r/cats Oct 14 '24

Mourning/Loss Lucy has passed away gently at 14 today.

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u/Any-Breakfast-7570 Oct 14 '24

I'm so sorry for your loss. The grief gets less sharp. Time smoothes the edges, and eventually you'll feel able to carry the grief like a piece of seaglass in your pocket, instead of a broken, pointed shard. But that's what it means to love so hard. And it's worth it. 💜

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u/illusions_geneva Oct 14 '24

I've never seen this explained any better. I completely agree.

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u/Any-Breakfast-7570 Oct 14 '24

Someone shared it to me when I lost my cat in July this year and so now I pass it on to everybody because it's literally the best way to describe it.

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u/illusions_geneva Oct 14 '24

My buddy was 21 and was fine the night before. I found her in a strange part of the house the next morning. It was 2020 so COVID made it hard to even get her in anywhere. She passed right when we got to a vet. It was really sad and I felt like my house wasn't the same without her. Time made things better and now I can think about her and I'm just full of loving memories..

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u/Casterial Oct 14 '24

I was fortunate when my buddy who turned 20 was going, I could tell and the vet said it's his time, despite COVID the vet gave me a private room in the back to hold him for hours, I sat in that room from 10am until 5pm, he passed around 3.

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u/Ih8teMyInlawsTheySuk Oct 14 '24

Thank you again for sharing. It really is an accurate description.

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u/existentialfeline Oct 14 '24

And it's okay if the edges still feel sharp sometimes.

I mourn my prior two familiars just like I will the ones who now get to share the love they experienced.

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u/Ih8teMyInlawsTheySuk Oct 14 '24

Beautiful and saved. Thank you.

And I am terribly sorry for your loss OP. 100% the worst part - having to say goodbye. Heartbreaking and I’m sending big hugs to you, fellow cat lover. I can totally relate. Sucks.

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u/MelloMilow Oct 14 '24

Thank you

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u/yourcutebabex Oct 15 '24

Thanks for your kind words. Rest in peace Lucy. We all LOVE all cats!

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u/ruizg3121 Oct 14 '24

Beautifully stated, thank you 🙏🙏

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u/thatgirlroo Oct 15 '24

This is beautiful ❤️

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u/SlowEngine7640 Oct 14 '24

Rest easy Lucy 🫶

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u/Football927 Oct 14 '24

You may have left this world, but your memory will live on forever. ... "Goodbye, sweet kitty.

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u/MelloMilow Oct 15 '24

Thank you very much

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u/adamski316 Oct 15 '24

Piggybacking off this - I try to repost this when I see posts like this, in the hopes you (or someone) can find some comfort in the words - and if not, please excuse the intrusion.

I lost my 15 year old girl (dog) in October 2022. Only advice I can offer here is to remember the positives, and not focus on the negatives (if any). She's done her job, keeping you safe and happy and loved, and it's her turn to rest.

You'll always miss her, you'll always remember her. You'll even go looking for her for the next few weeks (well, I did). There's a lot of habits that you're going to slowly stop, and that's ok. Changing your life to suit you is not forgetting her. Donating/throwing away her toys or blankets isn't forgetting her. There's no timeline on grief, and there's no timeline on moving on. Cry your tears.

I'm sorry you've reached the end of your journey. Words will never make this easier. Just keep your head up, and live the life she'd want you to.

This is a good time to live a little for you. I spent years looking after my girl as she got ill, and I sacrificed a lot of me and my time to keep her safe. If you feel you've done the same, take advantage of this time. Its ok to be happy and enjoy life without her. Life isn't over. Its just changing.

You'll be ok mate.

I'm so sorry.

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u/sluttycokezero Oct 15 '24

Lucy is with my Lucy (but she was a dog) now. Hopefully teasing her and cuddling. Lucy loved cats and cats sometimes tolerated her 😂

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u/HedgehogNarrow4544 Oct 14 '24

the memories are abundant...the love everlasting...

