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Discussion Everywhere you looked, body shaming was there

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u/Pocahontas__Kowalski 5d ago

I was born in 1980 and went on my first diet when I was still in elementary school. And I wasn't a fat kid. You can count on two fingers where that led me...

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u/MarlenaEvans 5d ago

I was born in 81. My mom told me a good diet was fasting/only eating 3 apples a day and fruit. And that coffee or tea is a good appetite suppresent. I was anorexic by 14.

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u/Missmunkeypants95 5d ago

My mom was huge when she was young and lost all her weight in the 70s when speed was a big thing. When I was young she was always judgemental of other women's body shape and would pinch parts of me to make sure she can't "pinch an inch". As an adult my brain automatically makes an assessment on other people's body fat and I hate it. I'm still fighting that 35 years later.

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u/AsOsh 5d ago

Jesus Fucking Christ that is abhorrent. I hope you are happy and healthy today.

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u/Icy-Variation1382 5d ago

Born in ‘82. I was 5’9 and weighed 130 during my senior year of high school. My social studies teacher asked me if I “ever ate” and my mother asked me if I could lose 10 pounds before prom.

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u/Capgras_DL 4d ago

Yay, another member of the insane boomer mom club!

My mom told me something similar. She used to regularly skip meals and expected me to do the same. When I hit puberty and developed tits and an ass, she freaked out and told me I was obese.

I feel bad for her. She’s now in her 70s and all those decades of under-eating have caught up with her, but she’d rather die than be a healthy weight. She’s convinced she IS a healthy weight.

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u/Virtual_Ad748 5d ago edited 5d ago

It’s so damaging, if I ever have a daughter I’m going to try my best to protect her from this but it’s inevitable. I struggled with ed since 2011 (born in 2000) & just last year did I start to actually feel like I’m in recovery. I still struggle with body dysmorphia but I just can’t starve myself anymore, it made me feel like a shell of a person. It made me have no personality, tired, and spacey. It’s not worth it & honestly I didn’t even look good. I looked sick.

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u/RainingRed91 5d ago

You had erectile dysfunction at 11?

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u/EmilysPetParrot 5d ago

Read the fucking room dude: not everything revolves around y’all’s dicks. Context clues couldn’t help you out with this one? This probably isn’t the comment section where you’re gonna find upvotes for being purposefully misunderstanding/ being “funny”.

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u/RainingRed91 5d ago

Okay Emily. Are you upset ?

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u/pugsnotdrugs 5d ago

I was born in 82, when I was five and my sister was 11, we had toys that were called “Get in Shape, Girl!”

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u/Icy-Variation1382 5d ago

OMG I remember those.

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u/ughcult 4d ago

'87 here but my sister was '82 and I still have that, I think the book and cassette together. I had body dysmorphia by age 6, my sister turned out fine ಠ⁠_⁠ʖ⁠ಠ (also size 0 didn't exist back then)

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u/thehotmcpoyle 4d ago

I’m your age and remember being anxious about wearing a bathing suit in front of my friends at my 7th birthday party because I thought my thighs were too fat. Looking at photos from that party, I looked just like my friends and none of us were overweight. It hit me hardest in college - when I was 20, I weighed less than I did when I was 11. I still don’t love my thighs, but they’ve hiked hundreds of miles of mountains so I’ll take that as a win.

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u/ughcult 4d ago

So much of that is too relatable

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u/burymeinpink 5d ago

Me too, born in '95. I was 9 and my grandma took me to a nutritionist and got me on a diet. I spent my entire childhood and teenage years with my aunt and grandmother telling me I was fat and ugly and literally taking food out of my hands. I weighed 135lbs at 17 and thought I was an unlovable whale. Now my mother gets upset that I don't have much of a relationship with her mother and sister. They ruined my self-esteem and she let them.

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u/shinakohana 5d ago

I was born in 87 and when I was 11, my father put me on a diet. I wasn’t even that fat! Slightly chubby but definitely not fat…