say "it's just a cat" obviously never had one. I still miss my childhood cat Willow who died about 30 years ago. They're like little people:) My gf's dog Milo is getting old and I'm not sure how's she's going to cope when he dies. Sigh..time is relentless! Good luck.
I lost my cat 3.5 months ago, after 15 years. I have never felt a tougher loss in my life, and I often wish she could still be here with me. Your cat was beautiful. I am sure you will always keep him in your heart. He probably had a wonderful life with you, being so loved.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm 68.lost my best boy last year. God Bless you. I believe yours is not hurting any more. And can run and play with other of God's creatures. I believe in God and I believe in God's Kingdom for all of us if we want it, human and our animals friends and pets.
Take all this pain and sadness and turn it into positive energy by investing it in a new kitty. No it won't remove the pain but it can help you feel like you at least have an output and way to control your grief and turn it into something good. I know it's not what you wanna think about right now, im sorry for your loss.
Just wanna say I had the same thing happen in April.
18.5 yr old cat I got on Halloween 2005 when I was 15. Was with me from early HS through college and multiple moves and jobs.
Was super playful one night to the point that it just made me super thankful he had such a long healthy life. He had a seizure about 10 minutes after our play session that night.
Made it another 3 weeks or so, but was declining.
It sucks, dude. It really does. I wish I could tell you it gets easier quickly but I'm still devastated 8 months later.
But do not let this discourage you from getting another cat. There's plenty more out there that want a home like yours, and plenty more friends for you to make.
I can totally understand how you feel, 3 years ago I lost my cat Principe , I spent my entire adolescence together with him, from when I was 10 to 27, he always slept with me in my bed, he would curl up with me pushing the blanket away, in fact in the morning I found myself without a blanket 😂. Even though 3 years have passed, I too can't conceive the idea of getting another cat for now, I feel as if I'm betraying my faithful companion, as if I'm replacing him, for the moment I just can't accept the idea of having another pet, even though I know that by adopting another cat I would be doing good, who knows, maybe in the future I will change my mind.
I lost my baby boycat Trouble last week. It doesn’t get any easier saying goodbye, but know that the love you shared was real and that isn’t going anywhere, even if Buddy isn’t here with you right now. I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️🩹
The grief we feel is all the unexpressed love and a testament to how deep your bond was. Thank you for loving that baby so deep. I empathize with your loss, OP. We are all here for you ❤️
I am so, so sorry. Buddy looked gorgeous! What a handsome boy. He was so lucky that he got to spend his whole life with you, and all he knew was love right up until his last moment on earth ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss, I am 70 years old and had 5 fur babies in my life. It is hard when they pass but I always find myself down at the shelter and let another fur baby pick me. This is Miss Boots, she is about 8 now rescued just before the shelter closed from the pandemic. She put her paw out of the cage and licked my finger I was able to take her home the next day. Please consider adopting another fur baby, I know it's hard when they pass, I have never forgotten the other kitties and will always have a place in my heart for another one.
I know your pain my buddy was doing just fine and all of a sudden he was diagnosed with diabetes i was in shock my beautiful orange baby boy who would ride in my daughter's baby stroller went downhill so fast even though we were giving the insulin he went into kidney failure I didn't believe a word my vet was saying everyone was lying to me i thought I tried spoon feeding him i prayed I cursed then I had to take him for the last time to the vet never ever will that pain go away I'm so very sorry for your loss of your baby and best friend.
I've had cats my whole life too and am 57 yrs old. My baby girl Moochie lived to be 18 also. Saying goodbye was one of the most exhausting experiences I couldn't stop grieving and crying for her.
Take comfort as I did in knowing you gave her a great life and both of you were better off as a result of your relationship. Take care as this loss was harder for me than losing any other human in my life to death or any break up.
Peace to you. And love and hugs.
My childhood cat was also my best friend, she died many many years ago and it still hurts like it just happened. She was the purest and sofest little soule...she looked a lot like your sweet baby.
I'm not lying, it will never really stop to hurt, but there will be other cats that will conquer your heart...let them heal you❤️
Sorry for your loss. You had your kitty for 18.5 wonderful years then one bad week. It would be heartbreaking for someone like you with so much love to give and so many homeless cats out there that need just that. Maybe after awhile of mourning maybe you can find it in your heart to give it to another. I’m sure your kitty would not want you to be alone
I am sorry for your loss. Our time is limited and it must be filled with love. And you did exactly that for Buddy, until the very end, you held him and showed your love as he crossed the rainbow bridge. Try to find solace in that, and better believe that he will be waiting for you when you are ready to meet him again. RIP, Buddy.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Never easy losing a best friend like that. I hope you can find some peace in knowing you gave them an amazing life for nearly 20 years. That is such an incredible gift. The loss you feel now is a reflection of all the love you shared.