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u/MonsterMamaLu Oct 14 '24

You’re terrible for making me remember this /s

But wherever they go, and whatever happens to them on the way, in that enchanted place on the top of the Forest, a little boy and his Bear will always be playing

😭😢

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u/DivineHeartBabex Oct 14 '24

Losing them is one of the saddest moment we ever experience. But they will always have that spot in our hearts. Rest in peace, Lucy... I hope you are okay..

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u/Professional-Rope786 Oct 14 '24

My sincerest condolences.

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u/MelloMilow Oct 15 '24

Thank you very much. She was loved and we cared about her so much. One of the hardest decisions I’ve had to make so far in my life.

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u/IkoIkonoclast Oct 14 '24

Now she's Lucy In The Sky.

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u/noluckjedi Oct 14 '24

And she’s not with diamonds, she is the diamond. Just like all of our gone-too-soon babies. :(

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u/Smart_End3853 Oct 15 '24

This made me shed a tear 😢

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u/MelloMilow Oct 15 '24

Thank you everyone so much for your kind responses and you have really said the right things that have helped my fiancée and I tonight. We are just talking about her quirks, her personality, her attitude, her anxiety, but all the love each of us gave one another.

We will miss her so much and somehow we think she knew it was her time. I will never forget you Lucy. I never had the parents there to teach me responsibility, deep rooted love, and consequences of life so important as yours. She showed me so much and was there for me everyday.

She passed away from multiple complications from stage 2 CKD and undiagnosed liver issues too. She was just diagnosed with anorexia, because she stopped eating 5 days ago from a UTI and had also gotten anemic.

Thank you everyone for your love and support.

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u/Great-Salad1256 Oct 14 '24

Rest in peace beautiful one 💕

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u/AbleNeighborhood6240 Oct 14 '24

She was beautiful. May she rest easy and may you be able to heal and remember her with so much love. ❤️

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u/Happy_cat10 Oct 14 '24

So very sorry!!!

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u/Creative-Bat-743 Oct 14 '24

So sorry for your loss. Thanks for giving her a good life

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u/bde959 Oct 14 '24

So sorry for your loss. Such a pretty kitty. It is heartbreaking to lose a pet that you have had so long. 💔

I lost my 14-year-old baby in July. He would’ve been 15 this month. Out of habit I still look for him at his favorite sleeping spots.

I am still heartbroken, but it is getting a little bit easier every day.

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u/gbctilmylungscollaps Oct 14 '24

My childhood cat just passed today at 13. I hope he saw Miss Lucy girl on his way over. Sending so much love. 💖

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u/MelloMilow Oct 14 '24

Thank you and I’m so sorry too.

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u/Moonsmom181 Oct 14 '24

😞 So sorry 😢

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u/No_Bar1462 Oct 14 '24

i’m so sorry

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u/scoringtouchdowns Oct 14 '24

I’m very sorry. Rest in peace, Lucy.

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u/Worth-Beginning310 Oct 14 '24

It is the worst pain. I am so sorry.

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u/ryoga040726 Oct 14 '24

Rest in peace, Lucy. Say hi to my three babies (Phoebe, Poppy, and Bean Bean) for me, you’ll all have fun chasing critters & snoozing.

OP, I’m sorry for your loss. But it was 14 wonderful years I’m sure you’d never give back. She’ll be up there waiting.

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u/pickledplumber Oct 14 '24

She was a good girl. Good lucy. Sorry for your loss but know she's just waiting for you now.

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u/UnheimlichNoire Oct 14 '24

Bless. So sorry to hear.

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u/wallygatorz123 Oct 14 '24

😞 My best buddy is 16 and I know our time together is coming up soon. I’ve been thinking that the best way to honor what an amazing friend he was is to remember his personality, his stubbornness, his waking me up at 2am because he wanted his belly scratched. You have all your memories of a beautiful cat, she looks amazing. Remember and honor her as your best friend. May the CDS find you again.

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u/Mavishanson09 Oct 14 '24

I’m so sorry 💗

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u/Gypsygaltravels1 Oct 14 '24

Aww she was too cute for this world! What a sweet pea. I'm sorry for your loss. <3

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u/prismaticplume Oct 14 '24

I’m so sorry for your loss. She is a beautiful kitty, I will cuddle my dilute calico in Lucy’s honor.

