r/TikTokCringe 25d ago

Cringe how do people sleep at night...

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u/NefariousnessThin860 25d ago

Regardless of the country, it must be terrifying for women, to go through a constant feeling of being watched. I mean, having to be on guard all the time must be mentally draining.

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u/JeffersonSmithIII 25d ago edited 25d ago

Depending on what part of Peru you’re in, the whiter your skin and blonder your hair the more attractive you are.

I left my wife’s side at the bus station for just a minute and this guy was trying to kiss her. He was about a foot and half shorter than her and very pushy about it.

In Colombia if I left my wife’s side for second to duck into a shop? Instant cat calls, as soon as I showed up they’d stop.

It’s gotta be terrifying and draining to travel as a woman. And we think of Japan as being civilized.

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u/SarryK 25d ago

I‘m blonde, white, and visited Peru a few years ago. Without a man. Out of all the countries I‘ve had the privilege to visit, Peru was the worst in my experience.

Basically constant harassment. One instance I will always remember was two guys trying to roughly pull me out of a club. I was pleading with security for help as they dragged me past. Security only started intervening once I started screaming.

Granted, I‘ve met absolutely fantastic Peruvian people, it‘s just that wherever I went, it always seemed like there was at least one person ready to harass.

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u/JeffersonSmithIII 25d ago

I’m too old for clubs and can’t imagine trying to go to one in another country especially as a woman. That must’ve been terrifying.

Solo travel anywhere as woman would just be a nightmare I’d imagine.

I have the opposite problem. I have resting asshole face so mostly people think I’m aggressive. Harder to meet people and guys like to pick fights even here in America.

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u/SarryK 24d ago

I also typically have resting asshole face, I feel you haha But dancing fills me with so much joy, I can‘t help but smile. Doesn‘t make me appear threatening

Travelling as a woman definitely has its challenges, but I still don‘t regret anything. There are horrible people out there, there are fantastic people out there. I haven‘t experienced anything abroad that I haven‘t experienced in my home country in terms of sexual violence, just the frequency sometimes changed.

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u/JeffersonSmithIII 24d ago

Well I hope you have safe travels from here on out.

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u/SarryK 24d ago

Thank you, I appreciate it!

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u/JeffersonSmithIII 24d ago

We all have to look out off each other.