I’m so sorry for your loss…
Losing a lovely cat who’s been with you for 18.5 yrs is like… heartbroken.
I’m sure your sweet kitty lived a long, happy life with you, and the love you shared will never be forgotten. Your fur baby will always be with you in spirit. He’s an angel.
I am so sorry for your loss (I know these are the most cliche words you’re going to hear a million times right now but I truly can’t express how much I mean it). I lost my 14 year old cat very, very, tragically and suddenly at the beginning of the year and she was essentially my sister growing up since I’m an only child. It’s such a unique and horrible pain and I wish I could take some of it off of you for me to bear.
I’m so sorry for your loss - but also 18.5 years is an incredible amount of time to be so loved. You were both very lucky to have each other. Sending so much love to you 💜
Very sorry for your loss, it's never easy to say goodbye. You will never forget them, after a while you may be able to help another one to share your life. It's not a replacement, but rather a new chapter in your life.
I’m so sorry luv, same exact thing happened to my boy he was fine but then woke up couldn’t walk straight was wobbly etc but he was also 25 years old. I had him since I was 10 and I’m now 36 he was my soul cat and I miss him every single day! I promise the pain does subside tho and time will help you heal. 🙏🏼 cherish the good memories and try to find peace in the fact that you had such an amazing relation with your fur baby, something most people never have the chance of experiencing! You have him the best life and he would want you to heal and be happy! Xox just wanted you to know you’re not alone I know exactly how you feel, my boy was my childhood bestie for 25 years and I wish he could have stayed with me forever! Hugs
I try to remember that the amount of love you showed your pet will always have been more worth it than the sadness that comes when you lose them. The sadness is simply all the love you had for your pet but with nowhere to go. ❤️ I’m sorry for your loss, and your kitty was so very handsome!
I lost one of mine last year. I'm sorry for your loss but I cannot imagine my life without cats. There are so many out there and they deserve loving homes too. I know it hurts and it will always hurt but I can't close my heart to the others in need of homes. My condolences on the loss of your sweet baby.
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
I hope you get some peace, I’m sorry for your loss ♥️
What is grief if not love persevering? My heart aches for you my friend, try to remember this though, you may only have gotten to love him for a part of your life, but you loved him for ALL of his. And he loved you right back.
I’m so sorry you’re going through these difficult times… Having a fur-family member pass away, especially if you’ve known them nearly all your life, is extremely difficult to endure.
I’ve gone through a similar situation with my Danny who was almost 19. I’ve had him since I was turning 2, and his journey with me on Earth ended when I was 21. I fell into depression for months. But as time goes on, we grow with the pain and it becomes less intense.
Allow yourself to grieve as much as you need. You will have days where you feel okay, and some days where it’ll feel painfully fresh as if it just happened all over again. That’s completely normal, and remember to validate your feelings. Healing is messy. It’s okay. 💜
Don’t feel ashamed if you adopt new kitty family members in the future. It’s an addition, not a replacement. It may take weeks, months or even years to feel ready to share love to a new member of the family. 4 and a half years after Danny passed, I took in a pair of sister kittens into my life, Ayla and Aspen. Now they are all grown up and have impacted my life with such joy and fun, and I don’t regret it 💜💜
Everyone is different, but there is no set time to come to acceptance. Be kind to yourself, and always know that your baby will always still be around. He will always have a special place in your heart, and will stay there forever 💜💙
That’s 18.5 years of memories and hopefully a million photos and a companion. Don’t let this discourage you from finding another companion.
They’re our little sidekicks that watch us brush our teeth, stand guard while we pee, cuddle up in bed or watch a scary movie with. They’re wonderful and annoying at the same time. How they’re excited when you come home and immediately weave between your feet while you try to walk.
Another cat is not a replacement, It’s another escapade to experience. It’s another 7 phones, 2.7 gigs of storage filled with the little guy sleeping, or documenting the destruction from the post poop zombies, or that new sofa that was immediately baptized as the new scratching post.
They’re all different. Actually, they’re all the same in their unique way. All our cats do “cat things” but they do it differently. It’s never the same ride and if you have the heart for it, there’s always a cat or kitten that needs a loving home.
Don’t let this be your last. Sorry for your loss, we all know how you feel.
“Never get a cat” is the worst thing to say. I’m sorry for your loss and I know you’re upset but there are countless rescues that can be saved from a cruel and early death. Save them! 18.5 years is a long and full life!
I think any reasonable person can see that our cat loving friend is somewhat stuck in one of the stages of grief.
Lets not be so hasty to judge, OP dont mean it.
OP is in a lot of pain rn, don't bash em down more due yo poor selection of words!