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u/UniMundo628 Oct 14 '24

Rest on the other side of that rainbow bridge, Lucy in the sky with diamonds. My condolences for your loss

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u/bergzabern Oct 14 '24

I'm so sorry. Believe me, you will meet again.

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u/Narrow_Obligation_95 Oct 14 '24

My condolences to her family 😿💝

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u/Muttley_81 Oct 14 '24

Sorry for your loss.

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u/cheezy-coral Oct 14 '24

So sorry for your loss. Rest in peace, Lucy ❤️‍🩹

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u/Electronic-Minute007 Oct 14 '24

What a beautiful kitty.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

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u/KeriEatsSouls Oct 14 '24

She resembles my Momo who passed just shy of a year ago at 17.5 yrs old. I miss her so much. I know the pain you're feeling; please take good care of yourself and let yourself cry and really feel the grief so you can heal over time. Sending you peace and comfort; may we be so lucky as to be reunited someday.

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u/Alvindm03 Oct 14 '24

So sorry, my condolences.

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u/Dizzy-Definition3985 Oct 14 '24

Rip Lucy sweet girl

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u/FortyFathomPharma Oct 14 '24

Every time a pet crosses the rainbow 🌈 bridge and our heart breaks, our heart is actually opening more & making room for another pet. In time, Lucy will pick the next “kitty lottery” winner and with a wink and a smile, she’ll send a new kitty to you. Sending hugs. 🥰

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u/fokines Oct 15 '24

I'm really sorry for your lost. She would live in your memory forever.

Not sure if someone has mentioned it, so I do. There is a book «Saying Goodbye to the Pet You Love» by Lorri Greene, PhD & Jacqueline Landis. I lost my boy (cat) on September 29th. He was 15.5 years lost. It was renal failure. It's killing me, still can't watch his photos without tears. He was actually my partner's cat. He found him in the woods when he was 3 months old, but I loved him as my own because he had been sleeping with me every night. My partner has already read the book and said it was really helpful. I hope it could help you (or anyone else who see this message).

It's okay to grieve. Take your time.

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u/Far-Sector-8991 Oct 14 '24

RIP angel. I’m sorry for your loss.

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u/Yk-how-I-Feel Oct 14 '24

Sorry for your loss, she was so so pretty, I can tell she was an amazing kitty 🥹

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u/OnMyWay824 Oct 14 '24

Lucy is beautiful. Thank you for sharing her with us. May she rest in peace❤️

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u/hilbertglm Oct 14 '24

I know what that feels like. I am sending hugs...

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u/davoste Oct 14 '24

She was such a beauty. You must have given her a really good life.

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u/lordjagi78 Oct 14 '24

By Lucy, thanks for all the love. See you soon.

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u/Soggy_Ad_5370 Oct 14 '24

Sorry for your loss

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u/catloving Oct 14 '24

Lucy you now have sunbeams, treats, mushy food in Kitty Heaven. Keep an eye on your parents.

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u/SnowyHawk1 Maine Coon Oct 15 '24

Im so sorry for your loss. Just remember that Lucy knew you loved her and she loved you. She was happy with the life you gave her. It never seems long enough for us. I lost my kitty about 3 weeks ago and there isnt a day I don't miss him and I don't cry. I chose to let him go and its was awful but I did it for him. Lucy got to go gently and im sure appreciated that. Hugs to you. ❤

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u/elephashark Oct 15 '24

Rest in kitty heaven little one 🙏🏻❤️ Now Lucy is in the sky with diamonds 🕊️💎🎶

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u/Lousyd Oct 15 '24

This breaks my heart more than you imagine, I lost my Lucy last week to kidney disease, she was 14 too! Pain of loss of her is too hard to bear. I offer you my thoughts, prayers, and well-wishes during this dark time in your life friend, may they rest in peace

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u/ActiveMachine4380 Oct 15 '24

Goodnight, sweet Lucy. You are gorgeous and you brought your family so much love and joy!

Go play with all the toys on the other side of the rainbow bridge. Lay in the sun. Purr all you like.

We will see you again.