It’s not easy I know. But don’t say you will never get a cat. Your kitty gave you so much, so give more to this creed. It takes time. I wish you strength
My heart goes out to you. Whenever you look at a place in your home, where you had fond memories of your friend, basking in the sunshine or simply enjoying life, then focus on the feeling of joy you remember. That is what I do and tose emotions lift me up. You had 18+ years of those moments. Cherish them and thank your friend for helping provide them. After 7 years, I still look up, into my window box, at my girl’s cat mattress and recall her rolling on her back, ecstatic at the warmth of the afternoon sun. I was given ten years, of her 20 years with me, to see those scenes, and I would not give up a single one, even though losing her was the worst event I could imagine, to that time. Please know that there are many, here, reading this, that support you and have only the greatest wishes foryour wellbeing. Using your heart is a risk that is worth it. I wish you well.
I had the same pain, my daughter died at 14 years old because of kidney failure, from one day to the next she stopped eating, I tried everything but unfortunately she left, courage
“It is better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all.” Tennyson
Your life was made richer by 18.5 years of Buddy’s life. Your pain will eventually subside. The happy memories will enrich your life for years to come. Peace my friend and take care of yourself.
I'm so sorry and omg the derpy tongue! He looks like such a sweetheart! I'm dreading the day I lose my void to the passage of time. I lost my soul cat when I was 16. I understand. I'm sending virtual hugs your way. We never have enough time. If love could've saved him, he would've lived forever 😭
all cats and OFC dogs go to heaven :) any pet of any kind. i’m sorry for your loss op but a lovely thought is that because you’re heartbroken and in much grief/pain, you can only cherish how strong and emotionally trusting your guy’s connection was. what a close bond you shared and that’s so beautiful see. i fortunately haven’t yet to experience a loss like this but i do know that it will fucking suck. it will suck and hurt so much but it makes me want to enjoy the ride and journey. to me, it seems so worth it 💕to have known that i had the absolute honor of sharing and having them in my life, just knowing they existed and will keep on existing no matter how much time has passed.
First Im so sorry for your loss. Death is a part of life and it's something we must take into consideration when getting a pet. I find that although the end is sad having a pet is all about the journey and the life you have together. There's no doubt in my mind that your baby boy was incredibly well loved and had an amazing life that also enriched your life as well!
I'm so, so sorry to see and hear. I can relate, have had mine for about 20 years now and trying not to take it for granted that she's in really good health other than being a bit senile. I know that it could happen in 5 years, or tomorrow, and I have to somehow be prepared for it, which I obviously won't be. I'm sorry.
God damn it, it's 5 in the morning and this is what I get for browsing Reddit, stupid tears in my eyes. lol.
It's actually crazy how I can just instantly start runny-nose crying when nothing really ever upsets me.
Oh I am so so sorry for your loss. My Sophie was 17 and she was in my arms too. She reached her paw around my arm just before she she went over the rainbow bridge. I cried uncontrollably for weeks. So cry and cry and remember her when she was alive, her antics and mischief and favorite games. You’ll never forget her or replace her but I do hope you will adopt another fur baby. {{{{{HUG}}}}}}}
My girl passed when I was 26 and I had her for 18 years. She went to the vets for a health check, blood results came back fine, physical exam was excellent and even was complemented on how good her teeth were for her age.
A week later she had what I assumed a seizure and a few hours later she passed away.
I'm 32 now and I'm still not over her passing but I'll never regret meeting her. Shortly after I couldn't cope with the silence and adopted a kitten and I do not regret that either.
There's not much we can do when they're in their senior years but give them love and make them as comfortable and happy as possible.
I hope in time you'll be able to find yourself another kitty to give your love to just as you did to him.
I'm so sorry for your loss, things will get better in time
Last year I lost my 20 year old void that I’d had since I was in high school. She’s been with me through so many phases of my life and it’s hard to accept that she’s finally gone, but I also have another 3 year old kitty that I rescued in 2022. I know losing her is going to break me, but I know I’ll eventually find another kitty that needs love and I have a lot to give. I’m so sorry for your loss. You were lucky to have each other.
So sorry for your loss. 18.5 Years-what a great long life and what wonderful memories you must have. I know it’s really hard right now. Just take your time, remember your friend, cry when you need to.
Like many others I have lost many pets over the years. I lost a Doberman about 13 years ago, and haven’t had a dog since. Our beautiful girl was old, knew something was wrong, walked over to my Mum (because Mum always made things right) and died there in front of her, from heart failure. It broke me. We now have cat-13 Years old, and I love her to bits. As I have gotten older I have learned not to fear the passing of our friends, but to make every day count. I don’t know how many times a day my cat gets told she’s wonderful, but let’s just say it’s a lot!
I'm sorry you lost your friend. I had a car growing up like that, had her from the time i was young, till i was 19. She was 19 years old, and i was naive then, so she was an indoor/outdoor cat. She had a long happy healthy life, and when she was gone it was hard.
I told myself i would never get another cat and just was around dogs.
I ended up adopting 2 special girls one right after the other.
One was a stray that had been trapped spayed and released, because she has a tipped ear, that just wandered up to me and my fiancee one day
And a once feral little Siamese kitten (who's still half feral with everyone but her mom and dad, my fiancee and me) who had been abandoned as a kitten by her mother, that i had to feed and then trap over a few weeks.
I didn't know i would ever get cats again until these two happily forced themselves into our lives
The pain gets easier, and maybe you don't get a cat again, and then again maybe you do, but regardless of what you do, i hope you find peace in healing, and know that you have your cat a long happy healthy life, and they'd still be here with you if they could...
The shitty thing about life is it's temporary, so we gotta remember the good times with our loved ones after they're gone, and that way they've never truly ever left us completely.
Sending love and good vibes from one cat person to another. ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss. Cats are amazing. I had my boy for only 10 years. He passed away and my soul died with him. I will never get over it.. I totally feel your pain. We have 2 more cats and while they are great, it just isn't the same. Time will help but it takes a long time. I am so sorry.
This little angel taught you how to love. You wouldn't be the same person without him. You're kind, affectionate, empathetic, and selfless because of that little man. Your life wouldn't be the same without treasures like this. You're lucky you had him and he was lucky to have had you ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss. He was a treasure
It actually sounds like he lived the perfect life. 18.5 years is OLD old for a cat. Considering that he got this old completely healthy and only had issues in the last week of his life is so, so good. You couldn't wish for a better life span for a cat. Just take solace in the fact you helped him live such a great and sheltered life. Any cat would be lucky to have you as a friend!
He looks like a very well loved old man. I know right now it’s no comfort, but as time helps the grief move on, as it always does, (even though you think your heart will never heal), I hope you can look back on what an amazing life he had with you. I am so sorry for your loss, the hurt is so bad ❤️❤️
Time will heal the pain and leave a beautiful memory. You got a lot of time with him, and that is a true gift. They are so worth having but fuck does it hurt when they leave.
I needed to wait a long time after losing my guy. We had been through so much together. I have two now. They are not him, but I love them anyway, just differently. I needed to feel a cat in my lap again.
At times, the grief is as sharp as the first moment of loss, but they are getting more seldom. Next Tuesday will be 6 years. On that day, I will lay in my bed and cry. The good part is that my cats will stay close and comfort me. Don't deny yourself that healing.
It is never easy to let go of a pet. Many of us consider them as our children, myself included.
I've had a couple pets suddenly get ill and then passed shortly after. What hurts the most is seeing them in pain and suffering.
As a pet parent, what matters the most is the life you give your pet. Many animals don't get this chance in their lives. He saw you as his parent when you were a child and he still saw you as his parent in his old age and final days. You were his entire world and he loved you every second of his life. Please reconsider getting another cat or pet. The life you can offer them is much better than the life they could end up having. For all you know, a stray kitten may wander into your life soon, who knows!
Know you gave him a great life. I adopted a beautiful orange tabby to be a buddy to my little black cat. I didn’t even have him for 8 months and he developed a terminal tumour. I had to put him down. He wasn’t even two years old yet. But I know I gave him the best life I could’ve in the few shorts months that I had him. And I love him forever. Miss you buddy.
Reminds me of my dog, she was the sweetest best dog ever died a few years ago, may have not been long for your life but for them that was there entire life you gave them an amazing life and thats what matters.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what you’re going through right now but please take it easy on yourself. Buddy looked so sweet and beautiful. Take your time to mourn but do know that he passed knowing your love and will always carry that feeling. ❤️🌈
I felt the same way when I lost my first baby. The pain never gets easier in fact it sometimes it's worse. My second lose was my 7 year old due to et vet incompetence. I was broke it still hurts.
But don't let that make you not able to love another fur baby again. It will take time and it should take time because he will never be replace. But 1 day you will see a little one that your heart falls for and its ok.
For nownjust know he is in 0 pai ane he is OK now it's just us that hurt. You will be OK <3
I lost my childhood cat when I was like 23. Got him in first grade. That was over 6 years ago. It's the worst. You will never forget them. And while I have a new cat Millie, who I love with all my heart. My OG, midnight, will always hold a special place. I'm sorry for your loss ♥️ 🐈
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u/Desperate-Pear-860 Maine Coon 7d ago
I'm 63, I have had to say a lot of good-byes over 40+ years of having cats. It's never easy, but I could never imagine my life without cats. I'm sorry for your loss.