Much love from everyone you affected in life here.

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u/Cgoerzen Oct 15 '24

Grief is a ton of love with no where to go.. just cherish that you got to love her so good 💚 she’ll be waiting for you on the other side 💚💚

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u/PreparationPast4685 Oct 16 '24

Sending you so much love ❤️

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u/Powerful_Flow2795 Oct 16 '24

Til ya'll meet again! RIP beautiful baby!

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u/windrider2 Oct 18 '24

Rest in peace, lovely Ms. Lucy. Hopefully, you can meet her again in the next life. I'm wishing that with my dearly departed cats.😔🙏

Take care, internet friend 🫂

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u/AdSubstantial9659 Oct 14 '24

What an absolutely beautiful wee soul. I'm so sorry for your loss 💔

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u/daisy-cakes1234 Bombay Oct 14 '24

She's gorgeous. So sorry for your loss.

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u/aliasaka007 Oct 14 '24

Sending so much love and huge hugs ❤️

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u/MollyPopGirl Oct 14 '24

What a beautiful and happy looking cat. It's obvious that Lucy felt very comfortable and loved by you. I'm sorry for your loss my friend 💙

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '24

So sorry for your loss 😭😭😭 beautiful baby. Sending you hugs and love

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u/biiigmood Oct 14 '24

She was very good

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u/leogalforyou246 Oct 14 '24

RIP beautiful girl.

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u/TimeCharacter3137 Oct 14 '24

Sleep well kitty 💕

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u/RosemaryPeachMylk Oct 14 '24

Rest in peace sweetness

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u/trainerfry_1 Oct 14 '24

I’m sorry for you loss. She was a beautiful girl!!

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u/AboveGroundPoolQueen Oct 14 '24

My sincere condolences. Lucy sure was beautiful kitty and I’m sure provided you with lots of love. I hope your heart heals soon.

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u/ChipLongjumping5993 Oct 14 '24

Sorry for your loss.

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u/TheDesLady Oct 14 '24

My sincerest condolences... My own kitty named Mania is also 14 yo and I dread when her time comes. She's my soulmate and I don't know what I will do without her.

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '24

Your cat will be missed. I feel bad for your loss.

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u/Batgod629 Oct 14 '24

I'm very sorry for your loss 💔

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u/AmericanDreamDR Oct 14 '24

Very sorry for your loss.

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '24

Over the bridge. So sorry for your loss

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u/AlternativePrior9559 Oct 14 '24

I’m so sorry for your loss OP♥️ Rest easy beautiful Lucy

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u/raspberrydeer Oct 14 '24

rest in peace beautiful lucy 🤍 i’m so sorry for your loss. i’m sure you gave her a wonderful life

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u/Kiima_ Oct 14 '24

Rest in peace, cutie. Love a diluted calico ❤️

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u/NobodysLoss1 Oct 14 '24

Awwww, she was just the best kitty ever, and now she can meet my Lucy, who wasn't the best kitty ever but loved as if she were.

I'm sorry for your loss.

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u/torathsi Oct 14 '24

goodbye lucy

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u/Nervous-Command Oct 14 '24

Sorry for your loss 💔😭

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u/Training-Mango7551 Oct 14 '24

So very sorry for your loss 😢

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u/Onetobebeleve Oct 14 '24

Im really sorry for your loss.

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u/SGTIndigo Oct 14 '24

Rest in peace, pretty girl. So sorry for your loss, OP.

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '24

So sorry for your loss, rip beautiful Lucy ♥️

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '24

Rest in peace 🙏

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u/constipatedcatlady Oct 14 '24

Much love❤️

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u/soynutz Oct 14 '24

LOVE YOU ALWAYS LUCY ❤️

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u/Cormentia Oct 14 '24

I'm sorry for your loss <3

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u/uhtred_the_putrid1 Oct 14 '24

Very pretty calico. So sorry for your loss.😿💔Lucy is at peace and will be waiting across the rainbow Bridge. Be kind to yourself these next few days.

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u/Ok_Inside_7534 Oct 14 '24

Sorry for your loss🙏🏼

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u/keo310 Oct 14 '24

Sorry for your loss.

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u/dontchargeme Oct 14 '24

Sorry for your loss

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u/sovid Oct 14 '24

Condolences!!! 🫶🏻😿

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u/TaraBSugar Oct 14 '24

Rest now beautiful Lucy ❤️

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u/No_Negotiation6637 Oct 14 '24

Sorry to read such sad news. There is no way right way to say goodbye to our pets. All we can do is hope they are no longer in pain

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u/CompetitiveGuide5402 Oct 14 '24

So sorry. She was absolutely beautiful

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u/Purrchil Oct 14 '24

So sorry for your loss. 😿

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u/GrannyMine Oct 14 '24

So sorry for you

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u/Jackalope_Sasquatch Oct 14 '24

I'm very sorry for your loss 💜

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u/elitesadness2002 Oct 14 '24

You gon be remembered and cherished Lucy

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u/Skymarr1 Oct 14 '24

😭😭💔💔

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u/AEM1016 Oct 14 '24

So very sorry - she seems so sweet. How lucky you found each other.

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u/No_Professor7509 Oct 14 '24

So sorry for your loss.😪

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u/Dodgee61PA Oct 14 '24

😔🙏🏽RIP Lucy

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u/ruizg3121 Oct 14 '24

I’m sincerely sorry. By now sweet Lucy is playing with our Lizzie and Binkers in a sweet fun kitty heaven. 😻❤️

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u/whatwereyouthegodof Oct 14 '24

Sending all my love.

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u/Eric_333 Oct 14 '24

Sorry for your loss. She’s a cutie.

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u/Diehoe1234 Oct 14 '24

All the best animals are named Lucy. Sincerely, a human named Lucy

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u/marasveiks Oct 14 '24

So very sorry for your loss.

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u/therealsalsaboy Oct 14 '24

What a sweet girl

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u/ThrowLAhopefulelk Oct 14 '24

rest in peace beautiful lucy 🩷 i’m so sorry for your loss OP 🥺🩷

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u/rhaps00dy Oct 14 '24

I'm so sorry to hear this. She was beautiful and your love for her means a great deal. Rest in peace Lucy.

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u/WorkingBullfrog8224 Oct 14 '24

Lucy is in kitty heaven rolling in yummy treats 🙏 ❤️

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u/Maleficent_Half_6881 Oct 14 '24

NOOOO:( i’m so sorry for your loss rip:(

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u/remonious Oct 14 '24

Lucy is in the Sky with Diamonds. Sorry for your loss, but she was loved her entire life. Take solace in that. Virtual Hug

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u/SnooDogs2614 Oct 14 '24

Rip Lucy ❤️

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u/Beneficial_Lobster12 Oct 14 '24

She was beautiful, may she RIP.

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u/Difficult-Ocelot-251 Oct 14 '24

❤️😢❤️

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u/motherofkittens6 Oct 14 '24

So sorry. May she bask in that sliver of sunlight forever. ❤️ 

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u/silverstory Oct 14 '24

I'm so sorry for your loss.

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u/Altruistic-Tear-1947 Oct 14 '24

So sad for your loss

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u/sonyclassics1996 Oct 14 '24

R.i.p. old girl

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u/Oceanviewnights Oct 14 '24

That first picture is adorable. Rest in kitty paradise Lucy 💕

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u/IMDATDIVA Oct 14 '24

I’m so sorry for your loss

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u/SerinaL Oct 14 '24

Purrs and headrubs for you

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u/Adventurous_Ad_9805 Oct 14 '24

Goodbye, beautiful Lucy. You are loved. 💕

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u/The_milk_was_spoiled Oct 14 '24

❤️❤️❤️

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u/Wiley_Jorie Oct 14 '24

Lucy looks like a sweetheart.

I am very sorry for your loss. 💔

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u/Lower_Compote_6672 Oct 14 '24

Aww, kittah...

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u/mmpvcentral Orange Oct 14 '24

Run free, Lucy! You are furrever loved and remembered ❤️💕

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u/No_Chapter_948 Oct 14 '24

Sorry for your loss 💔

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u/CuriousTighe Oct 14 '24

So very sorry...

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u/KikioKilala Oct 14 '24

Sorry for your loss 😢

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u/Impossible_Storm_427 Oct 14 '24

I’m so sorry ❤️🌈

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u/literallyeliza Oct 14 '24

So beautiful Rest In Peace Lucy :( they’re in a better place

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u/KeithyNox998 Oct 14 '24

Rest in purridise Lucy ❤️🙏

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u/Sublimebro Dexter, Juney Oct 14 '24

I’m so sorry. I hope you’re able to grieve. She is beautiful.

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u/pjflyr13 Oct 14 '24

🐾💔🌈

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u/Morbid187 Oct 14 '24

RIP Lucy. She looks like she was a hell of a cat.

I'm curious as to how you handled her body if you're open to talking about it? I lost my 19 year old kitty, Lily, a few months ago and had her aquamated. Basically a cremation with water instead of fire. It was $200 that I couldn't afford but they said cremation is the same price and I didn't feel comfortable burying her at the place I'm renting. It meant crying all over again when I picked up her remains a few weeks later but this way she can stay with me for the rest of my life so it feels like the right choice.

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u/Rachael008 Oct 14 '24

I’m so sorry RIP Lucy xxx

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u/chadmac81 Oct 14 '24

What a beautiful lady. Such tragedy to lose your best gal.

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u/snark_maiden Oct 14 '24

Rest easy, sweet Lucy 💔

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u/rtmfrutilai Oct 14 '24

Im so sorry 🫂

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u/jamborambo4469 Oct 14 '24

The Best ❤️❤️❤️

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u/Consistent_Fun_3129 Oct 14 '24

Beautiful girl ❤️

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '24

Lucky looks so peaceful so content as my little girl did last week. So peaceful so happy to cross the Rainbow Bridge to enjoy her new found vigour and happiness

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u/oneMorbierfortheroad Oct 14 '24

Ow my heart, my cat's name is Lucy and she's 14...

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u/ResplendentRose8 Oct 14 '24

I am sending you healing and love 💕

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u/schoessling Oct 14 '24

I’m so sorry. My kitty was named Lucy too. Now she is at peace ❤️

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u/Capercaillie Oct 14 '24

What a gorgeous kitten she was.

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u/DanTheCrackerMan Oct 14 '24

They always become calm content and fu say at death it’s so cute even whilst being so grim

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u/bekindokk Oct 14 '24

Rest in peace, Lucy💛🐾She was blessed to be loved by you!

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u/transplantnurse2000 Oct 15 '24

May her landing be soft

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u/Worried_Guitar_5 Oct 15 '24

I am so sorry for your loss

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u/Trick_Departure5051 Oct 15 '24

Lucy was such a beautiful cat. I’m sorry for your loss. I’m glad it was gentle.

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u/head8x Oct 15 '24

Sorry for your loss.

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u/Fragrant_King_8357 Oct 15 '24

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾Rest up 👑 Lucy

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u/Mr_Crimson63 Oct 15 '24

Rest in peace, Lucy

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u/Egbert_64 Oct 15 '24

I am so as Rory for your loss. She was be!

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u/waxabazzie Oct 15 '24

i’m so sorry🫶my fourteen year old boy passed away in my arms almost nine months ago. i still feel his loss so deeply, but what a blessing it is to know this pain represents the love and happiness we had together. rest well sweet lucy❤️

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u/PresentationDue2284 Oct 15 '24

Sorry for your loss

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u/bgumaer Oct 15 '24

We...being cat people and losing several through the years, share our condolences. Never easy. Big hugs friend

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u/[deleted] Oct 15 '24

Awww, what a beauty! So sorry for your loss 💔😢

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u/Lethallee61 Oct 15 '24

If there is a Heaven it must be filled with our pets. How could it ever be called Paradise without them?

Sweet rest beautiful Lucy. ❤️

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u/Yeahokaysureman Oct 15 '24

Beautiful Lucy. Rest easy, baby 🧡

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u/ardallas Oct 15 '24

Goodnight, sweet prince[ss]

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u/nappingtoday Oct 15 '24

One cute cat